Clackamas

The question is vague because it means different things to different people in different situations at different times (unlike, apparently, in the Indonesian language). Take a phrase like "I love you" or "I am in love" -- there are a lot of assumptions as to what it means. So, what does it really mean?

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Washingtonblonde

It means you have a special place in my heart. Just how special.. well that's another story.

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TeashaMae

Hell if I know anymore. Honestly. My last serious relationship, to me was love and that ended in a thousand small tiny pieces with lasting negative effects on me that to this day.

I'm hoping one day to meet someone to redefine what I think "love" means.

In a none-romantic sense, its the feeling that you would do anything for that person, as I would do anything for my friends and family no matter the expense (not just monetary) without even a hesitation.

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vivid

what does "love" mean??...........love means its gonna hurt like hell.....(im really trying to work on changing my opinion here)

TeashaMae

I didn't realize how easy it is to sound bitter when discussing these topics. Not pointing at you, but when I'm typing out some responses, I have to really think about what I'm going to say.

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vivid

you're right. that was bitter. i will try harder. just give me a minute or two.

TeashaMae

No reason to change how you feel if thats how you actually do feel! I was more calling myself out on it, it's really easy to go to the bitter side, I just didn't realize how bitter I was until I tried to respond to a couple of these threads.

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zooktls97

I agree with this as love in general. It can be a special friend, family, bike, pet, cars, heck even a house that hold a special place in your heart.

Actually, the love that would make me do anything for that person is the kind of love I'm looking for with soul mate. The love that can make me go crazy and fall down on my knees and the most intoxicating thing on earth.
Romantic love is a deep, intense and eternal that is shared on a very intimate and interpersonal and sexual relationship.


I also agree with this statement since there're uncontrollable things in life such as death, broken heart, hatred, lies, lust, greed, unfaithful, etc etc that cause pain. We're humans, the non perfect being.

evander

for me

Love is about putting someone else's needs before yours. Love is an emotion that is shared. Love is unconditional. Love is being completely open and honest with the other person. Love can hurt. Being completely open and honest can be painful. Love means you have complete trust. Love is being truthful first with yourself then with others. Love is not being judgmental.

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vivid

evan...you always surprise me. very very well said.

Sittin Pretty

^^ Snap to that... I think the unconditional part always gets me. Either for me or the person I am with. But I guess that is why true love is hard to find. I totally agree with putting that person's needs before yours. Goes beyond your 'lover/ SO' but on to kids, friends, family and so on. My mom always told me to truly love somone you must know without a doubt, there is no hesitation. I have only felt that a few times in my life and most has been with family and just a few times with other.

zooktls97

Unconditional love. If such thing exists, then people should love their Xs unconditionally without boundaries. But people are so stubborn and invented divorce.

Sittin Pretty

but do you think divorce came from there being no unconditional love in the marriage or do you think there were already conditions and they didn't follow that 'rule' of love?

zooktls97

There're too many situations and excuses for divorce.
I still think it's wrong to have a divorce, but hey I'm just 1 person.

TeashaMae

I think the problem with marriage nowadays is people don't take it seriously, I don't think ~many~ people go into it forever....and know they can get out of it, not easy, but they can still go.

Trust has been lost, too many people being careless with others hearts.

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Clackamas

Marriage and divorce are big business. Like subscription based revenue, more recurrence is better for the industry.

Yep, I am being syndical. But, it is a sad truth.

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Jet City Angel

^^^ Points well taken. The marriage industry, in particular, is a huge revenue producing endeavor. It's too bad more people don't slow down, take a deep breath, and look at marriage as a soul and friendship-enriching experience, rather than a fairy-tale "keep up with the Jones'" story book.

However, I will say that if you're in a physically or emotionally abusive marriage, you've gotta get the hell out. Stigma or not, divorce does serve a legitimate purpose in many cases.

MrsD

So many different types of love... Love for your SO means trusting someone with your heart knowing they have the power to break it. I would do any thing for My husband he knows that, we love each other unconditionally, without judgement. Love with him means when we get old we will take care of each other and see the same sparkle as when we first met, for me that is very powerful and not something to take lightly we will stay in love. As for the rest of the people I love, my children, my grandchildren, my BF, my family. I love them all unconditionally in different ways but I'm not in love with them. However each one of them, at certain times have held my heart in there hands and at that moment there was no one I loved more. Love comes in many shapes forms and emotions, lasting for a moment or a life time, love can be seen and felt. It can sweep you off your feet or it can bring you to your knees in sorrow. Love means being Human.

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ODiE

I love lamp.

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zooktls97

I love my God. I love my family. I love my friends. I love my bike. I love my motorcycle. I love riding fast. I love PNWriders. I love my toys. I love my gadgets. I love my GPS. I love my cellphone. I love my computer. I love technology. I love my apartment. I love Seattle. I love Vegas. I love Jakarta. I love Indonesia. I love the world. I love my career. I love games & arcade. I love traveling. I love hiking. I love swimming. I love snowboarding. I love working out. I love mountains. I love beaches. I love jungles. I love forests. I love open seas. I love cruising on big cruise ships. I love vacations. I love hotels and room services. I love roller coasters. I love sixflags. I love food, all kinds of food. I love buffet. I love sushi. I love Pad see ew. I love fried rice. I love meat balls. I love Chinese, American or any BBQ beef, pork, and chicken. I love seafood. I love crabs, squid, tuna, and salmon. I love hotdogs. I love chicken wings. I love fried frog legs. I love noodles. I love junk food. I love beer import or domestic dark or lite. I love chocolate. I love fruits. I love movies, all kinds of movies. I love cartoons. I love superheroes. I love music, almost all kind of music. I love strip clubs. I love hot chicks. I love sleeping. I love dreaming. I love romance. I love kissing. I love hugging. I love cuddling. I love making love. I love making friends. I love to laugh. I love my life!

Sittin Pretty

I just piddled a little...

cityxslicker

I will tolerate your shiate more than anyone elses; I expect that its mutual.

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Driftertank

I think love, to me, kinda comes down to...kinda like the old "merchant of venice" thing...the leaden chest. "To give and hazard all he hath." I've always kinda been empathic towards the people I cared for. My partner's happiness tends to be a tangible thing for me. It's like warmth of sunshine in a cold, rainy world.

So, to be in love with someone, to me, is to take joy from their happiness.

I have to admit though, in recent times I have started to become rather ridiculously cynical about the whole thing.

MrsD

^^I think we all get a bit cynical about love at times I think its those times we are feeling taken for granted.... I like that " To give and hazarard all he hath".

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Mikercw

Whats love??

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Driftertank

Yes. If you've ever read the play, it's sort of an old convention; three caskets, one of gold (Who chooseth me shall have what many men desire), one of silver (Who chooseth me shall get as much as he deserves), and one of lead (Who chooseth me must give and hazard all he hath). They are laid out for suitors for the princess to choose one. If he choose the right one, he shall win her hand. The trick then, is of course to discern the nature of true love. To not be misled. To give all without knowing what is to be gained in return.

I'm kind of an old-fashioned romantic. I have always remembered that part of the play.

MrsD

^^^No I haven't....So the third is to Love with all your heart without expecting anything in return. Thats tough.. we all hope love to be returned, but we would be better off if we could Love without expectations. But then again we eventualy would feel used and taken for granted.

Mike... Love is.. when 2 old bats call you at 6am just to give you crap.

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Mikercw

Yes yes I know

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Driftertank

Sorry to anyone who's not into bible stuff, but I stumbled across this frame while reading webcomics the other day, and I thought it was kinda cool. Sums it fairly well.

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CForce

YouTube - Foreigner-I Want to Know What Love Is

cityxslicker

YouTube - J. Geils Band - Love Stinks

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Washingtonblonde

^^lol

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