Oxygen

Have you ever been in one? If so, did you notice anything that wasn't there (problems etc) when dating within your own race?


If you haven't,

Would you ever date someone of a different race? Why or why not?

Would you ever marry someone of a different race? How would your family respond?

dizzle

yes i have been in one.

i've never dated within my own race.

i only date outside of my race.

i would definitely marry someone outside of my race.

my mom is still turning over in her grave that i won't marry a filipina.

dizzle

you know my stance on this vickie.

do work!

Mikercw

Really????

Does race really have anything to do with - who a person is, how they might treat you, how you feel about them, how others feel he/she treats you?

Its 2008, we shouldn't be bared to believe that dating, marrying, sleeping with someone of a different race would effect people. If your friends and family truly love you for a person.. they would respect your choice and decision on anybody you date/ want to be with. They should stand behind you 110% with your life choices

Oxygen

why can't everyone be like you Mike?

it's funny, because my parents don't give a shit if my boyfriend is white, yellow, or purple...but my boyfriend's parents cannot stand the fact that I'm not asian and it makes me sad all day.

Mikercw

Thanks hun, but everyone like me....would be weird!

Sadly Asian cultures were raised to believe that their heritage needs to be shared within there own.... So for a Asian to date outta their own race was to be believed as wrong.

Nothing you can do with how people are raised... Just be happy with what you have!











Edit: reason why you should come back to the white side...;) kidding love ya hun

Metonymy

There are certain races in which I won't date. It's a matter of the cultural differences as opposed to them simply being of a different skin color.

Washingtonblonde

I've dated a few different races. Did I notice any problems that weren’t there when dating within my own race? … I had MORE issues when dating my own race.. I’m assuming you mean from others and how they treat me/us. No – I haven’t noticed any. But then again I’m pretty oblivious to a lot of things. I don’t look around to see other people’s reactions.

Would I marry someone of a different race? ABSOFRICKINLUTELY! My family wouldn’t care. Just my ex-husband.. and well.. I don’t think I need to comment on that.

epiphany

Does this not hold true for her b/f's parents as well?

Should we not respect their beliefs because we do/don't agree with them?

recr8ton

Actually Mike...yes it does have to do with it and heres way...culturial differances or culture clashes. As Oxygen said...her boyfriends parents hate that she isn't asian. She and her boyfriend will feel the strain of that for as long as they are togeather. His parents (I'm going to assume) are old school asian it sounds like, Oxygen will never be fully accepted into his family...sorry to say that, but it's the truth. It would be great if those issues weren't in the world, but, the world isn't a romance movie. Wish it were.

I've dated across a few races and every one of them had vastly differant culturial differnaces, belief systems and social differrances...some I was agreable with, some I was not.

Plummy

yes. the only issue that came up was me being blindingly white and he couldn't see in the morning sometimes from the reflection of the sun off of me.

DJ Nathan V

Generally speaking, race has no bearing anymore in relationships. The ones perpetuating the problems often enough these days are the parents and grandparents of this generation. It's pathetic. I don't see race with regards to who I would or wouldn't date. Either I'm attracted to the person or not.

CForce

I haven't, but I certainly would. Race doesn't really enter my thought process when choosing who to date.

I wouldn't rule out marrying someone because of their race. I'm a little concerned that mixed-race children have a harder time, and would discuss that with her before marrying and having children. And if I did marry someone of a different race, my family would be supportive--Not because of their race, but because they were part of my life.

DJ Nathan V

Would you ever date someone of a different race? Why or why not?
Sure, doesn't make a difference to me.


Would you ever marry someone of a different race? How would your family respond?
I think it would depend on the race... but I know it wouldn't be entirely positive for some races.

Cooley

I don't think I can help it... kinda too much of a mutt for anything different.

Washingtonblonde

I disagree.. I think you are such a mutt that you have a little bit of the SAME race as everyone!

Dragonfish

I once hung out with a gal who was a mixie, Problem was her personality, some days she was very ethnocentric and others not. I didn't know if it was some kind of psychosis or identity crisis

TeashaMae

Yes I have and yes I would.

Bikenut

I can't remember being in an inter-racial relationship off the top of my head. Not that it would bother me. It just never occurred. All I know is my brother is not white, neither is my daughter's bf. I've seen what they have had to go through. It's really sad that in this day and age, color or ethinicity is such a factor.

Mikercw

That is the boyfriends parents... once they are over 18 does someone need to be held to THEIR standards not their own?
There's a difference between respect and beliefs



HUH? Thanks for covering what was already said

It comes down to having them respect and understand tht they are happy with someone... It SHOULDN`T matter...
Read my second post~

elaine

Yes... problems are there... they're just ... different issues.

One guy I dated didn't like the fact that he thought I was overly "affectionate" hugs/pecks on the cheek or even just cheek-to-cheek *muahs* with all my friends... We'd fight about it all the time. I tried to explain to him that I grew up on an island and I was brought up with that culture... he said "it was wrong" and that I "shouldn't do it anymore" because I live in the states. WTF!? He was a meat head and pretty closed-minded. Oh! And that was coming from a guy who was the same race as me!

Yes... have... would again.

Marriage is not on the forefront of my mind... but to answer... I probably would. My dad could probably care less; he judges character, not color. My mom would probably want me to be with someone of an "island/asian" background. And my step-mom/dad would care less so long as I were happy.

Qtip

Well since I'm mixed, every relationship is a multiracial one for me. Every one I've been in have had their own little quirks but nothing that really stands out.

The white side of my family no longer cares about mutil racial relationships as the last racist member of that side died this year.

On the black side, they would prefer me to marry or date a black woman, but they are open to all races.

ODiE

I only date aboriginals.

recr8ton

yeah..caught it in the second pass, sorry bout that!

Clackamas

Well, the only issues that came up where:

1. She really wanted kids of the same race. Her ex-husband was italian and she was settling for the darker skin/black hair.

2. Have you ever been to a Hispanic family galia? Really fun, but being like the only white, blue eye, dirty blond there -- it wasn't uncomfortable per say, she prep me, but different from my WASP background.

Panther

Yes I have and yes I would again. Doesnt matter to me.

CStyle

I am not biased or racist what - so-ever.... i like all HOT females.

Rev G

I'm a white boy through and through and I tend to go for latinas. I've only dated one white girl. My soon to be x-wife is puerto rican, and been talking to a Colombian girl. IDK what it is about latinas but I just seem to be really attracted to them. And no, I cant speak a lick of spanish even though I've tried to learn on several occasions lol.

Wild Angel

I was married to a man from El Salvador and I learned the language I could not speak to my mother-in-law other wise. The family gatherings were great I really miss the familia!
My familia did not really care because they do not care about me anyways. I have a mixed child and she is very pretty. I had found that not many people looked at us funny beside all the kids that came out of the mini van you see we had together combined with the one we created 5 kids!! But then again I had dark hair and many many hispanic people thought I was hispanic also ( mostly in the summer).

It is tough to be in this situation when familia wants to keep it all the same color but if they are kind true loving people they will except you.

Dragonfish

Is "Trailer Park" a race?

Mikercw

Yes, Redneck!

Washingtonblonde

Is there a difference between redneck and white trash?

Oxygen

lol I think yes...but more often than not the two go hand in hand

late apex

I'm the worlds only registered liberal redneck.

Mikercw

Well you define both of them... What they are too you..Maybe you can answer your own question...

Washingtonblonde

This makes me sad..

zooktls97

Don't let culture or color of skin ruin your love.
Love is a beautiful thing.
If parents won't open their eyes, then let them be.
I know it's hard not to have family support.
But sometimes parents also need to learn to open their horizon.

Go watch Dragon: The Bruce Lee Story played by Jason Scott Lee
It's about interracial marriage and true story about Bruce Lee and his white wife.

I think it's a good movie and they got married in the 70s.

Cooley

white trash comes from norther parts... (Minnesota, Wisconsin etc..) where they don't get much sun so they stay paper white (the trash part comes natural) and down south (Louisiana, Mississippi etc..) they get there necks all tan/red and stuff. in the end they seem to be the same thing.

Washingtonblonde

Hehe! This actually makes sense!!!

Dragonfish

The more I think about it, it seems to be a predisposed genetic trait which created a culture. Even wealthy celebs are afflicted, look at Pamela Anderson and Kid Rock.

zooktls97

Culture = how things get done around here, there or anywhere.
So how things get done around here might not be the same as how things get done in other states, countries etc.
If you don't learn culture things from the beginning, it might end up with a break up in the long run.
What's worst is if you're married and figured this culture stuff later on, then divorce is imminent.