How far is too far?

ODiE · 06-18-2009, 06:59 AM

So I recently "encountered" a girl that was a bit of a freak. She liked me putting my hands around her neck (not really choking exactly), slapping her in the face, basically throwin' her around. At one point she said "stop" so I stopped, and she said "you don't actually have to stop when I say that". Very confusing; fun none-the-less. I mean I have to admit is was TOTALLY different from what I was used to. All the girls I've been with in the past have been all squishy and romantic and had weird quirks like "don't touch my face". It was fun to just get down to business and be the aggressor instead of taking a bunch of time trying to "woo" the lady. (I think if there is a next time we should establish a "safety" word for if she ACTUALLY wants me to stop.... I can only imagine how hilarious that would be "stop.... STOP...... STOP!!!!!....... BANANAS!!!!!!!!!!!"

Where do you draw the line?

I'm pretty lenient and like to experiment so my line is drawn when there's blood involved. A long time ago a girl I was with asked me to cut her. Don't think I'm down for mutilation but pretty much anything short of that I'm usually down to try.

Panther · 06-18-2009, 02:24 PM

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Originally Posted by ODiE

So I recently "encountered" a girl that was a bit of a freak. She liked me putting my hands around her neck (not really choking exactly), slapping her in the face, basically throwin' her around. At one point she said "stop" so I stopped, and she said "you don't actually have to stop when I say that". Very confusing; fun none-the-less. I mean I have to admit is was TOTALLY different from what I was used to. All the girls I've been with in the past have been all squishy and romantic and had weird quirks like "don't touch my face". It was fun to just get down to business and be the aggressor instead of taking a bunch of time trying to "woo" the lady. (I think if there is a next time we should establish a "safety" word for if she ACTUALLY wants me to stop.... I can only imagine how hilarious that would be "stop.... STOP...... STOP!!!!!....... BANANAS!!!!!!!!!!!"

Where do you draw the line?

I'm pretty lenient and like to experiment so my line is drawn when there's blood involved. A long time ago a girl I was with asked me to cut her. Don't think I'm down for mutilation but pretty much anything short of that I'm usually down to try.

Hmmm, curious that nobody has replied to this yet..
So, im gonna put in my 2 cents.
Im willing to try anything once. If I dont like it, well then I guess thats where the line is drawn.
The older I get, the more exciting things can be. So far, havent encountered anythin I dont like.

Miss Annette · 06-18-2009, 06:47 PM

I always thought that I would be willing to try pretty much anything once....I like to experiment and I like to know that I am pleasing the guy I am with and fulfilling his fantasies. However, I do have lines when it comes to hitting....

Plummy · 06-18-2009, 07:22 PM

once i'm comfortable in bed, then anything's game.

it's just waiting for that approximate six month period to come around that i do get comfortable with myself in front of him that can cause some problems.

except bare fingers in the butt. either person. that's just unsanitary. sorry. the last thing i need is the smell of poo on my finger reminding me of three nights ago.

Miss Annette · 06-18-2009, 07:49 PM

LMAO!!!! Ur funny!!!!

MrsD · 06-19-2009, 04:34 AM

I'm not into what was described, reminds me of my first marriage except I wasn't asking to be hit. I do however think if both parties are willing then what ever happens behind closed doors is fine. But you do need to trust your partner and you do need a stop line in the heat of passion things can get out of hand. By trust I mean I know someone who was with a girl who wanted the physical punishment kind of sex. Only to go to the police the next day bruised and battered and call rape. She had found out he was going to break it off with her and that was her revenge. Cutters thats a whole different scenario sometimes when they can't or feel guilty cutting themselves. They ask someone to do the cutting. It usually ends up with a plea for sympathy and attention. Be careful who you play with.

TeashaMae · 06-19-2009, 07:06 AM

Yeah...I'm all for trying anything really. I have, however, realized from experience, not really into the choking, asphyxiation thing...that freaked me out.

But like MrsD says, you've got to have trust. And a safe word is a great thing as well...mine was Speghetti, so effing funny

ODiE · 06-21-2009, 06:54 PM

Bananas!!

Washingtonblonde · 06-22-2009, 09:40 AM

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Originally Posted by MrsD

... I do however think if both parties are willing then what ever happens behind closed doors is fine. But you do need to trust your partner...

Well said. Some people know what they want right out of the gates.. some people develop together. Maybe there's something out there you'd like but just not know it yet. I think being comfortable with your partner plays a HUGE role in it.

dizzle · 06-23-2009, 01:51 PM

it just sucks when you come across someone that fulfills every fantasy that you've ever had .. then you're out of fantasy's to fantasize about.

i draw the line at hitting/cutting .. everything else, i'll try it at least 5 times. If i haven't already...

Bikenut · 06-23-2009, 04:03 PM

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Originally Posted by Plummy

once I'm comfortable in bed, then anything's game.

except bare fingers in the butt. either person. that's just unsanitary. sorry. the last thing i need is the smell of poo on my finger reminding me of three nights ago.

aww shit, there went my first glass of wine of the evening

I'm tri-sexual, I'll try anything except that ^ although I probably have in some drunken stupor 30 years ago and thanks to selective memory have forgotten the incident.

In most cases it does take a level of trust. You don't want to try something new and have the other person jump out of bed screaming 'freak'. I can see aggressive sex, it's a dominance thing, not that I would know

cityxslicker · 07-11-2009, 10:23 AM

If it gets videod, put up on the interwebs and you loose your job for it..... that was probably too far.

06-18-2009, 06:59 AM	#1
ODiE I am naked... Right now. I'm a Gentleman Living in Issaquah, WA	How far is too far? So I recently "encountered" a girl that was a bit of a freak. She liked me putting my hands around her neck (not really choking exactly), slapping her in the face, basically throwin' her around. At one point she said "stop" so I stopped, and she said "you don't actually have to stop when I say that". Very confusing; fun none-the-less. I mean I have to admit is was TOTALLY different from what I was used to. All the girls I've been with in the past have been all squishy and romantic and had weird quirks like "don't touch my face". It was fun to just get down to business and be the aggressor instead of taking a bunch of time trying to "woo" the lady. (I think if there is a next time we should establish a "safety" word for if she ACTUALLY wants me to stop.... I can only imagine how hilarious that would be "stop.... STOP...... STOP!!!!!....... BANANAS!!!!!!!!!!!" Where do you draw the line? I'm pretty lenient and like to experiment so my line is drawn when there's blood involved. A long time ago a girl I was with asked me to cut her. Don't think I'm down for mutilation but pretty much anything short of that I'm usually down to try.

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06-18-2009, 06:47 PM	#3
Miss Annette Sarah's little mermaid I'm a Lady Living in Lacey, WA	I always thought that I would be willing to try pretty much anything once....I like to experiment and I like to know that I am pleasing the guy I am with and fulfilling his fantasies. However, I do have lines when it comes to hitting....

06-18-2009, 07:22 PM	#4
Plummy pees standing up I'm a Chicky-poo Living in a hole	once i'm comfortable in bed, then anything's game. it's just waiting for that approximate six month period to come around that i do get comfortable with myself in front of him that can cause some problems. except bare fingers in the butt. either person. that's just unsanitary. sorry. the last thing i need is the smell of poo on my finger reminding me of three nights ago.

06-18-2009, 07:49 PM	#5
Miss Annette Sarah's little mermaid I'm a Lady Living in Lacey, WA	LMAO!!!! Ur funny!!!!

06-19-2009, 04:34 AM	#6
MrsD Married and then some. I'm a Female Living in Crazytown Looking for Conversation Humor is Goofy Have a Unique fashion style Blog Entries: 5	I'm not into what was described, reminds me of my first marriage except I wasn't asking to be hit. I do however think if both parties are willing then what ever happens behind closed doors is fine. But you do need to trust your partner and you do need a stop line in the heat of passion things can get out of hand. By trust I mean I know someone who was with a girl who wanted the physical punishment kind of sex. Only to go to the police the next day bruised and battered and call rape. She had found out he was going to break it off with her and that was her revenge. Cutters thats a whole different scenario sometimes when they can't or feel guilty cutting themselves. They ask someone to do the cutting. It usually ends up with a plea for sympathy and attention. Be careful who you play with.

06-19-2009, 07:06 AM	#7
TeashaMae ~Messy Baby~ I'm a Chicky-poo Living in my own reality....	Yeah...I'm all for trying anything really. I have, however, realized from experience, not really into the choking, asphyxiation thing...that freaked me out. But like MrsD says, you've got to have trust. And a safe word is a great thing as well...mine was Speghetti, so effing funny

06-21-2009, 06:54 PM	#8
ODiE I am naked... Right now. I'm a Gentleman Living in Issaquah, WA	Bananas!!

06-23-2009, 01:51 PM	#10
dizzle Surprize! I'm a Dude Living in Newcastle Looking for Networking Interested in Women Humor is Clever/Quick-witted Have a Trendy fashion style	it just sucks when you come across someone that fulfills every fantasy that you've ever had .. then you're out of fantasy's to fantasize about. i draw the line at hitting/cutting .. everything else, i'll try it at least 5 times. If i haven't already...

07-11-2009, 10:23 AM	#12
cityxslicker PNW Love Member I'm a Dude Living in Sequim - Yeah, Baby! Blog Entries: 3	If it gets videod, put up on the interwebs and you loose your job for it..... that was probably too far.