Long distance Relationships

Qtip · 10-21-2008, 12:51 PM

Do they work? Why or why not? What are your experiences with them.

Washingtonblonde · 10-21-2008, 12:53 PM

Anything can work if both parties are willing to put the effort in it!

ODiE · 10-21-2008, 12:56 PM

It certainly requires an elevated level of commitment and trust.

tunus · 10-21-2008, 01:02 PM

^^^ And a lot of self control ( a good amount of x-rated movies helps too)

evander · 10-21-2008, 01:08 PM

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martini · 10-21-2008, 01:10 PM

I'm in one too.. wont see him till Christmas..

long distance is a pain in the ass, but its doable

tunus · 10-21-2008, 01:12 PM

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Originally Posted by evander

Im in one now.

It's working great for us. I get to see her almost everyweekend. But we are still apart during the week which forces us to actually talk, you know communicate. It's pretty cool.

You lucky guy! You at least get to see her every weekend. Try waiting until Christmas ...

Oxygen · 10-21-2008, 07:14 PM

Long distance can work if you make it work...it's just easy to get distracted and fuck it up...let me tell you.

I'm in a "long distance" relationship right now...but like Evan, we see each other every weekend and talk during the week. It's sort of nice because we are both in school, and during the week we don't have each other as distractions and can actually get stuff done. It's done wonders for my GPA

So it's not really a true "long distance relationship" since we see each other on weekends.

QTip...I'm sure you know about the other long distance relationship...that was just too long distance and not enough foundation to keep it going...it's important to have a strong foundation if you are forced to be long distance. Generating a relationship out of thin air and expecting everything to work out and have a happy ending while being 6000+ miles away from each other is like putting all your eggs in one basket when you know the basket has a hole in the bottom.

dizzle · 10-22-2008, 04:55 AM

They work if you want them too. I did it and did whatever i could to take the time to go out and see her .. even if it meant making the 2 hour commute after i get off work at 4, spending the night, and leaving at 5:30 in the morning to make it to work on time the next day all while having to drive over the pass.

It was certainly worth it for the most part, (just hurt on the bank account with gas) .. Would i change something about it? yeah, not being so whipped, but i still enjoyed it none the less.

Raven Ryder · 10-22-2008, 10:16 AM

they suck...hard to have intimacy if you cant be with the person

Metonymy · 10-22-2008, 10:26 AM

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Originally Posted by Raven Ryder

they suck...hard to have intimacy if you cant be with the person

Makes it that much better when you do though.

For me a lot of it has to do with the definition of "long distance".

50 miles? Not bad.
200 miles? Sucky...
3000 miles? If you want to talk about tough, try this one...

DJ Nathan V · 10-22-2008, 10:29 AM

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Originally Posted by Qtip

Do they work? Why or why not? What are your experiences with them.

Cheated on once and got left once.

Edit: And had TWO someones who had a long-distance husbands try to cheat with me. NOT COOL!!!!

Qtip · 10-22-2008, 10:31 AM

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Originally Posted by Metonymy

Makes it that much better when you do though.

For me a lot of it has to do with the definition of "long distance".

50 miles? Not bad.
200 miles? Sucky...
3000 miles? If you want to talk about tough, try this one...

That's the one I'm in right now.

Washingtonblonde · 10-22-2008, 10:33 AM

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Originally Posted by Qtip

That's the one I'm in right now.

I'm not THAT far baby!

Qtip · 10-22-2008, 10:37 AM

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Originally Posted by Washingtonblonde

I'm not THAT far baby!

No one told me we started dating, dang it I'm always the last to know.

Washingtonblonde · 10-22-2008, 10:38 AM

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Originally Posted by Qtip

No one told me we started dating, dang it I'm always the last to know.

Hahaha! When are you going to go visit her next? Soon, right?

Qtip · 10-22-2008, 10:42 AM

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Originally Posted by Washingtonblonde

Hahaha! When are you going to go visit her next? Soon, right?

I leave friday morning, we're spending the weekend together at a resort, and then going to Disney World cause I've never been.

Washingtonblonde · 10-22-2008, 10:43 AM

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Originally Posted by Qtip

I leave friday morning, we're spending the weekend together at a resort, and then going to Disney World cause I've never been.

Yay! That should be fun!

Qtip · 10-22-2008, 10:46 AM

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Originally Posted by Washingtonblonde

Yay! That should be fun!

And I get some, which is the important thing

Raven Ryder · 10-22-2008, 10:46 AM

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Originally Posted by Metonymy

Makes it that much better when you do though.

very true...but it still sucks not constantly having it..maks it harder to build it up ya know??

Qtip · 10-22-2008, 10:53 AM

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Originally Posted by Raven Ryder

very true...but it still sucks not constantly having it..maks it harder to build it up ya know??

I tend to disagree with that, sure when I see my SO we have that instant lust factor from not seeing each other for a while, but I've also shared more about my self and my personality that I normally have a difficult time bringing up when I'm constantly around a person.

Raven Ryder · 10-22-2008, 10:56 AM

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Originally Posted by Qtip

I tend to disagree with that, sure when I see my SO we have that instant lust factor from not seeing each other for a while, but I've also shared more about my self and my personality that I normally have a difficult time bringing up when I'm constantly around a person.

I guess it just depends on the circumstance...I personally always had that instant lust factor with my SO...and I am always very open about everything

Qtip · 10-22-2008, 10:59 AM

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Originally Posted by Raven Ryder

I guess it just depends on the circumstance...I personally always had that instant lust factor with my SO...and I am always very open about everything

Lust factor was a bad description, more like crazy nasty pron sex that's banned in most countries is a better one

Raven Ryder · 10-22-2008, 12:19 PM

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Originally Posted by Qtip

Lust factor was a bad description, more like crazy nasty pron sex that's banned in most countries is a better one

thats what I meant by lust

Amy Jane · 10-22-2008, 08:46 PM

I've been in two long distance relationships.
The First: we lived 100 miles away and saw each other almost every weekend and on breaks from school. It seemed to work out just fine but after school we moved in together and broke up within a month. I guess technically the long distance part worked just fine...

The Second: We were 3000 miles away, and saw each other four times in seven months. Honestly it was the best relationship i've ever been in. We talked every night and i feel like i got to know him better than relationships that weren't long distance. We decided to put our relationship on hold because he is now 7000 miles away and we talk maybe twice a month and it's a hell of a lot harder than it was before.

CStyle · 10-23-2008, 06:57 AM

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Originally Posted by Amy Jane

I've been in two long distance relationships.
The First: we lived 100 miles away and saw each other almost every weekend and on breaks from school. It seemed to work out just fine but after school we moved in together and broke up within a month. I guess technically the long distance part worked just fine...

The Second: We were 3000 miles away, and saw each other four times in seven months. Honestly it was the best relationship i've ever been in. We talked every night and i feel like i got to know him better than relationships that weren't long distance. We decided to put our relationship on hold because he is now 7000 miles away and we talk maybe twice a month and it's a hell of a lot harder than it was before.

Hmm....there may be something to this....

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10-21-2008, 12:53 PM	#2
Washingtonblonde So Amazingly Happy I'm a Lady Living in Lacey, WA	Anything can work if both parties are willing to put the effort in it!

10-21-2008, 12:56 PM	#3
ODiE I am naked... Right now. I'm a Gentleman Living in Issaquah, WA	It certainly requires an elevated level of commitment and trust.

10-21-2008, 01:02 PM	#4
tunus Newbie I'm a Gentleman Living in Rotterdam, The Netherlands	^^^ And a lot of self control ( a good amount of x-rated movies helps too)

10-21-2008, 01:10 PM	#6
martini shaken, not stirred! I'm a Lady Living in Amsterdam, Netherlands	I'm in one too.. wont see him till Christmas.. long distance is a pain in the ass, but its doable

10-21-2008, 07:14 PM	#8
Oxygen The Doctor Is In I'm a Girl Living in Seattle, WA	Long distance can work if you make it work...it's just easy to get distracted and fuck it up...let me tell you. I'm in a "long distance" relationship right now...but like Evan, we see each other every weekend and talk during the week. It's sort of nice because we are both in school, and during the week we don't have each other as distractions and can actually get stuff done. It's done wonders for my GPA So it's not really a true "long distance relationship" since we see each other on weekends. QTip...I'm sure you know about the other long distance relationship...that was just too long distance and not enough foundation to keep it going...it's important to have a strong foundation if you are forced to be long distance. Generating a relationship out of thin air and expecting everything to work out and have a happy ending while being 6000+ miles away from each other is like putting all your eggs in one basket when you know the basket has a hole in the bottom.

10-22-2008, 04:55 AM	#9
dizzle Surprize! I'm a Dude Living in Newcastle Looking for Networking Interested in Women Humor is Clever/Quick-witted Have a Trendy fashion style	They work if you want them too. I did it and did whatever i could to take the time to go out and see her .. even if it meant making the 2 hour commute after i get off work at 4, spending the night, and leaving at 5:30 in the morning to make it to work on time the next day all while having to drive over the pass. It was certainly worth it for the most part, (just hurt on the bank account with gas) .. Would i change something about it? yeah, not being so whipped, but i still enjoyed it none the less.

10-22-2008, 10:16 AM	#10
Raven Ryder Newbie I'm a Guy Living in Lynnwood, WA	they suck...hard to have intimacy if you cant be with the person

10-22-2008, 08:46 PM	#25
Amy Jane Newbie I'm a Lady Living in Bothell	I've been in two long distance relationships. The First: we lived 100 miles away and saw each other almost every weekend and on breaks from school. It seemed to work out just fine but after school we moved in together and broke up within a month. I guess technically the long distance part worked just fine... The Second: We were 3000 miles away, and saw each other four times in seven months. Honestly it was the best relationship i've ever been in. We talked every night and i feel like i got to know him better than relationships that weren't long distance. We decided to put our relationship on hold because he is now 7000 miles away and we talk maybe twice a month and it's a hell of a lot harder than it was before.