Clackamas

I had a discussion with another mid-lifer recently about having or not having kids and being, well, a mid-lifer...

How, a childless adult, does that effect finding someone in your age group with or without kids?

How, as a childless, dating adult, does that influence your dating decisions?

Rockerchic

lemme know what ya find out.
over 30 with no kids....interestingly enough, the past relationship HE had custody, and the last few dates I went on, both men were single full time dads.there must be some seriously flaky womenz out there nowadays. used to never hear of a man having custody

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evander

It does effect who I'll date. I dont want someone with kids as I don't have any of my own yet. I'm looking to build a family and if I have to look at younger women without kids of their own I will.

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TeashaMae

I'm not opposed to dating someone with kids, but honestly I would prefer not to, just as Evan stated, would like to build a family together.....and then there's the baby mamma drama too....

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Sittin Pretty

I know I don't want kids so I wouldn't consider dating anyone who already had kids.

For those of you who want to build a family with that 'someone'.... is that a question you ask right off the bat or do you wait to see how things go.

DJ Nathan V

I find ways to bring it up early. I'm not starting off on the first date asking someone if they want kids. Talking about my niece usually bring up the topic so it's not hard to get a feel for someone's like/dislike of children and usually weather or not they want any.

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Sittin Pretty

so with that... if you get the feel that girl doesn't want kids... do you think she will change her mind or do you take it for what she says?


I ask because my x-mom-n-law was convinced I would change my mind after we got settled. But I was very clear from the get go that I didn't want to be a mom.

Washingtonblonde

I swear I responded to this thread twice now! what the heck?! I give up.

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Clackamas

This poll is about age

The other poll is about desire....

recr8ton

my reply from a simular thread

as a male with no kids, dating a single mother can be pretty rough. You'll never be number one in her life, never be able to just go on any spontanious adventures. Then there is the dymanic of the mother and fathers relationship...is it good, bad. Then there is your relationship with them both and how invovled you are with the kid(s), because eventually you will become a parent figure in every way...It's alot for a guy to step into.

vivid

ah yes. the childless discussion.....this does pertain to me. i spent many years never thinking a thing about this as i was involved in a fifteen year relationship with a man who was not interested in having children and was not going to enter into a second marriage.
fast forward a year and a half. i've been really surprised at how many single men are fathers. it's been a big surprise. in all age categories. but not an unpleasant one. and certainly not one that would alter my decision to get involved with someone. i love children....whether they would be my own or someone elses.

Clackamas

Aren't two polls better than one?

zooktls97

Depends if it's a strip pole.
Anyways. I don't have kids yet, so I'd only date someone without kids due to the fact that I'm an attention whore.
I would love kids on my own when we're ready fo sho.

Qtip

I have yet to date someone that has kids, not really opposed to the idea and I know as I get older it will most likely be more and more difficult to find a woman that doesn't have kids. So the short answer, doesn't really matter.

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Miss Annette

I LOVE kids. And it is a turn on for me when a guy is a hands on dad. So it does not matter to me if a guy already has kids. BUT I have always wanted a little girl so it would matter to me if the guy did not want anymore kids.

recr8ton

It just occurred to me I answered the poll but didn't post my status...38 - no kids

KaReBarE

I'm 25 WITH kids =)

Washingtonblonde

Kids FTW.. Just enriches your life like no other....

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cityxslicker

Didnt enjoy being a kid, not having them, I choose to not be around them.
the available pool of women that dont have kids in this town (bremerton) is amazingly small, smaller still is the thimble of them that dont have them, and dont want them either.

On the plus side, the women that had them early and have the kids out of the house are all starting to get divorces and sew their wild oats, divorcees for the WIN.

Oh since first answering this I have had a birthday so it is now 41 and older NO kids. I cant apparently change my vote.

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