How do you use the word 'love'?

Jafar · 10-21-2008, 02:21 PM

I've always disliked how people use the word 'love.' Especially when women use it on me, like it is some sort of weapon or tool that can somehow get me to do things I would not otherwise consent to (not that I've ever given in). Honestly, I've used it occasionally, but I try not to use it for selfish reasons.

On that note, watch this video on Love and Being by Derrida, the famous French philosopher. Good stuff.

When and why do you use the word, if at all?

YouTube - Jacques Derrida On Love and Being

TeashaMae · 10-21-2008, 02:37 PM

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Originally Posted by Jafar

When and why do you use the word, if at all?

YouTube - Jacques Derrida On Love and Being

I don't really use it. The only time I've said it and meant "I'm in love with you" is when I mean it, which is so few and far between. I tell my friends and family that I love them, but that is because I do and if I never talk to them again, I want that to be the last thing said.

But as far as in a relationship, I am such a freaker, I tend to spook easy and I don't just go spouting things off cause I'm going to get my way or I want something. I tend to wait A LOT longer than necessary even saying it when I mean it. I think I have a couple of walls built and may or may not have commitment phobia.

As far as the video goes, I'd say without a doubt that if I were to mutter the words "I love you" to someone, its for their whole self, not because they are x, y or z. But an acceptance of that person as a whole.

Washingtonblonde · 10-21-2008, 02:42 PM

I love the "L" word. Use it all the time with most of my close friends and family. To me it's not a taboo word.

Qtip · 10-21-2008, 02:48 PM

Well since I see a difference in loving someone and being in love with someone, I'll say I love ya or something to that effect about my close friends or family that I actually like.

evander · 10-21-2008, 02:53 PM

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Washingtonblonde · 10-21-2008, 02:55 PM

So what if the person in question.. S/O.. is a close friend.. why refrain on telling them how you feel - or treating them like any other friend in fear of the "i'm in love with you" impression?

And who the hell knows when they are in love anyway? Love... Lust.... The whole journey is tingly.. I sure as hell can't decipher!!

Washingtonblonde · 10-21-2008, 02:55 PM

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Originally Posted by evander

Love is something shown to another it's not ust a word. I use it in support of the loving actions I do.

Good! You can buy me a drink and tell me you love me!

JuiceBox · 10-21-2008, 03:07 PM

i try and avoid using it for people. inanimate objects are ok though.

Miss Annette · 10-21-2008, 03:20 PM

I think that where relationships are concerned people tend to throw that word around very casually with no actions to support their words. I use this word a lot with my family and friends cause it is important to me that they know how much they mean to me. I would never want a family member or good friend to think for one minute that I do not love them with all of my heart. That said......I LOVE you Sarah!!!!!!

As for my one relationship.......the first time he told me he loved me I asked him if he was sure. When he said yes I asked him if he was positive. When he said yes I asked him how he was so absolutely sure that he loved me. Let's just say he did not like my response to his declaration of love....he also didn't like the fact that I told him I didn't know if I loved him or not. Whatever happened to honesty being the best policy?

Washingtonblonde · 10-21-2008, 03:25 PM

LOL Annette! Kick a man at his weakest moment!

CForce · 10-21-2008, 03:28 PM

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Originally Posted by Miss Annette

I think that where relationships are concerned people tend to throw that word around very casually with no actions to support their words. I use this word a lot with my family and friends cause it is important to me that they know how much they mean to me. I would never want a family member or good friend to think for one minute that I do not love them with all of my heart. That said......I LOVE you Sarah!!!!!!

As for my one relationship.......the first time he told me he loved me I asked him if he was sure. When he said yes I asked him if he was positive. When he said yes I asked him how he was so absolutely sure that he loved me. Let's just say he did not like my response to his declaration of love....he also didn't like the fact that I told him I didn't know if I loved him or not. Whatever happened to honesty being the best policy?

Too bad there's no rep on this forum--I'd have handed some out for this post. So instead...

mike · 10-22-2008, 06:41 AM

I don't use the word Love anymore except for family. I have found in past relationships as others have said that Love and Lust get so easily confused so why risk confusion. I keep it to I like you a lot and if they don't like it guess they want something more then what I am looking for.

Whitefire · 10-22-2008, 05:12 PM

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Originally Posted by mike

... Love and Lust get so easily confused ...

but but but... i luv you mike...

oh wait

...

to the above snippet!

xMonkeyx · 10-22-2008, 05:29 PM

Thanks for the gift...I "LOVE" it!

j/k

PDcycles · 10-22-2008, 06:07 PM

I love to compliment a lady. xMonkeyx, you have beautiful eyes.

Dragonfish · 10-22-2008, 07:35 PM

wouldn't say it unless I meant it

xMonkeyx · 10-22-2008, 08:14 PM

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Originally Posted by PDcycles

I love to compliment a lady. xMonkeyx, you have beautiful eyes.

Awww Thank You for the compliment =)

Missy · 10-22-2008, 08:56 PM

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Originally Posted by Dragonfish

wouldn't say it unless I meant it

Washingtonblonde · 10-22-2008, 09:23 PM

I love you guys! xoxo

CStyle · 10-23-2008, 07:55 AM

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Originally Posted by Washingtonblonde

I love you guys! xoxo

Luv you too!

Raven Ryder · 10-23-2008, 04:03 PM

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Originally Posted by PDcycles

I love to compliment a lady. xMonkeyx, you have beautiful eyes.

dude shes married

DJ Nathan V · 10-23-2008, 04:17 PM

Depends on the situation and what it's about. :p

I love my bike. <3
I love WB. <3

...but then there's "I love you" as part of a relationship which is a whole new ballpark... and I'll write more on later. It's a major topic for me.

PDcycles · 10-23-2008, 11:30 PM

Beatles= "All you need is love, love, love is all you need."

dizzle · 10-23-2008, 11:39 PM

"in love" is a term that's tossed around to freely now a days.

but i do love my penis. all .1 inches

Rockerchic · 10-23-2008, 11:51 PM

I won't....

Mikercw · 10-24-2008, 12:01 AM

Its a four letter word that can make your life HELL or HEAVEN!!!

Guys better pick the right time to drop the "L" word...
Cause if we don't we either come off as pushing things and that scares girls away.... or girls use it and we don't say it back so that makes them mad to....

So do guys ever win in this situation.....
Most the time no..

dizzle · 10-24-2008, 08:29 AM

guys should never be the first to say the L word to a girl. Let the girl say it to take the stress off of us.

plus falling in love is over rated.

xMonkeyx · 10-24-2008, 08:53 AM

Perhaps my experience is the exception...
My husband and I were both 21, and seeing eachother every day for 2 wks after we met. He told me he loved me first, and I've even remembered the date...November 15, 1988.
We've been together ever since. That's love right there, don't underate it...it can be a very good thing. ;)

dizzle · 10-24-2008, 08:59 AM

you're one of the lucky ones.

i applaud you. keep him. even if you have tie his ass up and swallow the key.

(hehe i said swallow)

xMonkeyx · 10-24-2008, 09:51 AM

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Originally Posted by dizzle

you're one of the lucky ones.

i applaud you. keep him. even if you have tie his ass up and swallow the key.

(hehe i said swallow)

LOL Thanx. He's a keeper for sure. Except I'm the one getting tied up.lmao

dizzle · 10-24-2008, 10:25 AM

i pray to God that your children have never seen mommy tied up by daddy in the middle of the night.

Kasper · 10-24-2008, 11:09 AM

to that!! LOL...

xMonkeyx · 10-24-2008, 11:31 AM

OMG lmao No...we have a beach house for that.
(And, on a side-note...our last one will be leaving the nest soon...I've been stocking up on supplies....bahahahaha)

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Originally Posted by dizzle

i pray to God that your children have never seen mommy tied up by daddy in the middle of the night.

Plummy · 10-24-2008, 12:44 PM

gayest word ever invented.

if you're someone who throws it out there to everyone and are with someone who doesn't use the term lightly, it can fuck everything up in 2.5 seconds flat.

dizzle · 10-25-2008, 07:51 AM

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Originally Posted by xMonkeyx

OMG lmao No...we have a beach house for that.
(And, on a side-note...our last one will be leaving the nest soon...I've been stocking up on supplies....bahahahaha)

Wanna make millions? I can video tape it and sell it on ebay. Make you guys rockstars over night.

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Originally Posted by omghai2u

gayest word ever invented.

if you're someone who throws it out there to everyone and are with someone who doesn't use the term lightly, it can fuck everything up in 2.5 seconds flat.

I think at our age, most people can decipher the differences between tossing out "luv u!" to all your friends and buddies, and then saying, "i love you" to a s/o that you're actually in love with.

ODiE · 10-25-2008, 11:44 AM

I really liked that video. I think it's pretty trivial to use the word LOVE in the context of anything other than the singularity of a person and someone being irreplaceable. But like any good philosopher Mr. Derrida has raised more questions that I don't think I can answer...

How do you determine whether you love someone's parts (interests, hobbies, the superficial) or the some of all parts as an irreplaceable person? I think by this logic if you've found the latter.... you've found the person you should Marry.

cityxslicker · 12-17-2009, 10:31 PM

english is funny
I avoid it at all costs. Its too loaded of a word, and you cant control what the other person thinks that word means to them, so you are opening up a can o worms. Your views of the word, may not meet theirs; and well off to the races with that one

and of course if you have ever said it and it just hangs out there like a cartoon bubble, you know you shouldnt have said it.

theyouthexpress · 01-20-2012, 12:29 AM

It's fully depend upon the situation but "Love" word mostly used when you Love someone or any thing which you mostly liked..I Love my family & friends.....muahhhhhhhh

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10-21-2008, 02:21 PM	#1
Jafar Newbie I'm a Guy Living in Chapel Hill	How do you use the word 'love'? I've always disliked how people use the word 'love.' Especially when women use it on me, like it is some sort of weapon or tool that can somehow get me to do things I would not otherwise consent to (not that I've ever given in). Honestly, I've used it occasionally, but I try not to use it for selfish reasons. On that note, watch this video on Love and Being by Derrida, the famous French philosopher. Good stuff. When and why do you use the word, if at all? YouTube - Jacques Derrida On Love and Being

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10-21-2008, 02:42 PM	#3
Washingtonblonde So Amazingly Happy I'm a Lady Living in Lacey, WA	I love the "L" word. Use it all the time with most of my close friends and family. To me it's not a taboo word.

10-21-2008, 02:48 PM	#4
Qtip Engineer of the Love Boat I'm a Guy Living in One in Washington Blog Entries: 2	Well since I see a difference in loving someone and being in love with someone, I'll say I love ya or something to that effect about my close friends or family that I actually like.

10-21-2008, 02:55 PM	#6
Washingtonblonde So Amazingly Happy I'm a Lady Living in Lacey, WA	So what if the person in question.. S/O.. is a close friend.. why refrain on telling them how you feel - or treating them like any other friend in fear of the "i'm in love with you" impression? And who the hell knows when they are in love anyway? Love... Lust.... The whole journey is tingly.. I sure as hell can't decipher!!

10-21-2008, 03:07 PM	#8
JuiceBox At Banned Camp I'm a Dude Living in seattle	i try and avoid using it for people. inanimate objects are ok though.

10-21-2008, 03:20 PM	#9
Miss Annette Sarah's little mermaid I'm a Lady Living in Lacey, WA	I think that where relationships are concerned people tend to throw that word around very casually with no actions to support their words. I use this word a lot with my family and friends cause it is important to me that they know how much they mean to me. I would never want a family member or good friend to think for one minute that I do not love them with all of my heart. That said......I LOVE you Sarah!!!!!! As for my one relationship.......the first time he told me he loved me I asked him if he was sure. When he said yes I asked him if he was positive. When he said yes I asked him how he was so absolutely sure that he loved me. Let's just say he did not like my response to his declaration of love....he also didn't like the fact that I told him I didn't know if I loved him or not. Whatever happened to honesty being the best policy?

10-21-2008, 03:25 PM	#10
Washingtonblonde So Amazingly Happy I'm a Lady Living in Lacey, WA	LOL Annette! Kick a man at his weakest moment!

10-22-2008, 06:41 AM	#12
mike Just Me I'm a Guy Living in Bremerton	I don't use the word Love anymore except for family. I have found in past relationships as others have said that Love and Lust get so easily confused so why risk confusion. I keep it to I like you a lot and if they don't like it guess they want something more then what I am looking for.

10-22-2008, 05:29 PM	#14
xMonkeyx Expert I'm a Lady Living in Vancouver	Thanks for the gift...I "LOVE" it! j/k

10-22-2008, 06:07 PM	#15
PDcycles Newbie I'm a Gentleman Living in Winston, Oregon	I love to compliment a lady. xMonkeyx, you have beautiful eyes.

10-22-2008, 07:35 PM	#16
Dragonfish Sleepnowinthefire I'm a Guy Living in Olympia	wouldn't say it unless I meant it

10-22-2008, 09:23 PM	#19
Washingtonblonde So Amazingly Happy I'm a Lady Living in Lacey, WA	I love you guys! xoxo

10-23-2008, 04:17 PM	#22
DJ Nathan V M0DERAT0R I'm a Gentleman Living in Auburn, WA	Depends on the situation and what it's about. :p I love my bike. <3 I love WB. <3 ...but then there's "I love you" as part of a relationship which is a whole new ballpark... and I'll write more on later. It's a major topic for me.

10-23-2008, 11:30 PM	#23
PDcycles Newbie I'm a Gentleman Living in Winston, Oregon	Beatles= "All you need is love, love, love is all you need."

10-23-2008, 11:39 PM	#24
dizzle Surprize! I'm a Dude Living in Newcastle Looking for Networking Interested in Women Humor is Clever/Quick-witted Have a Trendy fashion style	"in love" is a term that's tossed around to freely now a days. but i do love my penis. all .1 inches

10-23-2008, 11:51 PM	#25
Rockerchic miss-communicator I'm a Female Living in spokane Blog Entries: 6	I won't....

10-24-2008, 12:01 AM	#26
Mikercw I TELL IT LIKE IT IS!!!! I'm a Guy Living in Willy Wonka`s Chocolate Factory- Down The Hall From The Oompa Loompas Looking for Conversation Interested in Women Humor is Dry/Sarcastic Have a Trendy fashion style	Its a four letter word that can make your life HELL or HEAVEN!!! Guys better pick the right time to drop the "L" word... Cause if we don't we either come off as pushing things and that scares girls away.... or girls use it and we don't say it back so that makes them mad to.... So do guys ever win in this situation..... Most the time no..

10-24-2008, 08:29 AM	#27
dizzle Surprize! I'm a Dude Living in Newcastle Looking for Networking Interested in Women Humor is Clever/Quick-witted Have a Trendy fashion style	guys should never be the first to say the L word to a girl. Let the girl say it to take the stress off of us. plus falling in love is over rated.

10-24-2008, 08:53 AM	#28
xMonkeyx Expert I'm a Lady Living in Vancouver	Perhaps my experience is the exception... My husband and I were both 21, and seeing eachother every day for 2 wks after we met. He told me he loved me first, and I've even remembered the date...November 15, 1988. We've been together ever since. That's love right there, don't underate it...it can be a very good thing. ;)

10-24-2008, 08:59 AM	#29
dizzle Surprize! I'm a Dude Living in Newcastle Looking for Networking Interested in Women Humor is Clever/Quick-witted Have a Trendy fashion style	you're one of the lucky ones. i applaud you. keep him. even if you have tie his ass up and swallow the key. (hehe i said swallow)

10-24-2008, 10:25 AM	#31
dizzle Surprize! I'm a Dude Living in Newcastle Looking for Networking Interested in Women Humor is Clever/Quick-witted Have a Trendy fashion style	i pray to God that your children have never seen mommy tied up by daddy in the middle of the night.

10-24-2008, 11:09 AM	#32
Kasper Rockstar I'm a Guy Living in Tacoma	to that!! LOL...

10-24-2008, 12:44 PM	#34
Plummy pees standing up I'm a Chicky-poo Living in a hole	gayest word ever invented. if you're someone who throws it out there to everyone and are with someone who doesn't use the term lightly, it can fuck everything up in 2.5 seconds flat.

10-25-2008, 11:44 AM	#36
ODiE I am naked... Right now. I'm a Gentleman Living in Issaquah, WA	I really liked that video. I think it's pretty trivial to use the word LOVE in the context of anything other than the singularity of a person and someone being irreplaceable. But like any good philosopher Mr. Derrida has raised more questions that I don't think I can answer... How do you determine whether you love someone's parts (interests, hobbies, the superficial) or the some of all parts as an irreplaceable person? I think by this logic if you've found the latter.... you've found the person you should Marry.

12-17-2009, 10:31 PM	#37
cityxslicker PNW Love Member I'm a Dude Living in Sequim - Yeah, Baby! Blog Entries: 3	english is funny I avoid it at all costs. Its too loaded of a word, and you cant control what the other person thinks that word means to them, so you are opening up a can o worms. Your views of the word, may not meet theirs; and well off to the races with that one and of course if you have ever said it and it just hangs out there like a cartoon bubble, you know you shouldnt have said it.

01-20-2012, 12:29 AM	#38
theyouthexpress Newbie I'm a Male Living in India Looking for Friendship Interested in Men Humor is Friendly Have a Designer fashion style	It's fully depend upon the situation but "Love" word mostly used when you Love someone or any thing which you mostly liked..I Love my family & friends.....muahhhhhhhh _______________________________________ The Youth Express is the Online Youth Development Magazine for the youth and It's main aim to helping youth in all over the world..