PNW Love

Go Back   PNW Love > PNW Love > Over 30

View Poll Results: Age Group -- With kids you have or had custody of:
I am 18 - 20, no kids. 0 0%
I am 21 - 30, no kids 10 45.45%
I am 31 - 40 no kids 6 27.27%
I am 41 - 50 no kids 1 4.55%
I am 51 - 60 no kids 0 0%
I am older than dirt, no kids (>60) 0 0%
I am 21 - 30, with kid(s) 1 4.55%
I am 21 - 30, with kids(s) 0 0%
I am 31 - 40 with kid(s) 2 9.09%
I am > 40 with kid(s) 2 9.09%
Voters: 22. You may not vote on this poll

Reply
 
LinkBack Thread Tools Display Modes
Old 11-17-2008, 01:38 PM   #1
Use it, or Lose it.
 
Clackamas's Avatar
 
I'm a Guy
Living in Seattle, WA [Queen Anne]

Kids, or No Kids, That is the Question

I had a discussion with another mid-lifer recently about having or not having kids and being, well, a mid-lifer...

How, a childless adult, does that effect finding someone in your age group with or without kids?

How, as a childless, dating adult, does that influence your dating decisions?

Last edited by Clackamas; 11-17-2008 at 01:43 PM.
 
Old 11-17-2008, 01:45 PM   #2
miss-communicator
 
Rockerchic's Avatar
 
I'm a Female
Living in spokane

lemme know what ya find out.
over 30 with no kids....interestingly enough, the past relationship HE had custody, and the last few dates I went on, both men were single full time dads.there must be some seriously flaky womenz out there nowadays. used to never hear of a man having custody
 
Old 11-17-2008, 02:16 PM   #3
is on lifes journey
 
evander's Avatar
 
I'm a Guy
Living in Spokane and loving it
Looking for Conversation
Humor is Raunchy
Have a Unique fashion style

It does effect who I'll date. I dont want someone with kids as I don't have any of my own yet. I'm looking to build a family and if I have to look at younger women without kids of their own I will.
 
Old 11-17-2008, 02:25 PM   #4
~Messy Baby~
 
TeashaMae's Avatar
 
I'm a Chicky-poo
Living in my own reality....

I'm not opposed to dating someone with kids, but honestly I would prefer not to, just as Evan stated, would like to build a family together.....and then there's the baby mamma drama too....
 
Old 11-17-2008, 02:48 PM   #5
PNW Love Senior
 
Sittin Pretty's Avatar
 
I'm a Chicky-poo
Living in South End

I know I don't want kids so I wouldn't consider dating anyone who already had kids.

For those of you who want to build a family with that 'someone'.... is that a question you ask right off the bat or do you wait to see how things go.
 
Old 11-17-2008, 02:52 PM   #6
M0DERAT0R
 
DJ Nathan V's Avatar
 
I'm a Gentleman
Living in Auburn, WA

Quote:
Originally Posted by Sittin Pretty View Post
For those of you who want to build a family with that 'someone'.... is that a question you ask right off the bat or do you wait to see how things go.
I find ways to bring it up early. I'm not starting off on the first date asking someone if they want kids. Talking about my niece usually bring up the topic so it's not hard to get a feel for someone's like/dislike of children and usually weather or not they want any.
 
Old 11-17-2008, 02:57 PM   #7
PNW Love Senior
 
Sittin Pretty's Avatar
 
I'm a Chicky-poo
Living in South End

so with that... if you get the feel that girl doesn't want kids... do you think she will change her mind or do you take it for what she says?


I ask because my x-mom-n-law was convinced I would change my mind after we got settled. But I was very clear from the get go that I didn't want to be a mom.
 
Old 11-17-2008, 03:04 PM   #8
So Amazingly Happy
 
Washingtonblonde's Avatar
 
I'm a Lady
Living in Lacey, WA

I swear I responded to this thread twice now! what the heck?! I give up.
 
Old 11-17-2008, 03:09 PM   #9
Use it, or Lose it.
 
Clackamas's Avatar
 
I'm a Guy
Living in Seattle, WA [Queen Anne]

Quote:
Originally Posted by Washingtonblonde View Post
I swear I responded to this thread twice now! what the heck?! I give up.
This poll is about age

The other poll is about desire....
 
Old 11-17-2008, 03:11 PM   #10
PNW Love Junior
 
recr8ton's Avatar
 
I'm a Guy
Living in Portland

my reply from a simular thread

as a male with no kids, dating a single mother can be pretty rough. You'll never be number one in her life, never be able to just go on any spontanious adventures. Then there is the dymanic of the mother and fathers relationship...is it good, bad. Then there is your relationship with them both and how invovled you are with the kid(s), because eventually you will become a parent figure in every way...It's alot for a guy to step into.
 
Old 11-17-2008, 03:16 PM   #11
*vibrantly vivacious*
 
vivid's Avatar
 
I'm a Girl
Living in seattle,wa

ah yes. the childless discussion.....this does pertain to me. i spent many years never thinking a thing about this as i was involved in a fifteen year relationship with a man who was not interested in having children and was not going to enter into a second marriage.
fast forward a year and a half. i've been really surprised at how many single men are fathers. it's been a big surprise. in all age categories. but not an unpleasant one. and certainly not one that would alter my decision to get involved with someone. i love children....whether they would be my own or someone elses.

Last edited by vivid; 11-17-2008 at 10:34 PM.
 
Old 11-17-2008, 03:24 PM   #12
Use it, or Lose it.
 
Clackamas's Avatar
 
I'm a Guy
Living in Seattle, WA [Queen Anne]

Quote:
Originally Posted by Washingtonblonde View Post
I swear I responded to this thread twice now! what the heck?! I give up.
Aren't two polls better than one?
 
Old 12-31-2008, 08:48 AM   #13
PNW Love Sophomore
 
zooktls97's Avatar
 
I'm a Guy
Living in Seattle

Quote:
Originally Posted by Clackamas View Post
Aren't two polls better than one?
Depends if it's a strip pole.
Anyways. I don't have kids yet, so I'd only date someone without kids due to the fact that I'm an attention whore.
I would love kids on my own when we're ready fo sho.
 
Old 12-31-2008, 10:10 AM   #14
Engineer of the Love Boat
 
Qtip's Avatar
 
I'm a Guy
Living in One in Washington

I have yet to date someone that has kids, not really opposed to the idea and I know as I get older it will most likely be more and more difficult to find a woman that doesn't have kids. So the short answer, doesn't really matter.
 
Old 12-31-2008, 10:26 AM   #15
Sarah's little mermaid
 
Miss Annette's Avatar
 
I'm a Lady
Living in Renton, WA
Humor is Dry/Sarcastic
Have a Classic fashion style

I LOVE kids. And it is a turn on for me when a guy is a hands on dad. So it does not matter to me if a guy already has kids. BUT I have always wanted a little girl so it would matter to me if the guy did not want anymore kids.
 
Old 01-02-2009, 11:18 AM   #16
PNW Love Junior
 
recr8ton's Avatar
 
I'm a Guy
Living in Portland

It just occurred to me I answered the poll but didn't post my status...38 - no kids
 
Old 01-02-2009, 06:50 PM   #17
PNW Love Sophomore
 
KaReBarE's Avatar
 
I'm a Girl
Living in Kennewick

I'm 25 WITH kids =)
 
Old 01-03-2009, 02:21 AM   #18
So Amazingly Happy
 
Washingtonblonde's Avatar
 
I'm a Lady
Living in Lacey, WA

Kids FTW.. Just enriches your life like no other....
 
Old 06-11-2009, 12:14 PM   #19
PNW Love Member
 
cityxslicker's Avatar
 
I'm a Dude
Living in Sequim - Yeah, Baby!

Didnt enjoy being a kid, not having them, I choose to not be around them.
the available pool of women that dont have kids in this town (bremerton) is amazingly small, smaller still is the thimble of them that dont have them, and dont want them either.

On the plus side, the women that had them early and have the kids out of the house are all starting to get divorces and sew their wild oats, divorcees for the WIN.

Oh since first answering this I have had a birthday so it is now 41 and older NO kids. I cant apparently change my vote.

Last edited by cityxslicker; 12-19-2009 at 11:07 PM.
 
Reply

  PNW Love > PNW Love > Over 30

Thread Tools
Display Modes





Facebook @pnwlove RSS


Powered by vBulletin® Version 3.8.7
Copyright ©2000 - 2018, Jelsoft Enterprises Ltd.
SEO by vBSEO 3.6.0 ©2011, Crawlability, Inc.
Copyright © 2008 - 2010 PNW Love. All rights reserved.