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Old 01-10-2009, 06:45 PM   #1
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Love: Beyond the romance, beyond the intimacy

<< Normally I hate email forward things... but this I like and I think it's worth sharing... THIS, my friends, is love.>>




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It was a busy morning, about 8:30, when an elderly gentleman in his 80's arrived to have stitches removed from his thumb. He said he was in a hurry as he had an appointment at 9:00 am.

I took his vital signs and had him take a seat, knowing it would be over an hour before someone would to able to see him. I saw him looking at his watch and decided, since I was not busy with another patient, I would evaluate his wound. On exam, it was well healed, so I talked to one of the doctors, got the needed supplies to remove his sutures and redress his wound.

While taking care of his wound, I asked him if he had another doctor's appointment this morning, as he was in such a hurry.

The gentleman told me no, that he needed to go to the nursing home to eat breakfast with his wife. I inquired as to her health.

He told me that she had been there for a while and that she was a victim of Alzheimer's Disease.


As we talked, I asked if she would be upset if he was a bit late.

He replied that she no longer knew who he was, that she had not recognized him in five years now.


I was surprised, and asked him, 'And you still go every morning, even though she doesn't know who you are?'

He smiled as he patted my hand and said,

'She doesn't know me, but I still know who she is.'


I had to hold back tears as he left, I had goose bumps on my arm,
and thought,

'That is the kind of love I want in my life.'



True love is neither physical, nor romantic.

True love is an acceptance of all that is, has been, will be,
and will not be.




The happiest people don't necessarily have the best of everything; they just make the best of everything they have.



'Life isn't about how to survive the storm,

but how to dance in the rain.'

 
Old 01-10-2009, 06:48 PM   #2
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Oh, and on the subject; one of my favorite definitions of love:

"Love is patient; love is kind and envies no one. Love is never boastful, nor conceited, nor rude; never selfish, not quick to take offense. There is nothing love cannot face; there is no limit to its faith, its hope, and endurance. In a word, there are three things that last forever: faith, hope, and love; but the greatest of them all is love.”
 
Old 01-10-2009, 06:52 PM   #3
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cute.

let me teach you the dance of love (and not sex) and it'll make your love filled weekend even better.

call me.
 
Old 01-10-2009, 07:28 PM   #4
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Oh, and on the subject; one of my favorite definitions of love:

"Love is patient; love is kind and envies no one. Love is never boastful, nor conceited, nor rude; never selfish, not quick to take offense. There is nothing love cannot face; there is no limit to its faith, its hope, and endurance. In a word, there are three things that last forever: faith, hope, and love; but the greatest of them all is love.
Nathan, this is so true. I strive to give and receive this kind of love in my life.
 
Old 01-10-2009, 11:02 PM   #5
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I long to experience that kind of love but sometimes i wonder if it even exists.

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Old 01-11-2009, 09:20 AM   #6
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Nathan, thank you for sharing this. These are spot on!

Yes, I absolutely believe this love exists. It doesn't necessarily manifest itself in lover to lover relationships, but can thrive among friends, siblings, colleagues, strangers, and even through the love and acceptance of oneself. The world needs more of it, not less.
 
Old 01-11-2009, 02:27 PM   #7
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WOW!!!
I love real LOVE and I can only hope that one day someone like that old man will love me as I will love him in the same way with the same depth of everything I am to the depths of everything he is!
 
Old 01-12-2009, 06:50 AM   #8
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Nathan Thank You so much for posting this. I had a really crappy weekend and I needed to be reminded of all those things. Thank You
 
Old 01-12-2009, 10:41 AM   #9
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Nathan Thank You so much for posting this. I had a really crappy weekend and I needed to be reminded of all those things. Thank You


If only more people could know what it's like to really experience this... I think most are just too selfish to truly love someone else completely.
 
Old 01-12-2009, 10:45 AM   #10
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If only more people could know what it's like to really experience this... I think most are just too selfish to truly love someone else completely.
Or are just too scared to.
 
Old 01-12-2009, 10:47 AM   #11
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Or are just too scared to.
That too. Sometimes it's better to risk it and get hurt than to never know what it means to give yourself to someone....
 
Old 01-13-2009, 09:24 AM   #12
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That too. Sometimes it's better to risk it and get hurt than to never know what it means to give yourself to someone....
sometimes we learn through others who give themselves to the person that they love only to watch them get hurt.

why would we want to suffer the way they did?
 
Old 01-13-2009, 10:56 AM   #13
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sometimes we learn through others who give themselves to the person that they love only to watch them get hurt.

why would we want to suffer the way they did?
I suppose you could look at it that way but it sounds like what Teasha said... now after seeing someone else get hurt you'd be too scared of getting hurt too and be less willing to just let go and give yourself completely to someone.

I've been there... that was basically the last two years for me after someone I had considered marrying decided to leave me after over a year together to start dating her ex again... whom she dated before me for about a month.

However... if you never move past that you'll never be able to have that complete trust, love, and compassion for someone again.
 
Old 01-13-2009, 11:06 AM   #14
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Well I said "or to scared to" was in reference to myself.

I have loved completely and unconditionally to only get hurt beyond belief. Do I want to do that again? No. Am I scared to love so blindly and unconditionally again, absolutely.

But I would like to hold on to the belief that there is someone else out there that will help me feel differently, it's just hard to open yourself up to that again with the chance of a life shattering break-up.
 
Old 01-13-2009, 12:43 PM   #15
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... it's just hard to open yourself up to that again with the chance of a life shattering break-up.
For real.
 
Old 01-13-2009, 03:17 PM   #16
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it is better to love and lose than to not love at all. Even if every time you opened your heart and it was crushed time and time again, you would have amazing life filling experiences, that many people will never get to experience. Of course this is much easier said than done.
 
Old 08-06-2009, 02:45 PM   #17
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it is better to love and lose than to not love at all. Even if every time you opened your heart and it was crushed time and time again, you would have amazing life filling experiences, that many people will never get to experience.
F' that. I would rather go without than to ever repeat the cr@p I have been through.
I dont need to shoot myself in the foot with a gun to know it hurts, I dont need that for a life experience.
 
Old 08-06-2009, 03:22 PM   #18
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For me, the only regrets in life are the risks I didn't take (which are few if any). Live life means just that... Live it to the fullest and not to slide through it on some smooth easy street. I just wish I had more time in life to experience even more on the road less travelled. I try to challenge myself constantly and stretch out of my comfort zone with trying new things- even if that meant getting my heart crushed at some point. Living life is worth the risk... All of that has made me who I am today. Without the hardships, how can you tell when you have it good?
 
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