reppinthe509

since we broke up. Been trying to get back out there kinda. Never really experienced the whole dating thing as my last girl was from highschool and it wasnt really me asking her out. So my friends tried setting me up with her friend and she said she was into me and all that jazz and she kept making plans to come out to the bar with us and never did. so finally she said my friend could give me her number. so i started texting her saying that we should hang out again. Finally i texted her to see if she wanted to go get drinks and she said tomorrow we could. then i talked to her the next day and she said sure but she had to work out first and she would let me know when she was done. never let me know. so thats done. Been talking to a new girl at work a little bit..but im not sure on how to even ask her out or ask for her # or any of that.

MrsD

Isn't there a unwritten rule about dating an ex's friend?
I don't envy you I can't imagine being in the dating game and at my age I wouldn't. I do however have girls and I observe how things are played out with them. My conclusion is most guys today are chicken shit.
Whats the worst that can happen she could say No. That's the risk you take, it might bruise your ego a little but oh well. Its all in the delivery don't come off like a leg humper.
"Hey would you like to go out for a drink on friday? ..."Sure" .."ok give me your number and I'll let you know when and where." Another thing I have observed with my girls on the first time out they prefer to meet somewhere as to being picked up. But that might just be my girls, a little over cautious, and there back to the wall. I wonder where they learned that.
Good Luck!!!

reppinthe509

there wasnt anything about her friend. its my bestfriends girlfriends friend that i met. and yeah, i am chicken shit. i find it hard to get time to talk to people at work because i work in one part of the store and theyre in the other. yesterday it just so happened that we were on break at the same time and i was talking to her a bit.

MrsD

Ooop's sorry I misunderstood. OK Chicken shit how are we going to build your confidence Just be yourself kid, you sound like a really nice guy from your posts. Your not asking anyone to marry you just a drink or a movie or whatever.. do you ride girls like bikes.
Relax a bit wish I had more advise and I'm sure the younger crowd on here has plenty. They are just off the boat having summer fun, but they will be around.

Blu

Honey its been almost a year for me and I haven't had any luck either. Did have one date but it was a blind one with a friend, I would just say be yourself, like MrsD said the worst that could happen would be a No. Good luck lords knows we all need it sometimes

reppinthe509

i've just been talking to her at work. i dont know her that well yet and i feel like me asking her out would be weird. but heres my plan...im moving in with my buddy, and we're gonna have a BBQ wwhen i move in and im gonna invite her. i just hate going for girls at work especially the new ones because almost all the guys go for them. idk if they are for her though. i just hate the waiting game. i feel llike the longer i take to "Get to know her" shes gonna find someone else. i know i'm overthinking it but..thats me. and yeah i am chicken shit.

Bikenut

ok, lets back the bus up a little bit here folks. It seems to me you seem to activly looking for a date. I'm not saying there is anything wrong with that. That said, ya know there is nothing wrong with being single either. I just prefer the 'if it happens, it happens' mantra as oppossed to the 'omg, I need to date someone'. If you truely like the girl at work, take LD's advice, 'hey there's this great movie out I've wanted to see, wanna join me?". If she is being indeed being hit on at work I would suggest you wait though. I started my job last year and let's just say was the object of attention until they found out what a piss ant I was. You don't want to look like a sheep in a crowd of coyotes

cityxslicker

she aint gonna stab ya with a knife
she doesnt have a snake in her pocket
she aint a freakin celebrity
and she really aint all that. no matter who she is.
So who cares? Burn in blaze of glory or sit at home wanking to porn with an orange cheeto hand.
In 1000 years, nobody will remember, nobody will care.

hell I know the night aint over until I have collect 20 no gos. In fact that should be your new goal. go seek that. it will cure you of any fear you have of rejection.

MrsD

^^ the collector of No's I like that. I most always said No, not because I wasn't attracted to the guy I just wasn't interested. Had a guy ask me once why no and I said at the moment I hate men, so you don't want to go out with me for your own safety. He respected that with a smile and bought me a drink.
So don't always take the No's to heart. It might not have anything to do with you personally.

Qtip

Cheese and rice people! I've been trying to keep my mouth shut but I can't hold back any longer!

Ok reppin he's my 2 cents for what it's worth:

1. Never date anyone you work with PERIOD. Don't hook up/fuck/mess around/what ever you want to call it. If and when the relationship ends you have to see that person still or have unfriendly comments spread around about you to your co-workers if she's a bitch.

2. Go out to a bar (if 21) and hit on every woman that you find attractive. As City said make it your goal to collect as many No's as you possibly can. For one thing this will help boost your self confidence in talking to women and also one will probably say yes and you'll get some that night.

3. Just because it's been 3 months doesn't mean you should be dating someone. Be happy with yourself and your life. When you stop looking for someone that's when they fall into your lap. Besides enjoy being single and the fact that your previous relationship was since high school, don't worry about dating anyone just go out and (sorry ladies) get your d*ck wet. Make sure you wear the jimmyhat though as you more than likely don't want any little one's running around just yet.

Have fun and live life, there's plenty of time to find someone and settle down.

reppinthe509

i know i dont need to date now. i just am not a fan of being single.

Qtip

I'm not saying don't date, I'm saying don't get into a serious relationship. At your age you should be "seeing" several people

Vigilante

I used to ride girls like bikes... most of the time I was on top of them.

You are welcome for my sincere and thoughtful post!




No really, I figured there were almost 2 million girls in the US around my age and I planned on dating every one of them... that was my goal for my "no" list... see if you can top it!

MrsD

I did well there didn't I.. so much for proof reading what I post.

Vigilante

I guess it tells you where my mind is most of the time... leave it open to interpretation and I seem to go there most of the time for some reason.

reppinthe509

i'm really starting to miss her. wondering if i should try and get her back or just leave it be.

MrsD

Damn son leave it be. Your young go have fun explore the possibilities. Blu can tell you how her high school romance ended up. Surround yourself with friends, do something you want to do, something new, something you didn't do with her.

Qtip

Dude come over to the wetside one weekend and hang, I'll introduce you to some women that'll have you forgetting miss whatshername. MrsD is right, shes an ex for a reason, while it may have been her that did the breaking up you guys weren't meant to be. You need to move on and stop worrying about her and live YOUR life.

reppinthe509

right...

anyway.

MrsD

Again with the SPAM