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Old 10-21-2008, 01:21 PM   #1
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Question How do you use the word 'love'?

I've always disliked how people use the word 'love.' Especially when women use it on me, like it is some sort of weapon or tool that can somehow get me to do things I would not otherwise consent to (not that I've ever given in). Honestly, I've used it occasionally, but I try not to use it for selfish reasons.

On that note, watch this video on Love and Being by Derrida, the famous French philosopher. Good stuff.

When and why do you use the word, if at all?

YouTube - Jacques Derrida On Love and Being
 
Old 10-21-2008, 01:37 PM   #2
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When and why do you use the word, if at all?

YouTube - Jacques Derrida On Love and Being
I don't really use it. The only time I've said it and meant "I'm in love with you" is when I mean it, which is so few and far between. I tell my friends and family that I love them, but that is because I do and if I never talk to them again, I want that to be the last thing said.

But as far as in a relationship, I am such a freaker, I tend to spook easy and I don't just go spouting things off cause I'm going to get my way or I want something. I tend to wait A LOT longer than necessary even saying it when I mean it. I think I have a couple of walls built and may or may not have commitment phobia.

As far as the video goes, I'd say without a doubt that if I were to mutter the words "I love you" to someone, its for their whole self, not because they are x, y or z. But an acceptance of that person as a whole.
 
Old 10-21-2008, 01:42 PM   #3
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I love the "L" word. Use it all the time with most of my close friends and family. To me it's not a taboo word.
 
Old 10-21-2008, 01:48 PM   #4
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Well since I see a difference in loving someone and being in love with someone, I'll say I love ya or something to that effect about my close friends or family that I actually like.
 
Old 10-21-2008, 01:53 PM   #5
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Old 10-21-2008, 01:55 PM   #6
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So what if the person in question.. S/O.. is a close friend.. why refrain on telling them how you feel - or treating them like any other friend in fear of the "i'm in love with you" impression?

And who the hell knows when they are in love anyway? Love... Lust.... The whole journey is tingly.. I sure as hell can't decipher!!
 
Old 10-21-2008, 01:55 PM   #7
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Love is something shown to another it's not ust a word. I use it in support of the loving actions I do.
Good! You can buy me a drink and tell me you love me!
 
Old 10-21-2008, 02:07 PM   #8
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i try and avoid using it for people. inanimate objects are ok though.
 
Old 10-21-2008, 02:20 PM   #9
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I think that where relationships are concerned people tend to throw that word around very casually with no actions to support their words. I use this word a lot with my family and friends cause it is important to me that they know how much they mean to me. I would never want a family member or good friend to think for one minute that I do not love them with all of my heart. That said......I LOVE you Sarah!!!!!!

As for my one relationship.......the first time he told me he loved me I asked him if he was sure. When he said yes I asked him if he was positive. When he said yes I asked him how he was so absolutely sure that he loved me. Let's just say he did not like my response to his declaration of love....he also didn't like the fact that I told him I didn't know if I loved him or not. Whatever happened to honesty being the best policy?
 
Old 10-21-2008, 02:25 PM   #10
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LOL Annette! Kick a man at his weakest moment!
 
Old 10-21-2008, 02:28 PM   #11
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I think that where relationships are concerned people tend to throw that word around very casually with no actions to support their words. I use this word a lot with my family and friends cause it is important to me that they know how much they mean to me. I would never want a family member or good friend to think for one minute that I do not love them with all of my heart. That said......I LOVE you Sarah!!!!!!

As for my one relationship.......the first time he told me he loved me I asked him if he was sure. When he said yes I asked him if he was positive. When he said yes I asked him how he was so absolutely sure that he loved me. Let's just say he did not like my response to his declaration of love....he also didn't like the fact that I told him I didn't know if I loved him or not. Whatever happened to honesty being the best policy?
Too bad there's no rep on this forum--I'd have handed some out for this post. So instead...
 
Old 10-22-2008, 05:41 AM   #12
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I don't use the word Love anymore except for family. I have found in past relationships as others have said that Love and Lust get so easily confused so why risk confusion. I keep it to I like you a lot and if they don't like it guess they want something more then what I am looking for.
 
Old 10-22-2008, 04:12 PM   #13
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... Love and Lust get so easily confused ...
but but but... i luv you mike...


oh wait ... to the above snippet!
 
Old 10-22-2008, 04:29 PM   #14
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Thanks for the gift...I "LOVE" it! j/k
 
Old 10-22-2008, 05:07 PM   #15
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I love to compliment a lady. xMonkeyx, you have beautiful eyes.
 
Old 10-22-2008, 06:35 PM   #16
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wouldn't say it unless I meant it
 
Old 10-22-2008, 07:14 PM   #17
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I love to compliment a lady. xMonkeyx, you have beautiful eyes.
Awww Thank You for the compliment =)
 
Old 10-22-2008, 07:56 PM   #18
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wouldn't say it unless I meant it

 
Old 10-22-2008, 08:23 PM   #19
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I love you guys! xoxo
 
Old 10-23-2008, 06:55 AM   #20
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I love you guys! xoxo
Luv you too!
 
Old 10-23-2008, 03:03 PM   #21
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I love to compliment a lady. xMonkeyx, you have beautiful eyes.
dude shes married
 
Old 10-23-2008, 03:17 PM   #22
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Depends on the situation and what it's about. :p

I love my bike. <3
I love WB. <3

...but then there's "I love you" as part of a relationship which is a whole new ballpark... and I'll write more on later. It's a major topic for me.
 
Old 10-23-2008, 10:30 PM   #23
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Beatles= "All you need is love, love, love is all you need."
 
Old 10-23-2008, 10:39 PM   #24
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"in love" is a term that's tossed around to freely now a days.

but i do love my penis. all .1 inches
 
Old 10-23-2008, 10:51 PM   #25
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Old 10-23-2008, 11:01 PM   #26
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Its a four letter word that can make your life HELL or HEAVEN!!!

Guys better pick the right time to drop the "L" word...
Cause if we don't we either come off as pushing things and that scares girls away.... or girls use it and we don't say it back so that makes them mad to....

So do guys ever win in this situation.....
Most the time no..
 
Old 10-24-2008, 07:29 AM   #27
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guys should never be the first to say the L word to a girl. Let the girl say it to take the stress off of us.

plus falling in love is over rated.
 
Old 10-24-2008, 07:53 AM   #28
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Perhaps my experience is the exception...
My husband and I were both 21, and seeing eachother every day for 2 wks after we met. He told me he loved me first, and I've even remembered the date...November 15, 1988.
We've been together ever since. That's love right there, don't underate it...it can be a very good thing. ;)
 
Old 10-24-2008, 07:59 AM   #29
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you're one of the lucky ones.

i applaud you. keep him. even if you have tie his ass up and swallow the key.

(hehe i said swallow)
 
Old 10-24-2008, 08:51 AM   #30
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you're one of the lucky ones.

i applaud you. keep him. even if you have tie his ass up and swallow the key.

(hehe i said swallow)
LOL Thanx. He's a keeper for sure. Except I'm the one getting tied up.lmao
 
Old 10-24-2008, 09:25 AM   #31
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i pray to God that your children have never seen mommy tied up by daddy in the middle of the night.

 
Old 10-24-2008, 10:09 AM   #32
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to that!! LOL...
 
Old 10-24-2008, 10:31 AM   #33
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OMG lmao No...we have a beach house for that.
(And, on a side-note...our last one will be leaving the nest soon...I've been stocking up on supplies....bahahahaha)
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i pray to God that your children have never seen mommy tied up by daddy in the middle of the night.

 
Old 10-24-2008, 11:44 AM   #34
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gayest word ever invented.

if you're someone who throws it out there to everyone and are with someone who doesn't use the term lightly, it can fuck everything up in 2.5 seconds flat.
 
Old 10-25-2008, 06:51 AM   #35
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OMG lmao No...we have a beach house for that.
(And, on a side-note...our last one will be leaving the nest soon...I've been stocking up on supplies....bahahahaha)
Wanna make millions? I can video tape it and sell it on ebay. Make you guys rockstars over night.

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gayest word ever invented.

if you're someone who throws it out there to everyone and are with someone who doesn't use the term lightly, it can fuck everything up in 2.5 seconds flat.
I think at our age, most people can decipher the differences between tossing out "luv u!" to all your friends and buddies, and then saying, "i love you" to a s/o that you're actually in love with.
 
Old 10-25-2008, 10:44 AM   #36
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I really liked that video. I think it's pretty trivial to use the word LOVE in the context of anything other than the singularity of a person and someone being irreplaceable. But like any good philosopher Mr. Derrida has raised more questions that I don't think I can answer...

How do you determine whether you love someone's parts (interests, hobbies, the superficial) or the some of all parts as an irreplaceable person? I think by this logic if you've found the latter.... you've found the person you should Marry.
 
Old 12-17-2009, 09:31 PM   #37
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I avoid it at all costs. Its too loaded of a word, and you cant control what the other person thinks that word means to them, so you are opening up a can o worms. Your views of the word, may not meet theirs; and well off to the races with that one

and of course if you have ever said it and it just hangs out there like a cartoon bubble, you know you shouldnt have said it.
 
Old 01-19-2012, 11:29 PM   #38
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It's fully depend upon the situation but "Love" word mostly used when you Love someone or any thing which you mostly liked..I Love my family & friends.....muahhhhhhhh
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Old 04-12-2013, 07:51 PM   #39
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Hi Jafar,
I confess that few years before when I was not aware of love I used it. But now I mean whenever I say it to my girl friend. Met her last year through online dating services and falling in love with her again and again
 
Old 05-15-2013, 09:21 PM   #40
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I've always disliked how people use the word 'love.' Especially when women use it on me, like it is some sort of weapon or tool that can somehow get me to do things I would not otherwise consent to (not that I've ever given in). Honestly, I've used it occasionally, but I try not to use it for selfish reasons.

On that note, watch this video on Love and Being by Derrida, the famous French philosopher. Good stuff.

When and why do you use the word, if at all?

YouTube - Jacques Derrida On Love and Being
Women are just soo emotional and romantic. I guess its just normal to hear those words to them. Just let them play no deposit slots UK

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Old 06-06-2013, 07:33 PM   #41
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I use the word love in three different ways.

1. Reserved for family. You have to love them, and you say it to your grandma after you give her a hug

2. Reserved for friendliness. When you post a picture online of you at the mall with your gal pal and say "hashtag!# love you girl" implying that you love shopping with them and they a fun to be around.

3. Reserved for your one and only- your lover-
This one isnt tricky for me. I don't say it in a nonchalant way during the relationship. I say it when I truly ca about that person and I mean it. "goodnight. I love you" my boyfriend has said "I love you and love you and love you to bits goodnight sweetheart" and I knew he meant it.
 
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