Bikenut

Who knows MORE about you. I've heard the argument that your SO should know ALL your secrets. I dispute this. I will tweeze, bleach and buy form fitting underware WITHOUT my SO's knowledge. All the while my bf know's the brands, make and models of such devices. So who know MORE about YOU

Mikercw

No-one.... The way I like it! ;)

Bikenut

ok , if YOU did have a SO, who would know MORE about you

Mikercw

me

Washingtonblonde

Haha.. I'll play Dorian. 1000% my best friend knows more about me than any past/present/future SO ever will!!!!

Jeeperman

={ That's a shame.

dizzle

best friend for sure.

SO's come and go .. best friends are forever .. you can't divulge ALL your secrets :D.


my BF knows E-V-E-R-Y-T-H-I-N-G about me.. it's scarey. I think she knows more then me about me.

Plummy

my SO tends to quickly gain BF status. they'll eventually figure out/walk in on the gross stuff sooner or later if the relationship lasts.

atm, i don't have a real BF so it doesn't matter. my cat knows all.

TeashaMae

My BF and EX from ooohh 10 years ago know more about me, probably more than I even know about myself than any SO I could have.

Washingtonblonde

I can see how you think that.. but for all the dirty little girl secrets.. I like to keep those with my Bestest Friend. She knows things about me that I don't even know.. My SO doesn't need to know all of the naughty things about MY PAST (something I feel strongly about)..If he wants naughty then he should create NEW memories.. and not just dig up info on old ones.

Jeeperman.. think of ALL the crap you've done in your life.. Maybe they are things that a potential mate just MIGHT not need to know about you?? I'm just guessing that you might have a few rather crazy memories in that head of yours.

A best friend is a lot like a diary. I've confessed things to my diary (that unfortunately my mother read!!!) as well as my best friend. Sometimes you just need that one person to talk to to get thigs off your chest.

For me.. ANYTHING my BF wants to share with me, it will FOREVER be held in the strictest of confidence. Man I love her!!!!!

Miss Annette

Without a doubt my BF knows everything about me!!!! I don't have an SO and the truth is I have only ever had one SO in my life and it was very short lived and he is no longer on this earth. I have given it a lot of thought and while we were pretty open in our relationship there are things that I never discussed with him that I have with my BF. To be honest I never really knew the true meaning of a BF until Princess Sarah walked into my life. There was someone in my life that I referred to as my BF but I NEVER felt I could share my past and other things with her. I was too busy sheltering her from the bad that existed in my life to let her see the real me. I don't know how I ever lived without my BF and I don't want to EVER go back to living without her.

I can't imagine ever sharing my past with any future SO the way I do with my BF......

Jeeperman

Ok Ok I get your point. There are things that are unsaid due to the uselessness of knowing. Past details and such. I guess for the most part I was refering to someone whom is a long term SO, I keep no secrets from them and expect the same. I pay very close attention and pick up on things that many do not, so what personal things you may go through on a daily basis I will know sooner or later. I try to be open and honest with my SO, but then many have told me I am too much so. I did not think it possible.

Washingtonblonde

OMG! This is the best Christmas present ever! Thank you, Annette. I love you!

So.. I have one question still lingering.. I agree with you on the 'uselessness of knowing' and will quote you on that in the future. But when you say 'NO SECRETS' and I hate to use the word 'secret' because that's not really what it is.. it's more over every single DETAIL.. Do you mean from that point forward from meeting them or do you mean that to include every single stinkin detail from your past. I'm really touchy about sharing intimate details of my past with others... that's why I ask.. because that would be 'too much' for me.

TeashaMae

I <3 U, but did you kill someone or summin? I kid

Washingtonblonde

Haha.. No! Can you really see ME killing someone?? LOL!

I'm just not a big fan of questions and being grilled on things.. Have had to deal with this in the past. If I want you to know something then I'll tell you.

One way I look on things is that if I had an intimate relationship with someone.. then it's really nobody else's business. And just because it's in the past doesn't mean I'm obligated to give details about it. Some people are just entirely TOO nosey.

I could go further but I'll refrain.

vivid

i think that best friends pay more attention to your overall interests.

Jeeperman

There are details that are unimportant and need not be talked about due to the fact while no imediate harm may be done, some things can just do no good or serve any purpose. Such as what you have done with whom or how big was he compared to me. Don't care and don't want to know! No good can come from it. My whole thing is the trust shared. I would like to believe I could find someone in whom I could trust with everything and likewise be trusted just the same. It is a good idea not to share EVERYTHING, but I would hope that I could feel comfortable in doing so whether I do or not. Otherwise, how do I feel comfortable with open communication. It would not truely be open.

MrsD

Best friends know you better because they listen to every little thing every vent, every rant, every happy thought, they hear it all. There are things we may not share with our SO's because its either about them or there family or it seems trivial or they might just not get it because there wired differently. BF's pick up the pieces of a hard day and glue us back together so we can face the rest of the day and make a pleasant evening for our SO's. A BF is priceless and deserves an award for keeping us at our best, holding us when we cry and don't know why. They keep our secrets safe and kick us when we are being a knucklehead I think my relationship is better with my SO because I have my BF. Thanks D and to answer your question directly I know you better

Missy

110% best friend. Mine has been there for me forever and SO have ditched at a moments notice. She is the only one I trust with everything.

evander

my SO's in the past have been my best friend.

Bikenut

better than anyone else! My SO is fully aware you know all And you are totally right! It DOES make your relationship better. He doesn't have to hear my rant and raves - you do



I hope my SO never leaves but I can BANK on my BF til she kicks dirt in the grave.

zooktls97

Why can't your SO be your BF as well?
If your SO can't be your BF, then might as well find another one who can.

Miss Annette

I don't know about anyone else but I already have a BF. And I must say it has taken me years to get her and to achieve the kind of relationship that I have with her.

That said...I am not saying that it is not possible to get an SO and eventually reach that point where you feel close enough to them to share your secrets (past and present) alike. But that is not achieved overnight or even after a couple months of dating. It takes time. And if my SO expects me to just start confiding in him the way I do my BF because we are 'together' then he can think again because it is not going to happen and he needs to just accept that.

Bikenut

I was waiting for this to come up. Maybe it's a girl thing, I don't know. He IS my best friend, intimate male freind. I do tell him how I feel, but when it comes to the little things - how the kids are driving me crazy, how I have to down two glasses of wine before seeing his mother, how irritating his sleeping habits can be, I call my BF and we can giggle about it and then it's all good.

In return, I don't tell Ladena...wait....nevermind.

Let's put it THIS way, relationship are HARD. But with BEST FREINDS, you have no fear of it ever being brought up again, thrown in your face or used against you in the future. And PLEASE don't say that ANY relationship should be like this. Be realistic. I don't know of ANY SO relationship that at some time and point mud is not flung.

zooktls97

Point taken.
It's just the idea of keeping secrets still bugs me.
But I guess time will tell whether a person is ready to share a secret, etc.
I for one don't have any secrets, so I guess I won't have this problem.

Bikenut

I guess I shouldn't have used the word 'secret' and what degree we are talking about. I wouldn't hide a bill, ticket or something that really bugged me. But on the other hand, he is your 'typical' male and doesn't want to hear about how painful waxing is or that I am perplexed by what scent to buy at Victoria's Secret. I rely on my BF for these things .

Qtip

I would have to say without a doubt BF...some things your SO just doesn't need to know. I don't consider it keepin a secret from them I just think some of the stupid off the wall stuff should only be shared between a person and their BF. Just like there is intimate things that you only share with your SO.

Miss Annette

hmmmmm......I agree except for the very last part. My BF knows EVERY intimate detail of my life. She does not have a choice.....

Washingtonblonde

I'm trying to think of the last thing you told/asked me.. .. It was so cute.. OHHHHHH! I remember! LOL! I love you so much!!

Bikenut

exactly! Does your SO REALLy want to know what you you think of their insane, crazy mother..ooops. Need to reel it in a little but you get the point. Just like I don't relay my pillow talk to my BF...eww. I don't want to hear about her explicit man relations. We live together everyday sharing everyday experiences. Wow, I had no clue this would be so hard to explain. Glad the ole man understands it or I'd be fucked

Sittin Pretty

You know I used to think my SO.. because I consider him my BF... but you know what he is and isn't because he doesn't need to know every detail and frankly most likely doesn't want to.
So I call BF... or Mom