Rockerchic

have ya done it by choice...ever? for how long? what did u discover along the way? Religious or personal or bet?

Anyway, I guess you could say I took on a "challenge". Had a long discussion about my relationships with men and why i feel the way i do about them (sorry, yes i'm a man hater"). It was also with a pastor (the discussion that is) and so i guess part of it does have a bit of religious backing. Anyways, just looking for some other perspectives on it...

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Washingtonblonde

Hmmm. Not in my adult life really.. Although I do like to wait until I know there is a strong connection other than just a physical one.

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Plummy

not by choice, no.

unless you count me not having sex until i was 18. but that's cause i wasn't with anyone i wanted to be my first.

MrsD

Yes..by choice...for about a year. I discovered that I didn't need a man No just kidding .. I found out that sex was not something to be taken lightly or misused by either party. I found out married or not that NO means NO and that even though sex is an important part of a relationship its not the most important part. When one party thinks it is... someone is being used thats what I found out. It was personal and it became spiritual. RC I've been down the man hater road for different reasons other than yours but a hater just the same. The only one I hurt was myself. Good Luck on your journey I think you will be amazed at what you discover about you

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Bikenut

I assume you mean by personal choice. Me, never. But I have had my dry spells cuz I wasn't willing to go with some sleeze bag just for the sake of sex. I guess that was a personal choice too. But it certainly wasn't intential

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dizzle

40 days 40 night

no sex, touching, kissing, licking, fondling, or masturbating.

by choice, just to see if i could do it.

Worst 40 days and 40 nights of my fucking life.

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Rockerchic

well i'm not about to give up touching myself-

haha, but yeah, no other form of "pleasure" from a boy for now.

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Plummy

the thing i hate is when i hit the magical three months of not being touched by a guy, that's when i start getting desperate. once i can get past wanting to hump anything with a penis, then i go into a dormant stage where i just don't care if i never had sex again.

just an fyi. haven't heard of anyone else ever experiencing that, so i could be completely alone on that.

MrsD

Nope your not alone on that, checked with my daughter who hasn't been able to have sex for 7months because of her high risk pregnancy. She said yes it drove her crazy for the first 3 months after that she had no interest what so ever. Which has ended up badly for her husband but we don't feel sorry for him at the moment

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Maggie Malloy

on self imposed abstinence month 6 as we speak......................................

Rockerchic

wow...and do you find it easy or hard? rewarding? over rated? more thoughts please

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Washingtonblonde

^^Yes.. and when does it end???

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Panther

Im gonna start collecting donations for ya Maggs. How much was the bet?
Im sure we can collect more than it was.

Maggie Malloy

hard at first.. (no puns thanks k bye)


But to be quite honest, it's the best thing I've ever done. It allowed us to get to know each other really, without lust distorting the perception of things.

Its also allowed me to find intimacy in the small things again. A hand held, a long hug, a long kiss.

Not sure if its for everyone. But its what I felt I needed to do and lucky enough found a man who was willing to put up with it.

Mikercw

^^
Crazy how not putting out on the second date will do that... Show you what a guy really wants out of you... instead of sex

Use crazy guys are like that

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jjoker

Allow me to disagree, I think it shows that a guy wants more than just sex. And is willing to wait and see what more there is - before he humps you into submission.

Which is fine, and removes the whole - hit & run or hit it & quit it approach.

But just because the guy is not having sex in the begining stage of the relationship, doesn't me he doesn't beat meat at home. I mean we're just not built for prolonged abstinence - IMO. And one could argue, that if afer a certain amount of time in relationship (could be month, could be 6 - but there is a fine line) a girl doesn't open up to sexual contact, a guy will just find it somewhere else.

Mikercw

^^ Fine and all not going to disagree...

But my comment was directed towards Maggie on a more personal level than anything


Edit: WTF is with the title " Spank you`re it'? um creepy

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Rockerchic

jjoker IS creepy... hehee

that's why i hang out with him

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Washingtonblonde

^^This explains SO much!

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Rockerchic

actually that's a lie- he's a good cook and drinks a fine wine...

and just happens to be funny as fuck

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Mikercw

That does explain a lot.... damn

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Maggie Malloy

6 months is over..

Plummy

this.

it's where i think intimacy lies. i've had one or two people that have been just a toy in bed, and those are the ones i want out of my bed as soon as we're done and out the door.

when in an actual relationship, holding his hand, falling asleep on his arm/chest/lap/etc, watching a movie cuddled under a blanket, hell even text messages to each other holds so much more value than five minutes of rolling around in the sheets. and once you've created that intimacy between the two of you, the sex is a thousand times better than had you slept with them on the first date.

glad you got the experience of it.

now that the six months is over, go wear him out.

Mikercw

Nathan is going to get some pussy finally.....???


GO NATHAN
Lucky guy.... your going to be tighter than a virgin

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Washingtonblonde

Couldn't agree with you more Plummy.

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Mikercw

Again... your up at 4:24am??? wtf?

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cityxslicker

did it Freshman year of college because I was being faithful to a long standing relationship that was now long distance ..... funny her idea of abstinence and mine werent the same thing. Hers was I will sleep with every guy I want except you, mine was I wont sleep with any other girls but you.... either way, I wasnt getting any. Never again.

Actually it was her idea of monogamy that perpetuated my abstinence.

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