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Old 12-18-2008, 05:40 PM   #1
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Relationship Mistakes

What's the worst mistake you've made in a relationship? What caused it to happen? Could it have been prevented? Did you even know it was happening? Have you repeated this in multiple relationships?

This isn't a prying/digging question. None of the intimate details are needed. Just a broad-based response and then some supplementary information if possible.


Purpose?

To share ideas and thoughts. Some mistakes for others to learn from. And hopefully, a chance to re-evaluate things you may not have realized when it was actually happening.

(I'm in self-exploration mode again here... )
 
Old 12-18-2008, 05:44 PM   #2
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Relationship Mistakes

What's the worst mistake you've made in a relationship?

This isn't a prying/digging question. None of the intimate details are needed. Just a broad-based response and then some supplementary information if possible.

Purpose?

To share ideas and thoughts. Some mistakes for others to learn from. And hopefully, a chance to re-evaluate things you may not have realized when it was actually happening.

So given the question at hand:

- What caused it to happen?
- Could it have been prevented?
- Did you realize it at the time or did you figure it out later?
- Have you repeated this in multiple relationships?
- What have you taken from it into other relationships?

(I'm in self-exploration mode again here... )
 
Old 12-18-2008, 05:58 PM   #3
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Not communicating with my SO.
 
Old 12-18-2008, 06:02 PM   #4
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Not communicating with my SO.


and not listening to my gut that something was wrong and bringing it up rather than just letting it all fall apart.
 
Old 12-18-2008, 06:14 PM   #5
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Fell for her best friend...
Best friend fell for me...

It was GREAT


Wait you said a mistake.... well ok in some eyes that could be one....
 
Old 12-18-2008, 06:19 PM   #6
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Person whom I chose.
 
Old 12-18-2008, 06:30 PM   #7
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Are their really 'mistakes'? Things happen for a reason. If people cheat - was it a mistake? I would say no.. they did it for a reason.. because something wasn't being met (sexual or not). People are who they are. We are all different. If being yourself doesn't do it for someone then it's not a mistake.. it's just not the right person.
 
Old 12-18-2008, 06:33 PM   #8
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Not communicating with my SO.
Yep....pretty much sums it up. Just clammed up after a particular incident..didn't want to work on it (stubborn pride) which eventually led to divorce.

Last edited by midlman; 12-18-2008 at 06:37 PM.
 
Old 12-18-2008, 06:59 PM   #9
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Leaving the one I love for the one I like...

I've learned it's best to "stick with your main entree and get over your sides."
 
Old 12-18-2008, 07:01 PM   #10
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Leaving the one I love for the one I like...

I've learned it's best to "stick with your main entree and get over your sides."
I told you that.... and what did you tell me...

"Sorry Mike, Your White"















Bitch!!
















love you
 
Old 12-18-2008, 07:02 PM   #11
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edit: double post Jason..FAIL
 
Old 12-18-2008, 07:02 PM   #12
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Edit Double Post Jason... FAIL
 
Old 12-18-2008, 10:55 PM   #13
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Argh. I'll see if Beans can merge the posts. Not sure why it did it 2x's.
 
Old 12-19-2008, 01:00 AM   #14
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hoppin in the sack on the first date
 
Old 12-19-2008, 01:06 AM   #15
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^okay, that was what came to mind to first but:

2nd thing is: putting ALL of me into the relationship. and forgetting my own morals. To sum it up: CONFORMING to what i think THEY need
 
Old 12-19-2008, 08:20 AM   #16
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becoming comfortable and thinking that the relationship would just "fix itsself" with time.
 
Old 12-19-2008, 09:33 AM   #17
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Molding myself into something that would make him happy, nothing I was or did was good enough and in the process started to lose myself, which in turn helped in the demise of our relationship. I'll never compromise myself again...ever.
 
Old 12-19-2008, 01:32 PM   #18
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Trusting too quickly.
 
Old 12-19-2008, 01:42 PM   #19
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Trusting too quickly.
 
Old 12-19-2008, 02:24 PM   #20
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Or not Trusting at all....
 
Old 12-20-2008, 02:55 PM   #21
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Or not Trusting at all....

Oh GOOOD one!!!!!
 
Old 12-20-2008, 06:25 PM   #22
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I'd go for it on the first "date" but if there's drama afterward, adios muchacha!
 
Old 12-20-2008, 08:33 PM   #23
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Wait.. Steve.. what does that have to do about the topic? I'm not getting it.
 
Old 12-20-2008, 09:27 PM   #24
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Since when do you have to establish a relationship to have wanton desire fulfilled? Yes it is preferable, but sometimes time is of the essence
 
Old 12-21-2008, 03:21 AM   #25
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threads merged
 
Old 12-21-2008, 05:19 AM   #26
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Since when do you have to establish a relationship to have wanton desire fulfilled? Yes it is preferable, but sometimes time is of the essence
If time is of the essence, failure to establish a relationship within that time... You wont get your desire fulfilled...

Its a catch 22

Last edited by Mikercw; 12-21-2008 at 05:25 AM.
 
Old 12-21-2008, 10:01 AM   #27
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Yeah.. still not getting it. That's okay.
 
Old 12-21-2008, 11:04 AM   #28
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Yeah.. still not getting it. That's okay.
See second part of screen name.....kthx
 
Old 12-21-2008, 01:17 PM   #29
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I told you that.... and what did you tell me...

"Sorry Mike, Your White"
What? lol I don't get it....

haha but Mike, you KNOW I only like yellow guys. Sowwy...
 
Old 12-21-2008, 01:32 PM   #30
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getting the thread back on track.

Being selfish.
 
Old 12-21-2008, 01:59 PM   #31
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What? lol I don't get it....

haha but Mike, you KNOW I only like yellow guys. Sowwy...
Taking the thread right back off track

I know you do.... Sad.... Sad..... Sad
 
Old 12-23-2008, 08:40 PM   #32
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Taking the thread right back off track

I know you do.... Sad.... Sad..... Sad
you wish you were yellow.
 
Old 12-23-2008, 10:37 PM   #33
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you wish you were yellow.
Yeah.... mostly to atleast get you in bed just once...
 
Old 12-24-2008, 09:19 AM   #34
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Yeah.... mostly to atleast get you in bed just once...
 
Old 12-24-2008, 09:32 AM   #35
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Having the wrong priorities and working too much.
 
Old 12-24-2008, 11:22 AM   #36
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Knowing it was going to be a disaster and doing it anyway for all the wrong reasons. Not being true to myself. I have learned so much since then, its amazing how every mistake has a lesson if you take the time to learn it.
 
Old 12-24-2008, 11:55 AM   #37
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Listening to her too much.
 
Old 08-06-2009, 02:05 PM   #38
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Not wanting to get married or have kids. Kills em every time. Not really mistakes as I am not changing my position on either, but it has killed every relationship I have ever been in.

Last edited by cityxslicker; 08-06-2009 at 02:08 PM.
 
Old 08-06-2009, 07:52 PM   #39
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Really cityxslicker? Isn't that something you'd establish from the start? There's a few basic things you need to be compatible on and those two are important. I won't compromise on the kids thing and never will, make that known quickly. Marriage? not so much, tried it once, didn't like it.

On topic, biggest mistake? Compromising my self. Not too badly, mostly activities I like to do but didn't cause the SO didn't like it or wouldn't come with kind of thing. I am who I am, not much will change. Deal with it.
 
Old 08-10-2009, 04:11 PM   #40
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What's the worst mistake you've made in a relationship?

Being in one
 
Old 08-10-2009, 04:32 PM   #41
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Really cityxslicker? Isn't that something you'd establish from the start? There's a few basic things you need to be compatible on and those two are important.
Yep, when girl friend applicant moves from fun bunny to girl friend; they always get the talk. 1) I aint havin kids, I got it cut when I was 18, and they aint going back in for a 'repair' 2) We aint getting married, not now, not in the future, not nowhere not no how. I am not chaning my mind.
3) GOD, we dont get along, and if HE is truly omnipotent, HE knows exactly why I wont set foot in a church, ever.

Alot of girls get nexted at that point. A couple of them hung on hoping I would CHANGE my mind (duh) and one became aunt and woke up one day decided she wanted to be a mom; that was the end of that.
 
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