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Old 04-14-2011, 10:36 AM   #1
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Girlfriend cheated

Ugh, so the girl got back from a trip to visit family in cali, and a day or two later she went to a play with this dude then slept with him. Then proceeded to ignore me for 2 weeks until I final asked her for something of mine back.
She was finally able to tell me, which I appreciate, and I'm really wanting to let it go, but maybe I'm holding on too hard? She said that she was upset that I wasn't texting and calling more then I was when she was on her trip, which may have been true. Then when she got back, we went on a nice motorcycle ride for like 40 minutes, then stopped at rock creek tavern, they where crowded, and we had trouble finding a table, and I said something like I'm not into it, can we find somewhere else to go? She wasn't into that idea, blew up over something that seems small to me (like she often does) and decided to go home without eating. Leading to 26, I found somewhere else that we could eat, but she was still not into it. Then she dropped her bike, picked up and it wouldn't start, I switched the key off, then back on and it started, no fluids leaking, she hopped on and left for home. I broke off at sylvan, as I was a little irritated that we didn't get more riding in. That was wrong of, I should followed her to make sure she got home. She instead of going home, went to a bar she thought she might find this dude at. Eventually went home then we went to a party we had planned on going to. Looking back at that now, she was distant, standing on her own, and finding somewhere else to stand when I came to hang out with her. That was the last I saw of her till yesterday. She apparently asked the other guy out to a play, then slept with him, then slept with him again, then again.

The other guy thinks he's going out with her, but I think she's over it. Maybe I need to let her move on to someone else, but I'm reluctant to let a good thing go. I'm not in love with her (yet at least) but we have allot of fun together, and I had so many things planned for romantic adventures.
Sorry for the long post, I wanted to get it off my chest. Hope your week has been better then mine.
 
Old 04-14-2011, 01:59 PM   #2
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ummm wow that sucks are you sure you still want to be with someone who I don't know basicaly screwed you over. Sounds to me like its her game or no game at all if you want to play the puppet then by all means. No matter how you look at it... it sucks. I'm supposed to be doing my quetions and working you got me off track LOL. Hope your week gets better and BTW Welcome to the Love Boat
 
Old 04-14-2011, 01:59 PM   #3
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best way to forget the last booger on your finger.... is to get a new one.
she is gone, you got out early and off light.
enjoy your freedom, find another one, or enjoy the summer on the bike and FORGET about girls (because the moment you make a conscious effort that I dont give a flying f*ck about women..... the right one will come along) DAMHIK
 
Old 04-14-2011, 03:26 PM   #4
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I can only offer totally idiotic advice..ask her what the fuck is going on. That said, ask yourself is it worth it and what do you want?. I know, totally stupid but really, she slept with someone else. She's allowed to if you are not committed to each other. Does she want to be committed to you? Have you asked her? I know, a totally insane idea but I encourage you to do so. She may like you but not sure..again, communication is a wonderful thing. Oh, btw..if she lies kick the bitch to the curb. Nothing worse than a liar.
 
Old 04-14-2011, 08:51 PM   #5
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Do what I do.



Say fuck it and go ride.

Yes, even in the rain.
 
Old 04-15-2011, 01:28 AM   #6
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^^^ and then dance
 
Old 04-15-2011, 08:46 AM   #7
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....Uh, last time I tried to dance, a random stranger asked if I'd like them to call an ambulance.....


But I'm reckoning on going for a cold, potentially wet ride in just a few minutes.
 
Old 04-15-2011, 10:35 AM   #8
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I am seriously considering seeing a hypnotherapist for my dancing phobia,
not that I believe that it will by any means make me a good dancer
but it will relinquish the phobia in my head, and give me a good dose of I dont give a fuck

if you have seen Elaine Benis's thumb dance.... she is light years ahead of me.
 
Old 04-15-2011, 07:24 PM   #9
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Thanks for the warm welcome. i would indeed be out riding ever free chance I had, though, my wheel barrings started squeaking on me (in the Dalles) so my bike is up on a block till I get that sorted.. Friend with tools said he'd help (i have tools of course, just not a baring puller nor the special "wrench" to unscrew this weird "nut"), guess I need to bug him more or just drop the cash somewhere else.

On other note; there's more to the story, but she wants to hang out tonight. Feeling like might as well, i really hate making decisions though; will probably go against most advice I've received.. .

Oh, and dancing does help, until the girl you've been eying shy's away from you on the floor. No phobia here (when inebriated) probably no skill either though.
 
Old 04-16-2011, 07:02 AM   #10
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I understand. On all counts...
 
Old 04-16-2011, 07:55 AM   #11
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Quote:
Originally Posted by joren View Post
Thanks for the warm welcome. i would indeed be out riding ever free chance I had, though, my wheel barrings started squeaking on me (in the Dalles) so my bike is up on a block till I get that sorted.. Friend with tools said he'd help (i have tools of course, just not a baring puller nor the special "wrench" to unscrew this weird "nut"), guess I need to bug him more or just drop the cash somewhere else.

On other note; there's more to the story, but she wants to hang out tonight. Feeling like might as well, i really hate making decisions though; will probably go against most advice I've received.. .

Oh, and dancing does help, until the girl you've been eying shy's away from you on the floor. No phobia here (when inebriated) probably no skill either though.
You have to do whats best for you and sometimes the easy road is just easier at the time. Just remember to get some armor for your heart.
BTW I really can't dance either I just like to move to the music if people don't' want like it don't watch I'm in my own world when it comes to music..DID YOU HEAR THAT CITYSLICKER ..it just doesn't matter what the professional dancers think But then again I can't keep up with the professional drinkers either I used too but not anymore But I don't care..thats my motto for the day ..what ever, I don't care
 
Old 04-16-2011, 02:13 PM   #12
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years of elementary school tortuous 'gym' classes, years of jr high rejections, years of highschool avoidance, years of college abstinance, decades of jet aircraft

I cant hear it, dont find it fun being around, and dont like the entire event. which is why I probably need hypnotherapy. I would rather endure 1000 razor blade cuts and then a soak in a tub of rubbing alcohol.

and any biatch that wants to come sniffin around after being off leash with another mutt; is best dropped to the kennel. I am not big on forgiveness or apologies, if you were truly f'n sorry about it, you wouldnt have damn done it in the first place. You got out early, and off light, find another.

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Old 04-24-2011, 06:41 PM   #13
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If she's screwing other dudes she's really not that into you whether she's "committed" or not. If she was into you she'd be trying to figure out the next time she could be with you.

I reckon my pride would tell her to have a nice life but that's just me.
 
Old 04-25-2011, 05:28 AM   #14
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If she's screwing other dudes she's really not that into you whether she's "committed" or not. If she was into you she'd be trying to figure out the next time she could be with you.

I reckon my pride would tell her to have a nice life but that's just me.
Hes back.....
 
Old 05-01-2011, 08:05 AM   #15
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Oh boy, you my friend now have all the power. She fucked you over literally, so you can do whatever you want. Want to hang out with her for the night and then treat her like the dirty cheating whore she is and PIITB, guess what you can cause she fucked someone else. You guys are out and you see a better model that you want to take home, guess what you can cause she went out and fucked someone else. And when she gets all upset that you've ditched her or you got yours but she didn't finish, just tell her "well I guess you should of thought about that before you let some guy throw it in you"

She obviously doesn't want a real relationship with you so do whatever the fuck you want. Women wonder how guys become assholes, just present them this story. The Q has spoken


Oh yeah welcome to the forum
 
Old 05-04-2011, 09:32 PM   #16
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Oh boy, you my friend now have all the power. She fucked you over literally, so you can do whatever you want. Want to hang out with her for the night and then treat her like the dirty cheating whore she is and PIITB, guess what you can cause she fucked someone else. You guys are out and you see a better model that you want to take home, guess what you can cause she went out and fucked someone else. And when she gets all upset that you've ditched her or you got yours but she didn't finish, just tell her "well I guess you should of thought about that before you let some guy throw it in you"

She obviously doesn't want a real relationship with you so do whatever the fuck you want. Women wonder how guys become assholes, just present them this story. The Q has spoken


Oh yeah welcome to the forum
This was sort of my thoughts exactly. I sort of get attached (or re-attached) too easily though. Over now at least, 5th times a charm?

And thanks everyone for the welcomes and advice, I really do need it, even if I don't follow it.

On to greener pastures.
-Joren
 
Old 05-05-2011, 07:27 AM   #17
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have you seen the Ukrainian girls ?
 
Old 05-05-2011, 08:28 AM   #18
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In the stamina problems thread? Yes. The second one is damn fine.
 
Old 05-05-2011, 04:45 PM   #19
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its the same girl, her hair gets lighter in the summer. almost a chestnut color versus the darker brunette.
 
Old 06-16-2011, 01:58 AM   #20
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Just forget about her life is full of surprises ,you never know when you are going to meet your soulmate.
 
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