Rockerchic

and WHAT is dating? Soooo I'm not sure I know how to "date". I know how to be in a relationship, or even just date one person at a time. So here's the deal. I have had lots of "help" with "hey I got this perfect guy for you"... I am feelin a little overwhelmed and don't want to give off any wrong ideas to these "dates". Its not that I want to keep my options open, but I'm definetly done with commiting to just one person. (don't get me wrong, being laid by one person sounds great, but right now sex doesnt even sound good....wth is happening to me??)
I need to know how to "date" and what is acceptable and what is not. Please




of course this is strickly contingent on whether dizzle and I fizzle....

dizzle

how dare you think this way.

Rockerchic

I'm merely askin for those that are too meek to ask it...I was trying to help THEM of course. My needs have been met- at least i see it in the near future- real near if my math is correct

ODiE

Dating is having a romantic and or intimate relationship with someone or some people. It is what you want it to be. Can be exclusive, may not be. Can be purely physical or even purely romantic/emotional. It is what you make it.

Jet City Angel

Hey girl, I agree with Odie and also would add that dating can be a good way to get to know several people a little better without attaching or obligating yourself to any one person. Just be straight with yourself about what you hope to get out of the process. And, be honest about your intentions with those you date (ahem, I hope the guys you date will adhere to the same courtesy). Mixed messages really fry me ...

If you're not interested in being exclusive with any one guy or not ready for sex, or whatever, it's perfectly ok to get out there and date for no other reason than to have some fun until you meet that one guy who captures your interest. Dating around does not have to mean sleeping around. (Sorry dizzle! )

Wild Angel

I have to agree with JetCityAngel... I think "dating" a few diffrent people is okay as long as everyone knows that is the plan. I do not consider it "dating" then getting to know someone having someone to spend time with is nice and I am unsure what to call that. To me "dating" is when you are having some type of begining feelings for a person. I like having friends and going to dinners or movies or rides and not expecting anything from it but if it happens great if both people feel the "love bug" sweet. BUT what sucks is when one person feels the love bug and the other does not. WHAT TO DO THEN with the friendship????

BUT dating today as a 30+ yr old female SUCKS so I choose friends or expectations of a relationship. Guys do not know what they want and when they think they know then they change their minds and run!! They SUCK!!

Rockerchic

Okay, I have to re-visit this thread. So, since I've been online "dating", I'm trying to figure out the correct way, and the dos and don'ts and not alloweds. So to start, I've been very honest with anyone I've gone on a date with. Yes, i'm dating...lots. I have not gone any further than tongue wrestling any of them... But wtf a couple of them are kinda suprised that I would go on dates 3 and 4 with them, and still go on other dates. really? I mean, if I was just dating ONE person, fine, but I'm definetly NOT at that point yet, nor have I met and been soooo interested in just one person that I'm ready to cut off the others. So when YOU date...isnt dating about going on lots of dates til ya find "the one"?

dizzle

people don't understand the terminology when it comes to "dating" in my opinion. It's perfectly fine to go on multiple dates with multiple people all at the same time .. it's not like you're committed to anybody during this period of time so you're not hurting anyone.

of course, the question of, "are you seeing anybody else?" will come up majority of the time when out on said dates with said potential mates. People will take your answer and twist it into whatever they want it to be. If they're gonna get butthurt because you went on another date the previous night, relay to them that you don't have a diamond on your finger from them, or have made the consensual agreement that you two are exclusive, and leave it at that.

move on with the night and enjoy the moment.

Capt No Gravy

well so far as I can tell in (dating) there are no rules, boundries, or dos and donts. maybe thats only if your dating me though!

Metonymy

I'm one of "those" people.

If I'm interested enough in going out with someone more than once or twice, then I'm interested enough to see what comes of it.

But I'm the kind of person that has a good idea if it'll work by the end of the first date. It's why I've never "dated" multiple people at the same time.

And the premise of "Oh, I'm going out with her on Tuesday, and this other gal on Friday"... that really isn't all that appealing to me.

dizzle

Everyone has there own way of playing the game .. some do it better then others, and some are more efficient then others. Everyone has a different end goal and that's how they roll.

there's people like you that say, "i will stay committed to this person if the first date goes well because one you find somethin good, no need to keep lookin" (i hope that doesn't sound offensive, i don't mean it to be!)

then there's people like me and mikercw that likes to keep our options open (unless you do find the most amazing woman on this planet like i have) .. when i was single, i always had at least 3-5 on the sidelines in case a, b, or c drove me up the wall. I always had plan D, and F just in case. Even when i started dating my current girlfriend who i'm madly in love with now, i still have a B and C back up. I quickly tossed them when she swept me off my feet a few weeks after we started seeing each other.

Despite which player you decide to be (haha, player, dating, get it? bwahaha) i would still never mention other you're seeing while your on a date with someone .. you can't figure out whether or not a person is only seeing your or is seeing multiple people after that first date.

and if you do find a girl that tells you that she's out with you on monday, another guy on tuesday, wednesday, etc, she be a hoe and desperate lookin for attention. run bitch, run.

Sexyniks

You don't need to date to have sex. They're thinking about it all wrong && OVER thinking at that.


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MrsD

Your absolutely right who needs to date to have sex, when they can call you.
Sex
Porn
And
Money

cityxslicker

S.P.A.M. as long as you understand that it is rent rather than own and not rent to own.... then it is all good.

cityxslicker

damnit now I want a spam burger for lunch

cityxslicker

Its really pretty simple
Loose the weight
Plus up on the bank account
Shod the ride in at least Twenties
Rock the right gear
Bust a move or 3
and all else fails, hookers and blow for the win.

Qtip

qft

cityxslicker

I put the penis in
I pull the penis out
I put the penis in
and I shake it all about
I put the penis in and
spin you all around
I do the hanky panky
And that is what it is all about


Really, why dating 101 when you already had the cliffs notes.

MrsD

You owe me coffee and a new screen

cityxslicker

I got sent to the principals office for that little gem when I was in 8th grade, except I said 'Dick' instead.... maybe I would have avoided the detention if I kept with the correct biology term.

Vigilante

but if you did keep the correct biological term, the next thing you did would land you there anyway, so...

cityxslicker

Mrs D ... your pie has a purdy face....and I hear sex is just like a warm pie....

cityxslicker

Internationally and with the advent of technology.

Love, outsourced, sex imported ;)

tammyv41

I guess you should go for crash course.