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Old 04-03-2011, 02:21 PM   #1
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So i got laid...kinda

well let me restart. After being broken up for a while we got back together at the end of october, then we broke up beginning of january. anyway got lucky with this girl one night and went home laid down the moves and got down...the only problem, i couldnt get up. i figured it was cause of the whiskey...

anyways, last night we meet up again blah blah blah. took a while to get it up ( i had been drinking) but finally got it up and got down and dirty. But couldnt climax. I dont know if there is something wrong with me, or what.

do you think it could be from me being so used to the old girl that this one is so different that its hard to do?

or because i was wearing a condom when i usually didnt?

what do you guys think?
 
Old 04-03-2011, 05:07 PM   #2
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booze is not a performance enhancer, it is a depressant to the circulatory system, the engine that drives the locomotive....knock off the booze.... and if you are still hung up on old girl.... make her do it doggy style (just sayin)
 
Old 04-03-2011, 06:19 PM   #3
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i wasnt smashed though. then later in the morning i tried again and it didnt work too well. normally i can get it up when theres a hot girl with big tits in my bed
 
Old 04-03-2011, 08:04 PM   #4
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Please don't ask for advice unless you want to hear the brutal truth...please

the whole 'got back together' thing never works. Stop fooling yourself. It didn't work out for a reason. Ride that wave into a shit storm of cluster fucks. Yea, you may be having some problems getting over 'it'. This is where personal choice comes into play. Some guys get over it by buying hookers and blow, some by finding solitude.

I personally would focus on myself. Shit I wasn't with anyone for a very long time. When I made that choice fireworks were not going off...think of it as picking up a gun you haven't fired for awhile The grip still feels the same but your'e aim may be off for awhile. I say sleep with more woman to get a good perspective on the situation
 
Old 04-03-2011, 08:49 PM   #5
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lulz...
 
Old 04-03-2011, 11:01 PM   #6
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Please don't ask for advice unless you want to hear the brutal truth...please

the whole 'got back together' thing never works. Stop fooling yourself. It didn't work out for a reason. Ride that wave into a shit storm of cluster fucks. Yea, you may be having some problems getting over 'it'. This is where personal choice comes into play. Some guys get over it by buying hookers and blow, some by finding solitude.

I personally would focus on myself. Shit I wasn't with anyone for a very long time. When I made that choice fireworks were not going off...think of it as picking up a gun you haven't fired for awhile The grip still feels the same but your'e aim may be off for awhile. I say sleep with more woman to get a good perspective on the situation
Just to be clear this isn't the same girl I was dating.
 
Old 04-04-2011, 05:50 AM   #7
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First of all I commend you for talking to us about something most guys won't admit or even think about talking about....I agree with what everyone has said so far to a point. Booze usually isn't the best performance enhancer..but yet in moderation helps us to relax so we can preform. Catch 22 there however at your age booze shouldn't be a huge problem. So I have some questions (Big Surprise).
Did you ever have this problem with your EX?
Were you extremely stressed?
Was there other substances involved beside booze..are you on medication for anything? Last but maybe the most important where was your head during all this?
Our mind plays a huge factor in sex so if your mind wasn't in the game chances are.. Winkie didn't want to play ball.
 
Old 04-04-2011, 11:20 AM   #8
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First of all I commend you for talking to us about something most guys won't admit or even think about talking about....I agree with what everyone has said so far to a point. Booze usually isn't the best performance enhancer..but yet in moderation helps us to relax so we can preform. Catch 22 there however at your age booze shouldn't be a huge problem. So I have some questions (Big Surprise).
Did you ever have this problem with your EX?
Were you extremely stressed?
Was there other substances involved beside booze..are you on medication for anything? Last but maybe the most important where was your head during all this?
Our mind plays a huge factor in sex so if your mind wasn't in the game chances are.. Winkie didn't want to play ball.
I've not been able to get it up before with my ex. but i was just smashed from drinking all night. which i was the first time as well.
I wouldnt say I'm stressed really..
it was just booze, but I'm beginning to think that whiskey is the common denominator. had it both times..
and as far as where my head was at..between her legs.

im not really sure maybe subconsciously im not attracted to her. or maybe its cause its just a hook up?
 
Old 04-04-2011, 11:58 AM   #9
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I've not been able to get it up before with my ex. but i was just smashed from drinking all night. which i was the first time as well.
I wouldnt say I'm stressed really..
it was just booze, but I'm beginning to think that whiskey is the common denominator. had it both times..
and as far as where my head was at..between her legs.

im not really sure maybe subconsciously im not attracted to her. or maybe its cause its just a hook up?
Unless your one of those very rare guys while under the influence that wouldn't nail anything that spreads there legs. Then I would say its not the attraction thing. Just say Mr Dick has his own agenda.
I have heard of Whiskey being a down fall before, some peoples blood streams just can't handle distilled grains of that nature. So maybe try beer goggles and see what happens. Don't be afraid of talking to a Doc about it. There's lots of reasons why and lots of things that can help. Hope talking about it was helpful for you also.
 
Old 04-04-2011, 04:08 PM   #10
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ok, gonna admit this, not proud about, but here it is anyway.
during a long dryspell, I had a woman of extremely eager and overt sexual overatures bounce the game my way.... she was not my type at all. She was as physically as big as I am (and at 280 on a girl, that is indeed past BBW) no matter how much she wanted it, I could not must the soldier to stand; and I think it is not because of physical issues, but purely mental ones, (basic biology plumbing did work, I could get an erection, I could keep one, just not for her) long story .... I ended up nailing her daughter, had a great time, and she finally got the idea that I was not into her sexually no matter how much she bounced it my direction.

the dick knows what the dick wants, do not try to argue with it.
 
Old 04-04-2011, 05:11 PM   #11
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ok, gonna admit this, not proud about, but here it is anyway.
during a long dryspell, I had a woman of extremely eager and overt sexual overatures bounce the game my way.... she was not my type at all. She was as physically as big as I am (and at 280 on a girl, that is indeed past BBW) no matter how much she wanted it, I could not must the soldier to stand; and I think it is not because of physical issues, but purely mental ones, (basic biology plumbing did work, I could get an erection, I could keep one, just not for her) long story .... I ended up nailing her daughter, had a great time, and she finally got the idea that I was not into her sexually no matter how much she bounced it my direction.

the dick knows what the dick wants, do not try to argue with it.
See there you go from the mouth of a Man.
 
Old 04-04-2011, 05:51 PM   #12
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I liked her, well I guess I still kinda do and after the first time my friend told me I should tell her so I did and she said she just wanted to be friends. I'm physically attracted to her. So I don't know.
 
Old 04-04-2011, 07:17 PM   #13
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I liked her, well I guess I still kinda do and after the first time my friend told me I should tell her so I did and she said she just wanted to be friends. I'm physically attracted to her. So I don't know.
Well maybe you should try again without the whiskey and see what happens.

Note to men..all women feel responsible when you can't get it up. We feel its a refection on us. Please tell the other person when this happens its not them its you. They may not believe you but at least you told them.

Except in City's case it was the partner involved and he was kind enough not to tell her.
 
Old 04-05-2011, 02:00 AM   #14
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yeah she said that she thought it was her. i tried to (and hopefully succeeded) that it wasnt her. the problem was, i poured myself a drink and 15 minutes or so later she texted me.
 
Old 04-05-2011, 04:44 PM   #15
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Sidenote:

This place rocks. Where else can people be so freakin honest with the security and acceptance all humans deserve. Mad props to the love boat crew.

Back on topic, you guys, you know this happens to woman also. I've had a few times where my head was into what was happening but my body was not. I firmly believe this happens to everyone.

Reppin..first kudos for this comment "and as far as where my head was at..between her legs". You get a standing ovation from the ladies I had an ex once refer to whiskey dick, where when he drank whiskey he could go all night long..that said I'm not sure if that is true for everyone. Again, I say run through a few more ladies and see what happens although I do suggest doing so sober...or drunk, your choice. In short, I would'nt make too much of it. They didn't invent KY or enzyte for nothing.
 
Old 04-05-2011, 06:44 PM   #16
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Good Point.. we women do go through the same thing it just isn't as obvious but just as frustrating.
When I read my head was between her legs I have to admit I spit my tea all over my desk what a great answer.
 
Old 04-06-2011, 08:39 PM   #17
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if it aint happening after a session of ever lasting gobstopper impersonations, it aint happening at all.

(and wtf, sometimes a wind out of the east will strike and ta f'n da. it is a fickle pickle)
 
Old 04-06-2011, 10:06 PM   #18
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not sure your whole ever lasting gobstopper thiong is but idk, i kinda like her. whatev, i see where it takes me
 
Old 04-07-2011, 02:59 AM   #19
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Good Luck
 
Old 04-07-2011, 10:36 AM   #20
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it is the sucker from Willy Wonka & the the chocolate factory; no matter how long you suck on it, it never diminishes ..... so if she is givin it that kind of attention... !
 
Old 04-07-2011, 10:48 AM   #21
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Its the age old question..are you to tired to get it up..Well that would be up to you can YOU get it up.
Its not always all your fault, there has to be a certian amount of attention payed to all players;)
 
Old 04-07-2011, 12:40 PM   #22
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well we hung out last night, and i discovered it was whiskey, (i drank beer all night) she stayed over, and we went at it, then she told me she was on her period. but still i figured the problem. also how do i tell if she likes me or if its just a booty call?

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Old 04-07-2011, 02:04 PM   #23
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Does she actually want to hang out with you or are you just getting texts for evening encounters? She's got to like you somewhat if she's given you a third chance. A guy not getting it up is a hard blow on a woman. And to have it happen twice, I personally wouldn't put myself in the position for the rejection again (might not be rejection but feels the same).

Keep in mind, she told you she only wants to be friends. Unless she tells you differently, you need to take her word for it.
 
Old 04-08-2011, 01:04 AM   #24
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well last night i invited her to go bowling with a group of us. and she came. then we drank a lil and she came back here, watched a movie and some tv shows and what not, then went to bed. she was on her period so we didnt bang but we still did some stuff.

i dont know what she wants though, last time i checked..after the first time when i didnt get it up she said she just wanted to be friends. the second time was a little better, and last night was better bett..i wasnt trying to get laid but somehow we went at it.


i dont wanna tell her again that i want more than just friends (with benefits) but maybe ill just let it play out.
 
Old 04-08-2011, 05:07 PM   #25
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Good Point.. we women do go through the same thing it just isn't as obvious but just as frustrating.
When I read my head was between her legs I have to admit I spit my tea all over my desk what a great answer.
Right? Finally a man who gets it...in all the right ways. Again, standing ovation is in order
 
Old 04-08-2011, 05:09 PM   #26
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not sure your whole ever lasting gobstopper thiong is but idk, i kinda like her. whatev, i see where it takes me
There you go..you like her. Dont push the issue, enjoy time and see where it takes you. Expectations can destroy a good thing.
 
Old 04-09-2011, 05:31 AM   #27
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Expect nothing enjoy the ride..Life is a journey not a guided tour..enjoy!
 
Old 04-09-2011, 09:32 AM   #28
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Right click, save to favorites. Even better if the Ride is the full Roller coaster with all the twists, turns, dives, loops, corners, water splashes, inverted straights and barrel rolls. !

Enjoy the ride.
 
Old 04-10-2011, 03:23 PM   #29
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checkmate
 
Old 05-01-2011, 08:30 AM   #30
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Other than the hiccup with the ex (which happens from time to time) I commend you for moving on and getting your dick wet somewhere else. Whiskey is definitely a performance killer, its happened to me the one time Ive gotten drunk off it and then subsequently tried to hook up. The fact that it's happened twice with the same girl that you find attractive means that if you ever want to have a fwb relationship with her the next time you guys sleep together you need to give the performance of your life and make her cum so many times she can't walk straight for a couple days. Even then it may be too late for you.

If you want to find out if she wants something more or where her head is at then nut up and ask and don't pussyfoot around the subject when talking to her about it either. Life is too short to not be direct.

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