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Old 01-05-2009, 11:17 PM   #1
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Stop thinking so much

This is less advice, or a relationship discussion, maybe an observation. Or, just a note to myself and anyone else whom it may concern.

STOP THINKING ABOUT EVERYTHING SO MUCH


It's futile to decide what your deal breakers are, or what is "your type" and what isn't. All that achieves is closing our minds off to those that may end up fulfilling us in such a way we could not have imagined. Stop thinking about what to say and what not to say, pick up lines that work or don't work, it's all pretty pointless when the ideal is the person who won't care because you're accepted for whatever foot-in-the-mouth fuck up you may have just spouted. Hopefully they'll be the person to laugh with you about it, not hold it against you.

Don't worry about if you call on the first day or the third. What's right is right no matter how long you wait or don't.

Don't worry about what they want you to be because you can only pretend to be something else for so long.

Don't let other people dictate your relationships. They're not the ones that have to live with the person you decide to marry.

Forget about the lines between seeing someone, dating, dating exclusively, having a title, it doesn't change your relationship for the better to assign a name. It just adds a whole new level of assumptions and expectations that may or may not be fair or justifiable.

Know your own life and recognize when someone else doesn't fit into it. A clean break heals faster.

If you feel like you might be into someone, there's no harm in sticking around to find out. There is harm in sticking around to long when the conclusion should have come to you months ago.

Don't shit where you eat. That means it's probably a bad idea to date coworkers, friends ex's.... But maybe not.

Perception is reality. If you think someone isn't right for you, it will be so. Remember that when you think there aren't any good single people out there.

We pursue what evades us. A dog chases a tennis ball only when it's thrown. Is it any better when it's standing still? No, just not desirable. It's easy, it's attainable, it's available, it's unattractive. Know when you've spent to much time running and to much time chasing.

Nobody likes a negative nancy.

And finally don't kiss, have sex, move in together, say "i love you", get married, or get divorced, until your heart can't go on without doing so.
 
Old 01-06-2009, 12:39 AM   #2
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ya jknow if i couild readd thhat rihgt now

i prorbably still wouldnt casre
 
Old 01-06-2009, 08:41 AM   #3
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All things I know....but easier said than done, but I'm gonna try harder!
 
Old 01-06-2009, 09:18 AM   #4
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Wow Odie! Great post! Thank you.
 
Old 01-06-2009, 10:09 AM   #5
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Wow Odie! Great post! Thank you.

I agree! It appears you really thought this one out...
 
Old 01-06-2009, 10:28 AM   #6
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Let me think about this
 
Old 01-06-2009, 11:22 AM   #7
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I agree! It appears you really thought this one out...
I was waiting for someone to point out the irony in making a post that was relatively well thought out titled "don't think so much"
 
Old 01-06-2009, 11:56 AM   #8
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you're right odie......i have a tendency to over think too much. i have a hard time just diving in balls to the wall style. i need to work on being less cautious.
 
Old 01-06-2009, 01:50 PM   #9
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you're right odie......i have a tendency to over think too much. i have a hard time just diving in balls to the wall style. i need to work on being less cautious.
Same here... and yes thanks. I think we all need to take a step back and just enjoy.
 
Old 01-06-2009, 05:35 PM   #10
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You can definitely overthink things. Sometimes it's best to relax and enjoy what you have.
 
Old 01-06-2009, 06:06 PM   #11
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Great post. Where's that rep button?
 
Old 01-06-2009, 06:25 PM   #12
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I TOTALLY overthink things sometimes.. and sometimes I swear I don't think at all. :Tard:
 
Old 01-07-2009, 02:52 PM   #13
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Good post Odie but I'm guilty of the opposite. I don't think enough. I feel my way through life.
 
Old 01-07-2009, 04:00 PM   #14
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Good post Odie but I'm guilty of the opposite. I don't think enough. I feel my way through life.
ZOMG! I totally know what you mean. I think that's a good thing though!
 
Old 01-07-2009, 05:16 PM   #15
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Good post Odie but I'm guilty of the opposite. I don't think enough. I feel my way through life.
i need to try feeling my way more......does this include groping??
 
Old 01-07-2009, 06:02 PM   #16
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If it we're for the information age we wouldn't have so much analysis. Used to be we would just get high and have sex
 
Old 01-07-2009, 07:09 PM   #17
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If it we're for the information age we wouldn't have so much analysis. Used to be we would just get high and have sex
those must have been the good ol' days. to bad i was born in 1985.
 
Old 01-07-2009, 11:16 PM   #18
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i need to try feeling my way more......does this include groping??
Um.. No.. just means to go with your emotions.. and not with your head. I love just going with the flow.. but the minute I have to put thought into something I become a total and complete idiot.. almost retreat back to an infant mentally.
 
Old 01-08-2009, 02:42 AM   #19
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i need to try feeling my way more......does this include groping??
Yes. And biting.
 
Old 01-09-2009, 11:03 AM   #20
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Great post- I think that's where "love will find you when u least expect it" kinda fits in. When your guard is down and you have no "expectations" or all that "must have, can't have, has to be...bs" isnt at the forfront and all those barriers are at ease- you allow someone or something that could prove to be quite special to walk into your life.

I agree, just let whatever will be- be. Don't over analyze everything
 
Old 01-10-2009, 07:44 PM   #21
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Nice post. Thanks for sharing it with us.

I've tried thinking and not thinking and both failed me on this last one. Oh well.
 
Old 01-10-2009, 10:46 PM   #22
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I tend to think and over analyze way too much!!!
 
Old 07-26-2009, 12:30 AM   #23
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I took two Fqitol's, they help me from over thinking it.
 
Old 12-16-2010, 04:28 PM   #24
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it is exactly when you quit looking at it, quit thinking about it, quit searching for it, that BAM it hits ya.

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Old 12-16-2010, 06:24 PM   #25
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Originally Posted by ODiE View Post
This is less advice, or a relationship discussion, maybe an observation. Or, just a note to myself and anyone else whom it may concern.

STOP THINKING ABOUT EVERYTHING SO MUCH


It's futile to decide what your deal breakers are, or what is "your type" and what isn't. All that achieves is closing our minds off to those that may end up fulfilling us in such a way we could not have imagined. Stop thinking about what to say and what not to say, pick up lines that work or don't work, it's all pretty pointless when the ideal is the person who won't care because you're accepted for whatever foot-in-the-mouth fuck up you may have just spouted. Hopefully they'll be the person to laugh with you about it, not hold it against you.

Don't worry about if you call on the first day or the third. What's right is right no matter how long you wait or don't.

Don't worry about what they want you to be because you can only pretend to be something else for so long.

Don't let other people dictate your relationships. They're not the ones that have to live with the person you decide to marry.

Forget about the lines between seeing someone, dating, dating exclusively, having a title, it doesn't change your relationship for the better to assign a name. It just adds a whole new level of assumptions and expectations that may or may not be fair or justifiable.

Know your own life and recognize when someone else doesn't fit into it. A clean break heals faster.

If you feel like you might be into someone, there's no harm in sticking around to find out. There is harm in sticking around to long when the conclusion should have come to you months ago.

Don't shit where you eat. That means it's probably a bad idea to date coworkers, friends ex's.... But maybe not.

Perception is reality. If you think someone isn't right for you, it will be so. Remember that when you think there aren't any good single people out there.

We pursue what evades us. A dog chases a tennis ball only when it's thrown. Is it any better when it's standing still? No, just not desirable. It's easy, it's attainable, it's available, it's unattractive. Know when you've spent to much time running and to much time chasing.

Nobody likes a negative nancy.

And finally don't kiss, have sex, move in together, say "i love you", get married, or get divorced, until your heart can't go on without doing so.
LOL, and I wonder why you make such a great roommate Although we do have kitchen differences
 
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