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Old 09-13-2009, 06:11 AM   #1
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Ahhhhh I have no clue

So I was talking with my mother and she finally asked me the question I've been dreading for years, "When are you going to get married and have kids?" She knows my view on marriage and children which is no and no. I say no to marriage due to all the failed marriages I've seen personally and quite frankly I'm iffy on the kids portion somedays it's a yes most days it's a no. So far in all my relationships I find I get bored with them after 6 months or so and the relationship dies from that point on due to me not really caring anymore. Just for that reason alone I can't see myself ever making it to the wedding part. I'm extremely picky and haven't found a woman that has yet even come close to meeting my requirements for that next step. I know some will say that I should relax some of my requirements a bit but my think is if you know what you want why settle? Really there's no point to this thread other than get my frustration out, I can't really talk to my friends due to the fact that they are either married or about to get married. I'm just going to stop there, questions comments....





Sorry for the randomness of the my thoughts.......
 
Old 09-13-2009, 10:48 AM   #2
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I know some will say that I should relax some of my requirements a bit but my think is if you know what you want why settle?
I don't get get that. Not everyone has a burning desire to be in a relationship.
To compare: if I was at a restaurant and ordered a filet mignon and got a NY strip instead I should be happy because both are good steaks and beef (and right next to one another in the animal).....had I wanted the strip though that's what I would have ordered. I WANTED the filet, so I should just accept something that isn't what I wanted just to eat steak and it's close enough? F that.
I'm of the mind that if you find a woman you want to spend the rest of your life with, you will know. If you have to tell yourself that she's good enough or close enough then she probably isn't the right one (not that it still couldn't work but..).
Short: no don't settle
 
Old 09-13-2009, 12:52 PM   #3
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Yep I just don't understand people that settle.
 
Old 09-14-2009, 06:09 AM   #4
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I remember when my Grandmother asked me the same question "Honey, when will you marry and have children, you don't want to be an Old maid." I was 13 My reply.."Never"
Tell your Mom if it happens it happens, if it doesn't it doesn't. In the mean time your pretty happy just being you, living your life. After all the only thing a parent truly wants is that there children are happy.
 
Old 09-14-2009, 08:06 AM   #5
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I don't remember who the comedian was, and can't find a clip, but I do remember a bit about people asking him when he was going to get married.

He said that the people that asked him that were always married people. He just started repying with "When are you gonna die?" Since Marriage is a big change in your life, and the next real big change after that is death, he figured when people ask him "When are you gonna get married?" he'd just respond with "When are you gonna DIE?" So, apparently, people don't ask him anymore...
 
Old 09-14-2009, 10:00 AM   #6
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#1 never ever settle.
#2 if the "norm" isn't alright with you, you're the only one that has to live with that.

Being at the age that I am, I always thought I would be married with kids by now. But the thought of all of that just does not interest me. I got the dreaded "Are you ever going to settle down and have children" from my Grandma, whom has never asked me this...and I had been dreading the day. She already has 2 grandkids and 1 on the way..but apparently she wants one from me No thanks.

Most of my friends are also either married, with a child and working on another one, or getting married or some such thing. Thank goodness they don't ask anymore, but they use to, maybe they just got tired of asking? But I just don't believe in marriage anymore, I've seen too many either end in divorce, or they're cheating. Besides, all it is to me is a piece of paper, I don't need to sign anything to be committed to you.

Patience is the only advice I have to offer. I'd rather be alone than settle for something/someone just because others think I should.
 
Old 09-14-2009, 08:10 PM   #7
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I'd rather be alone than settle for something/someone just because others think I should.
 
Old 09-14-2009, 11:03 PM   #8
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Just tell her your gay.... See what she says... I bet she doesnt bug you about that again....lol
 
Old 09-25-2009, 02:48 PM   #9
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meh, 41 single, never married and not ever havin kids.
Ive kept my standards high, now up yours ;)
Be picky, it beats settling everytime.

My answer is (its usually friends my age that have already gotten divorced)
So you want me to loose half my stuff, just so I can get to the freedom I already enjoy?
Um no. And really if kids are so f'n great, how come you arent rushing out to have more?
 
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