Bikenut

What is the ONE most important thing you learned during childhood that influences your realtionship behavior today. By childhood, lets say under 12 the teen years are too twisted.

I can't quite put mine into words so I'll catch up later

Washingtonblonde

Relationships in ANY relationship or a love/so relationship?

In general.. was always told to be the better person and do what's right. So that follows into ALL of my relationships.

with an S/O.... I grew up with a mom and a dad that loved each other and stuck together.. and now as an adult I understand that there were some very low times.. but I never saw it as a child and they worked through it. So I guess I've kind of taken that with me as well. I tried very hard for many years to make my marriage work. But it takes two.... Also, I was never made to feel insignificant.. and had a wonderful childhood and FEEL as though I was always put first.. and that carries over to my children as well.

MrsD

The one most important thing I learned that was taught.. to treat others the way you want to be treated. Thats what I was told, thats what I did and still do. I go the extra mile to make sure my family is comfortable and that they feel loved always. I sacrifice of myself so they can have a better day. I make sure my husband knows how much I Love Him unconditionaly. Everything I do, I do for the ones I love in return it all comes back double. The thing I learned from experience that stuck with me through out life Trust No One and frankly that sucks.

CStyle

I was taught that if you want something, you have to work for it, especially if you are going to appreciate it.

As far as relationships, emotional stuff, etc etc....I pretty much had to throw all that crap out and start over. If anything the biggest thing I got from my childhood is how I don't want to be and how not to treat my children.

TeashaMae

The biggest lesson I learned as a child:

I will never settle for less than what I want, or how I want to be treated just so I'm not alone.

Stood by as a child to watch physical/mental/emotional abuse towards my mother. I use to ask why she stayed, she would always look at me and say "You'll understand when you're older and don't want to be alone". I vowed then to NEVER UNDERSTAND THAT.

MrsD

I watched my grandmother marry 5 times because she didn't want to be alone. Two of them were great the other 3 not she out lived them all in the end she was alone. I have heard that statement so many times it makes me wonder is it that they were afraid to be alone. Or was it that they were told it wasn't acceptable to be a single woman of a certain age and be alone. My fear may be of being left a lone but that to me is not a reason to be with someone. I'm glad you don't understand that neither do I.

SiX

Love and appreciate everyone in your life every day, you never know how long they will be there.

Bikenut

me as well. I rarely saw my parents fight. Although the only reasoning for having two bad marriages is stupdity and not paying attention, I am a firm believer in marriage, no matter what I may post My only problem with it is that it is not taken seriously or with enough forthought. That shit's for life man...for life

Avboden

to quote kindergarden cop "boy's have a penis, girl's have a vagina"

seriously under 12? That's about all i got out of it

Miss Annette

Nothing lasts forever......even if you really want it to last. People leave. It's a fact that I got used to at a very young age.

Don't take anyone for granted. Always make sure they know how much you love them.

People cheat and it is not your fault. You can't make someone love you or want you. If someone wants to be with you then they will move heaven and earth to make you realize just how important you are to them.

And......no man is ever worth loosing yourself and giving up your dreams.

Mikercw

hahah....So

I grew up with the idea that women only wanted to fuck you over.
They wanted your money and take anything they could from you.
They were the biggest pieces of crap and to treat them with no respect cause you would never get any back.

Now with that said... that would be my father saying that.. When my mother was divorcing him and playing games with him, telling him he would never see his kids again.

But at a young age what was I to believe?!?!?

cityxslicker

That I would rather be alone and a hermit than to live through anything remotely resembling the marriage my mom had with whatever husband it was this time.

I am on the road to success. 000

Those that dont know history are destined to repeat it. I learned early and often about what I DONT want, still working on trying to figure out what I do want.