Driftertank

I've got one. Not the one everybody always worries about. I take too long.

I used to be rather proud of the ability to literally go all night long.

These days, though, I just don't "get it" as much as I used to, and I'm a bit out of shape for such activity. There's nothing sexier than getting a friggin' back cramp in the middle of coitus, am I right?

If I'm good and worked up, the deed can sometimes get done inside of 15 minutes. However, more and more often, if i DON'T get it done in the first quarter, my QB seems to decide to forfeit the game, so to speak.

Am I just getting too old (at 27) to get it done right? You reckon I'm just bored? I'm trying this monogamy thing again, and not really likin it, but I think I done run off the rest of my "Friends," so...well, there's that. My job isn't exactly babe central, I don't go out much anymore.

Reckon I should just get used to it? Shut up and quit whining? I mean, honestly, I'm not desperate enough to get some for me to wander off alone to some bar looking for an easy pull.


(If the answer is STFU, feel free to say so. I always feel like a whiny SOB putting my personal probs up here anyway. And oddly enough, It's not a problem that feels terribly important to me these days either. Which bugs me as well; like my bad back and bouts of apparent senility, it's one more sign that I'm getting way too old, way too young. )

cityxslicker

yeah, I never could bust the nut up front, I dont know why, It certainly wasnt anxiety about knocking her up, as I have long since been fixed. but yeah, It used to stay hard for tremendously long times, and I just couldnt get the money shot, It was painful as shiat and the girl always felt that she got hers so she was good (hell youre a guy you are lucky Iam giving you any at all ! ) I dont know how many showers I took to alieve the evening.... and then I hit 35 and the shiate was done, now it is all about the swiftness and if I want to last for any amount of time, its now a shower first and a quick pump to get over the premature shoot.
fuck if I know. Its a fickle pickle.
Watch your diet, get some sleep, keep a note book, see a urologist if it persists.
I wish I could be more help, but as you get older you will find a new host of problems, and will wish for the old ones back.

well fuck, y'all know more now than any therapist I have ever talked to.

MrsD

I can tell you being with the same man for almost 35yrs I have seen the rise and fall the energizer bunny and the not going to work no way no how side of it all. Its age stress diet meds consumption of booze its all those things and most importantly what going on in the mind either consciously or subconsciously.
BTW no one judges here no one thinks your whining its a place to share vent and be free. Well as free as you can be on the inter web.

Bikenut

You know this problem can really be a problem. I recently was with someone who could go all night. Yea, it becomes a severe problem if you are dating a 'standard' woman. While I enjoyed the sex, some pillow talk, snuggeling, and sleep would have been nice. Unless you are with a nymph a woman will typically end it..unless their dad is Ron Jeremy.

Driftertank

Alright, well since I'm in bitch mode anyway, I think one of the issues is the girl I'm with...although I use the term "With" rather loosely. I already know she's too attached to her mum, but I've recently realized that, as her priorities go it seems to be:

1. Mom
2. Dog (and a fucking CHIHUAHUA at that. I hates them)
3. Church
4. TV
5. Sleep
6. Me

So, I love her, and I know she loves me, but I think she's got her priorities fucked up, and I'm kinda thinkin that I really can't go on like this waiting for her mom to kick the bucket so we can be together, and even then, the more time she spends with her mom, the more like mum she becomes; lethargic, unambitious, and whiny.

Add to that the fact that she's told me she wants to have kids by the time she's 30, while I'm NOT tryin to have a child that I'm not livin with, cuz she won't leave her mom, and to be quite honest I think I know right off the biggest reason for the lack of performance.

And to be honest, I'm really growing quite weary of the game they call romance these days. The last couple years have been one massive heartache after another. It gets really old, and the drive from between the legs just isn't nearly as insistent as it used to be.

The idea of being alone used to terrify the shit outta me, but it's not really so frightening anymore...especially when it seems more and more that the alternative is to feel used, frustrated, marginalized, betrayed...

Lately I've started to feel like a tool - in the literal sense. Seems like people call me up when they need my help with something, I help them, and then I just go back out of sight and out of mind. And I've come to terms with that. I don't really mind it at all when it's the people who have been faithful and caring to me that need my help. People have helped me many times in the past when I needed it. Karma.

So, seems like a cripplingly depressing outlook, but it isn't. Even sitting right here typing about all this, I don't feel sad, worthless, lonely. Wouldn't turn down the company of someone who appreciates me, but I ain't beggin' for it.


One doesn't earn the (self-appointed, I know) title of Rezident Cynik by having things always going smoothly. One needs to experience wave after wave of frustration, bad luck, and the consequences of bad decisions. And learn to view it all with a sense of wry humor and resignation. I can be a very negative person, but my negativity is always tempered with a hint of gleeful sarcasm.

cityxslicker

fuck it, a good dose of opt out never hurt.

hell I had to exclude an entire hemisphere o women to get to the one that swirls my world.

MrsD

I can't wait to meet the woman that finally swirled your world

MrsD

Warning don't leave her alone with Bikenut and me for to long HEHEHE

Bikenut

ummm..really. You lost me at 'has attachment issues with parent'. Have a good day this is a no win situation - trust me.

MrsD

NO Shit

Driftertank

Derp.

Qtip

This here, anything can affect performance in bed but I've noticed that stress is the big killer. Great thing about sex is it's fun to try again and do better than the last time

cityxslicker

triple stack levitra, cialis, viagra and chase with red bull; add one Ukrainian ....

Problem solved.
This is Dasha, if she dont get you jonesin just from her looks, well you need to consult a physician.