Dragonfish

REALLY IN LOVE I knew already my wife was fully detached from me. According to her, age was largely the factor.
I should have brought up the fact I lived with her through the "fat" years. LOL!!! She's alway's been overweight, pretty, sexy and yes, by today's standards fat. But you know what?
Truly, love is blind, trust me....
I had an acquaintance that everytime I saw her I was spellbound. That was a couple years ago. She married a real f*ckstick of a guy, a complete asshole, but who knows what makes things right between two people. Come to find out she was married all along and was cheating on her husband with this guy.
She really was beautiful, stunningly so. Shallow as f*ck, but damn, was she pretty. Puyallup Blonde, petit, yada-yada...
So much for being in love, what a stupid freakin concept. Especially when no matter what, the 2 times in my entire life I really felt it for another person, inevitably let me down. Can I have a "Welcome to the club!" in chorus?
Anyway, infatuation, needs, or just wanna get laid don't count.
How many times have you been completely enamoured, head over heels, lost beyond hope in love?

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Wild Angel

HUmmm to say it this way " head over heels, lost beyond hope in love?" Once with my ex-husband infatuated misplacing that for love many many times more then I could count. I would get all excited like this was a good match then get my claws in them and start to see the real person and realize this is not all I was infatuated with.....Cloud nine is what I call that the first 3 months of any relationship is cloud nine beofre you come to earth show your true self to eachother....So do not take to heart those feelings in the first 3 months wait before you leap your heart fully to someone wait for the 4th or 5th month and then suck it all in for it's glory..

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TeashaMae

Twice.
I broke the first ones heart.
The second broke mine.

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Washingtonblonde

Three.

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MrsD

Twice the first one really never knew how I felt
The second one I married and I'm still lost beyond all hope in love with him

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Jet City Angel

Dragonfish, I could probably outmatch you in the number of heartaches. I've been a long-term guest at Heartbreak Hotel. In fact, now that I think about it, I should be promoted to V.P. of Club Heartbreak.

It IS comforting to know that many, many others have been there and share your pain... it reminds us of our humanity and teaches humility.

HOWEVER ... I still believe in true AND lasting love. I still hope to find it. Maybe it will happen for me and maybe it won't. But, I'm not going to shut down my heart for the rest of my life just because I happened to meet and fall in love with a few guys who didn't know themselves very well.

Given all these relationship experiences, I'm a helluva lot choosier and discerning than before. I've learned my lessons well and know I'm all the wiser for it.

Rockerchic

twice...
i married my first, and 3 years now after our divorce i still wonder wtf happend. I dont doubt that i'm on the right track, but it hurt beyond just pain...
and the 2nd...well...i still have my emotional outbursts. But Funny enough, I'm still looking forward to number 3. Being in love is the most rewarding feeling to experiance, so even if i love and loose, I will continue my search.

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recr8ton

Once.

TeashaMae

Well said my dear!

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Miss Annette

Never....

midlman

Once..I guess...I'm way to analytical about it these days...

Was it love? Was it lust? Was it just the timing and circumstances? Don't know; however, now every time I interact with my Ex...I can see how selfish and self centered she is and was...

wonder why I didn't see it all along? Maybe it was blinding love?

Whitefire

I really like the above.

Recently, I have learned a lot from a friend I would have never guessed to challenge me to confront my own actions in relationships I have had. Through some soul searching and long consideration, I can't say that I have truly been in love with a guy yet. I've certainly been involved with guys I've adored and cared for / had loving feelings for but lost beyond hope? Nope. I suppose from past relationships not working out, I've kept myself 'safe' by not allowing myself to get to know a guy well enough (or him get to know me) in order for love to even grow.

I think too many people have a preconceived notion of what they want in a relationship and they search for someone to mold into that idea. I'm open to falling in love with someone but I want them to feel the same as I do. I want to meet someone and grow with them and develop a future with them... not one of us try to mold the other into what we think we want. Did that make sense?

I'm not too concerned right now - I have a beautiful lil girl to take care of and have on the top of my list. Even if in a relationship, if presented with a situation where I had to leave the guy in order to better life for my daughter and I ~ I would. For now, I just want someone to enjoy spending time with... here and now... no expectations of future involvement.

Jet City Angel

Totally. Well said.

Timing seems to play a huge part in this equation, doesn't it? Both people have to be ready for it at the same time. That's the bugger ...

zooktls97

Yupe timing is always a major issue. Even when the timing is right, sometimes other things might interfere. So, I guess it's not an easy thing to get a good relationship and be totally in love with that special someone and maintaining it and keep it on track. So, kudos to couples out there that still together during all the good and the hard times.

Brady

never...

evander

Once.

Right now I don't know if it was better to have loved and lost, than never have loved at all. You can't miss something if you never knew what it was in the first place.

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Missy

Last time I was really love? I thought I was two different times while I was in the relationships, but I got over them so fast after the breakup that I really don't know. I guess I am still trying to figure out what 'true love' is.

If it was 'true love' then I can't imagine myself getting over them so fast.

evander

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Sittin Pretty

Same here... but the second put my heart back together again... so I guess you can call that 3.

smoothytaggert

I'll be back for this... I'm on the phone right now... BRB

Wild Angel

Okay so some time has gone by since this question was answered by me...in a way....To me love comes in many forms and LEVELS.
Friendship LOVE, great lovers (sex) LOVE, we have fun together LOVE, we have attraction LOVE.....Place all of those things together Naturaly = TRUE LONG LASTING LOVE.....
Have I EVER had this???? Maybe a few of those added together but all at once...I would have to say now YES!!!! so ONCE in my life.

Ahhh but with heart ache we learn and learn over and over again so when it is "RIGHT" you just know it is right!!

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Vigilante

Just once. I married her so she's stuck with me now.



posted April 10th? Dude, that is one long phone call you're on.

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ODiE

Never, I was born to spread my alpha male seed to AS MANY women as possible... But HOW DARE they cheat on me :P

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cityxslicker

Never in English.

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