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Old 01-29-2009, 08:45 AM   #1
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Co-habitation

Would you live together before marriage?
Thoughts? Opinions?

Have you done it?
Would you do it again?
If not, why?
 
Old 01-29-2009, 09:29 AM   #2
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Yes.. because I don't want any surprises.

No.. because I want to set a good example for my kids..

So basically I don't know.
 
Old 01-29-2009, 09:45 AM   #3
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Yes. If I'm going to try to spend the rest of my life living with someone, I need to have some inkling that it will work. Money, housekeeping and sex are three major causes of breakups, and living together changes all three of them.
 
Old 01-29-2009, 10:14 AM   #4
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I would never marry someone without living with them for at least a year. Why? Because the rules change when you live with someone. All of their faults are magnified. You get to see what kind of pattern the other person sets for their household etc. For instance.....I love my sister to death but I wouldn't want to live with her. Why? Cause while I am not a neat freak I cannot live in disorder. I grew up that way and I just refuse to go back.
 
Old 01-29-2009, 10:21 AM   #5
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I did live with my ex-wife for 6 months before marriage. Yes I would do it again. I think it's very important to know who the other really lives. As for setting a good example for the kids maybe move in during the engagement?
 
Old 01-29-2009, 02:20 PM   #6
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I have lived with a few girlfriends and my first wife before we were married. They all failed miserably. I don't know that living with them had anything to with that, but it certainly did not help the relationship any either.

My wife and I dated for 1 year and then were engaged for a year and I moved in with her the week before we were married. I think that is was good for me to have the alone time, and to be able to build the trust in our relationship before we were married, rather than moving in together right away and smothering each other. Obviously there were some things we had to learn when we moved in together, but we spent enough time together that these things weren't to difficult to work out. I know my wife voiced that she wasn't sure she like sharing her space lol.

Alas everyone is different and I am unsure if there is a perfect answer. For me I say waiting is a good thing. I hope my son feels the same way.
 
Old 01-29-2009, 04:09 PM   #7
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have done it, is a must for doing it again.

like mentioned above, things change when you live together. you learn things about each other that you didn't know before, even if you'd lived separately for five years. i'd rather know something is going to drive me up a wall before we committed completely to it than deal with the messy aftermath of a divorce.
 
Old 01-29-2009, 04:32 PM   #8
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whoa there missy. Is this a general question or would you like to share with the group I co - whatever. During one of our 'talks' it came to light I have only lived with one man - unmarried. I'd never marry a guy I haven't lived with - period.

They come to your house..they're all respectful

They move in and forget where the hamper is or how to get their titty whitties in the thing

Ya need to cross the threshold of respect. Once you live with them, it ALL comes out.

I don't put make up on everyday, but funny, you don't act like your in the porn industry anymore either.
 
Old 01-29-2009, 08:35 PM   #9
oK, fine, its COUGAR :P
 
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just a general question. Ive done it. Still have mixed emotions about it.
 
Old 01-29-2009, 08:50 PM   #10
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lol, sorry for the random post but no, I'd never marry someone whom I had'nt lived with. That was along way to the finish line Ya can't fight the fight til you've been in the arena.
 
Old 01-30-2009, 01:06 PM   #11
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lol, sorry for the random post but no, I'd never marry someone whom I had'nt lived with. That was along way to the finish line Ya can't fight the fight til you've been in the arena.
Not what you told me.....
 
Old 01-30-2009, 05:50 PM   #12
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Quote:
Originally Posted by Mikercw View Post
Not what you told me.....
I also think I told you I'd never live with a penis again. Look how that worked out
 
Old 01-30-2009, 10:01 PM   #13
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I would like to co-habitate... with a MAN.
 
Old 08-18-2009, 03:09 PM   #14
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Never again, sharing is over rated.
 
Old 08-19-2009, 09:55 PM   #15
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Yep, I've done it twice.

Would I do it again, if I was serious about the girl enough to think I'll eventually marry her you better believe it. Sex before marriage is not the only test drive you need to take, seeing if you can actually stand being with that person on a constant basis is also another.

And yes I realize this is an old thread.
 
Old 08-26-2009, 03:28 PM   #16
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Speaking for myself, I never moved in with a g/f before I was married. I believe learning about all those little things while living together is one of the rewards of getting married to that person. Instead of thinking they are faults and they drive you crazy, I thought of them as characteristics of the person I love... do you really want to change them? Can't you just respectfully ask them to leave the toilet seat down when they are done with the expectation that they respect you enough to do so?

Besides, it is good practice to learn to resolve small issues that come up while living together so if and most likely when bigger issues come up you have the groundwork on how to deal with them. If the toilet seat is the biggest problem facing a relationship, it is prolly a pretty good relationship. I would be willing to bet that finances is generally a bigger problem for example.

I have learned that not everything is on my terms! But, what works for me rarely works for most others.
 
Old 08-26-2009, 09:37 PM   #17
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I'd like to.........
 
Old 08-27-2009, 12:05 PM   #18
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Never Again, infact I think that is my first tattoo. For the long list of shiate that i have done wrong in the past, and the litenany of things I didnt do because I was doing what I 'should'.
Fq it all Never Again.
 
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