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Old 11-14-2008, 02:27 PM   #1
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kicking them out of bed

so you've done the deed, both happy as clams...and you want the other one out of your bed and to go home. no cuddling. no "talking". just gtfo and leave me alone.

i hate having to do it, and i've never developed a good method for making them go away without trying to start to get all emotional on me or trying to get me to go hang out with them the next day, yadda yadda yadda. i just needed sex. i wanted your penis. i got it. and now i'm done with it. so why won't you go hoooooommmmeee?!?

advice?
 
Old 11-14-2008, 02:28 PM   #2
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You are a strange one missy.. Every experience you've had seems to be bad.. and then you just want to use them and toss them? We need to work on you!!!

Sorry.. but if I don't get to stay in bed.. I'm not coming in the first place!!!
 
Old 11-14-2008, 02:30 PM   #3
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yeah really, guys get sleepy!
 
Old 11-14-2008, 02:33 PM   #4
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Just tell em to gtfo, but I'd probably let them know my intentions from the start.....or sexytime at their place, deed is done, get up, "oh, yeah, time for me to go" and out you go...but that's just me.

Last edited by TeashaMae; 11-14-2008 at 02:43 PM. Reason: stupid spelling...
 
Old 11-14-2008, 02:40 PM   #5
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^^ true true.. I say do the deed at his place so you can leave when you want to. Plus then you don't have to worry about them knowing where you live if you only want a one time adventure.
 
Old 11-14-2008, 02:45 PM   #6
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You are a strange one missy.. Every experience you've had seems to be bad.. and then you just want to use them and toss them? We need to work on you!!!

Sorry.. but if I don't get to stay in bed.. I'm not coming in the first place!!!
this one was just a bed buddy. and he had a girlfriend, which i'm not proud of but the sex was good and he's no longer with her anyway, so it doesn't really matter now. but...while he KNEW it was just sex...i dunno. i can disconnect sex and emotions pretty easy. if i don't have feelings for you, i really don't want to share my bed. if i do, okay, you can stick around a bit. unless you stink. then you're not sleeping anywhere at my place.

and doing it at his place was out of the question for reasons stated above. thinking back, he may have been more into it then i thought cause he did do a bit more traveling to me than i would have expected. hmmm...
 
Old 11-14-2008, 03:35 PM   #7
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that's why you go to their place. I have an awesome roll over and out of bed that puts me immediately on my feet...grab the clothes and put on only whats necessary and then hit the door runnin in barefeet. Don't look back either. I never answer the next text from em either....
 
Old 11-14-2008, 03:38 PM   #8
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that's why you go to their place. I have an awesome roll over and out of bed that puts me immediately on my feet...grab the clothes and put on only whats necessary and then hit the door runnin in barefeet. Don't look back either. I never answer the next text from em either....
And make sure you got all your shit...LOL
 
Old 11-14-2008, 03:39 PM   #9
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I never intend on staying unless the girl tells me from the start "your gonna stay right?" If I don't get that, then I'm planning on taking off when the deed is done. Maybe hanging around a little and then leaving, but I have no intentions of staying. I always leave it up to the girl cause I have someplace else I can sleep so it's not a big deal to me.
 
Old 11-14-2008, 04:36 PM   #10
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so you've done the deed, both happy as clams...and you want the other one out of your bed and to go home. no cuddling. no "talking". just gtfo and leave me alone.

i hate having to do it, and i've never developed a good method for making them go away without trying to start to get all emotional on me or trying to get me to go hang out with them the next day, yadda yadda yadda. i just needed sex. i wanted your penis. i got it. and now i'm done with it. so why won't you go hoooooommmmeee?!?
advice?

looks to me you pretty much answered your own question.
 
Old 11-14-2008, 04:47 PM   #11
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looks to me you pretty much answered your own question.
true that!
 
Old 11-14-2008, 05:35 PM   #12
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looks to me you pretty much answered your own question.
huh?

how? i'm trying to get the guy to go home. i don't want him lingering around trying to cuddle or talk or any other post-coitial garbage that's reserved for someone that i might want to be involved with. but that's what HE wants to do. and he just won't leave.
 
Old 11-14-2008, 05:37 PM   #13
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So just straight up tell him? As long as he knows the rules ahead of time, what's the big deal?

Sounds like he didn't and that's there the problem is.
 
Old 11-14-2008, 06:02 PM   #14
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So just straight up tell him? As long as he knows the rules ahead of time, what's the big deal?

Sounds like he didn't and that's there the problem is.
well, i suppose that's what i'm stuck on. it was SUPPOSE to be just sex. but then he gets all emo on me and i'm left with this wtf-ness and i have no idea what to do and i don't want to be mean or anything. i hate being mean.
 
Old 11-14-2008, 06:04 PM   #15
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well, i suppose that's what i'm stuck on. it was SUPPOSE to be just sex. but then he gets all emo on me and i'm left with this wtf-ness and i have no idea what to do and i don't want to be mean or anything. i hate being mean.
Sounds like it's time to break it off.

From what I hear, these things generally end up with someone getting attached.
 
Old 11-14-2008, 06:08 PM   #16
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that was the best part of it. he was leaving for service, so that's where it had been established that it was just boinking buddies. but, for whatever reason, he got weird. and then i got weird. and almost three years later, he's recently interested again. and i'm not. even if the sex was really good. cause i had better since then.

le sigh.
 
Old 11-14-2008, 06:09 PM   #17
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So if you're both weird, then what's the deal?

You're contradicting yourself here.
 
Old 11-14-2008, 06:17 PM   #18
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it's when other people get weird that i start getting weird. like, i don't look at someone and see a relationship potential. because i've always been one of the guys and the likelihood i'd ever sleep with one of them is about 1:3000 and i learned to just supress any kind of feelings or crush. and when we do end up bumping uglies, i still keep that disconnect because it is typically unemotional.

unless he decides to make it emotional and on a deeper level. then i take a step back and start evaluating what's going on and really start to think about things because they are wanting more than just sex. THAT'S when i get weird. because i'm now considering something beyond a physical relationship with them.

i don't open up to people emotionally at all. the last boy had me pinned down in his bed during one of my stupid crying spells insisting i tell him what was making me so upset. totally changed how i viewed him at that point since he actually gave a crap about how i was feeling about a particular subject.
 
Old 11-14-2008, 06:50 PM   #19
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the last boy had me pinned down in his bed during one of my stupid crying spells insisting i tell him what was making me so upset. totally changed how i viewed him at that point since he actually gave a crap about how i was feeling about a particular subject.
Have you ever stopped to think about what those crying spells were really about?

This is going to sound like a bunch of BS psychology, but seriously... it's probably your subconscious lashing out and you actively trying to deny yourself any sort of feelings.

Trust me... that never works...
 
Old 11-14-2008, 08:36 PM   #20
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i became emo after a certain life experience that still puts me into a horrible mess any time i think about it. which was kind of the topic when i was pinned down anyway. when i was being asked was when i was still guarded with him. it took me a looooooooooong time (read: four months at least) to learn to open up and let him in. then he broke up with me six weeks later.

disclaimer: looking at horses in a field will make me cry. something about some place i've lived that's on tv will make me cry. being annoyed and frustrated will make me cry. it's been like that for the last eight years and i'm sooooooooooooo tired of it especially since before the thing i mentioned happened, i never cried. ever. and here i am. a blubbering wallaboo.
 
Old 11-15-2008, 09:29 AM   #21
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Hey Plummy, you're normal. Most of us have certain emotional rough edges that keep cropping up. So don't beat yourself up. Your emotional soft spot and crying in the last 8 years, I think, is trying to wake you up and tell you something. Rather than be fearful of these exhausting emotions, or beat yourself up over them, try to be really kind with yourself and understand what these emotions are trying to teach. With a better understanding, you will be able to reduce their effect on you over time.
 
Old 11-15-2008, 10:35 AM   #22
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to doing it at there place.

You could always pull the, "oh shit, i gotta be somewhere even though it's 3am in the morning" move. Make em get dressed, walk em outside, do whatever, then hop in your car and wait for them to leave.

then get out of your car and go back to bed.
 
Old 11-15-2008, 03:33 PM   #23
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just be honest and upfront. if you dont want them spending the entire night just TELL them. they are hoping for more because you are not being direct enough and setting your boundaries in a clear enough manner. if you're not willing to be this direct then don't plan on having sex at your place. either go to his or find a room so that it makes it easier for you to make an exit.
 
Old 11-15-2008, 03:40 PM   #24
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just be honest and upfront.
That should be done with everything.
 
Old 07-11-2009, 10:59 AM   #25
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