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View Poll Results: Bad guy or good guy, which do you prefer?
Bad guy 1 5.26%
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a lil bit of both 16 84.21%
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Old 11-06-2008, 02:21 PM   #1
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Question Bad guys or good guys?

Ok, so i'm shootin the shit with a co-worker of mine and we're just rambling about chicks we've met. He tells me that he recently met this chick, "she's smokin hot" blah blah blah. He was on his way to a rugby practice with his friend and this chick, and as she was getting into his car, he tells her, "wtf are you doing? i didn't tell you you could get in my car, find your own f***ing ride, ah whatever, get in the damn car."

So i was thinking to myself, damn, there's no way this girl would put up with that and would've told him to go f*** himself......no....he says, "after we got done with the practice, she gave me her number."

What the hell!?!? I consider myself one of the nice guys, not a i'm gonna walk over you guy, but considerate and respectful. It's not really in my nature to be mean to a woman (unless it's in bed, but that's a different topic...). So why is it i always see the assholes getting lucky??? If that was me, i'd probably get kicked in the jimmy!

So ladies, what is your outlook on this, bad boy or good boy?
 
Old 11-06-2008, 02:28 PM   #2
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I want a good boy by day and bad boy by night
 
Old 11-06-2008, 02:28 PM   #3
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I think you need a little bit of both, no one wants to hang out with a spinless guy, but not a total douche either. Girls I think like the chase, I know for me if a guy i'm interested in isn't falling all over me, I want to know why and try to get him to....We seem to want those that we can't corral or don't swoon all over us, or give the illusion of not wanting us.

Just my .02
 
Old 11-06-2008, 02:42 PM   #4
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Well then, say if i was in a situation that i was trying to find a date (which i am...), should i try out being a prick at first and just coast with how i am now? I don't seem to have much luck with being nice and respectful (and i'm not talkin about the following around like a lost puppy or smothering nice).
 
Old 11-06-2008, 02:43 PM   #5
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I want a good boy by day and bad boy by night
I did mention that i'm single right?
 
Old 11-06-2008, 02:44 PM   #6
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mmm.. A little of both please.
 
Old 11-06-2008, 02:47 PM   #7
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I think I'd try to be non-chalant, don't seem TOO interested, I don't know that I would be a full out right dick.

I think the trick really is being memorable, sticking out from the waves of guys girls usually come into contact with, for me this is making me laugh and not being overly eager.

But honestly, I think that if you're just yourself the right person for you will come around, I say stick to you and all will work out
 
Old 11-06-2008, 02:52 PM   #8
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I think you need a little bit of both, no one wants to hang out with a spinless guy, but not a total douche either.
I'm not down for the wannabe gangsters or the guys that are total jack asses because their friends are around. Treat me like shit and I'm going to leave your ass.

I also have to say that I have dated a 'mommas boy' in the past and it was a big mistake. He didn't really stand up for anything and he only broke it off with me because his mother told him to. That just sucked.
 
Old 11-06-2008, 03:26 PM   #9
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I did mention that i'm single right?
me too, but you're in bremerton
 
Old 11-06-2008, 03:53 PM   #10
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There's a difference between a bad guy and an ass.
 
Old 11-06-2008, 03:55 PM   #11
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um I am always labeled as a bad guy, though I can me an ass sometimes

stupid tattoo's and stero types, but hey at least I am not emo
 
Old 11-07-2008, 12:29 AM   #12
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me too, but you're in bremerton
bummer, but i'm not stoppin ya from comin out here!
 
Old 11-07-2008, 12:35 AM   #13
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What I find interesting is that everyone tells me that in order for me to get a boyfriend I need to be a bitch! That guys will want you if you treat them like crap but they will walk all over you and discard you if you are nice etc.....

My problem is that if I like a guy I get off on pleasing him in so many different ways.....but apparently that will not get me a long term relationship.
 
Old 11-07-2008, 12:58 AM   #14
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What I find interesting is that everyone tells me that in order for me to get a boyfriend I need to be a bitch! That guys will want you if you treat them like crap but they will walk all over you and discard you if you are nice etc.....

My problem is that if I like a guy I get off on pleasing him in so many different ways.....but apparently that will not get me a long term relationship.
uhhhh, with me it will!!! My number is.....
 
Old 11-07-2008, 01:01 AM   #15
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To be honest though, i have the same issue, i'm all about the woman. I'm no one minute man, but i'm not a porn star either. Plain and simple, you have to get yours....at least 2 or 3 times, then i can get mine. I keep hearing, "omg, that's so awesome you take such consideration for someone".....BLAH BLAH BLAH!! Then i get dumped for a guy that works at dairy queen... (long story)
 
Old 11-07-2008, 07:02 AM   #16
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did the bad boy thing. went over $10k in debt.

never again.




side note: women want assholes because they think they can "change" them. eventually they figure out they can't, or the "bad" guy burns them down emotionally that they think that they can't do any better than who they're with, or are so "in love" that they don't want to leave the asshole.
 
Old 11-07-2008, 09:08 AM   #17
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To be honest though, i have the same issue, i'm all about the woman. I'm no one minute man, but i'm not a porn star either. Plain and simple, you have to get yours....at least 2 or 3 times, then i can get mine. I keep hearing, "omg, that's so awesome you take such consideration for someone".....BLAH BLAH BLAH!! Then i get dumped for a guy that works at dairy queen... (long story)

Where have you been my entire life????????????
 
Old 11-07-2008, 10:30 AM   #18
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did the bad boy thing. went over $10k in debt.

never again.




side note: women want assholes because they think they can "change" them. eventually they figure out they can't, or the "bad" guy burns them down emotionally that they think that they can't do any better than who they're with, or are so "in love" that they don't want to leave the asshole.
I will be your bad boy for $5K
 
Old 11-07-2008, 10:33 AM   #19
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Where have you been my entire life????????????
Been right here, PM for number! ....no seriously...
 
Old 11-07-2008, 10:45 AM   #20
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I think the question is what is the definition of BAD. I actually fell head over heals for my current who came off as a cocky SOB... but there was something about him that I just had to know more. Come to find out he is the most romantic, sweetest REAL man I know.

[SIZE=1]*nospinelesswhimpiesallowed*[/SIZE]
 
Old 11-07-2008, 10:55 AM   #21
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stupid tattoo's and stero types, but hey at least I am not emo

Stereotypes suck. I'm in the military and ride a bike so some people automatically think that all I care about is getting laid or that I'm a total ass or abusive since that seems to be some people's opinion of the military () and I must be some kinda hooligan or crazy because I ride a supersport bike. I think I tend to be more of a "good" guy but *shrug* I can't change how someone sees me when they make assumptions right off the bat.


Her: "Oh, you've got a bike?"
Me: "Yeah, ride every day."
Her: "What kind?"
Me: "08 R6. Sport bike."
Her: "So you do wheelies on the freeway and weave through traffic and stuff, huh?"
Me:
 
Old 11-07-2008, 11:19 AM   #22
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[QUOTE=DJ Nathan V;5140]Stereotypes suck. I'm in the military and ride a bike so some people automatically think that all I care about is getting laid or that I'm a total ass or abusive since that seems to be some people's opinion of the military () and I must be some kinda hooligan or crazy because I ride a supersport bike. I think I tend to be more of a "good" guy but *shrug* I can't change how someone sees me when they make assumptions right off the bat. QUOTE]

You mean it isn't true Teasing...
 
Old 11-07-2008, 11:23 AM   #23
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You mean it isn't true Teasing...
I have my hooligan moments... but I'm not an I5 wheelie kinda guy.
 
Old 11-07-2008, 11:46 AM   #24
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is usually funner anyways. Keep everyone guessing.

So that isn't a good or bad... what category would that be??
 
Old 11-07-2008, 12:12 PM   #25
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Does that make me special?



























?
 
Old 11-07-2008, 12:12 PM   #26
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Her: "Oh, you've got a bike?"
Me: "Yeah, ride every day."
Her: "What kind?"
Me: "08 R6. Sport bike."
Her: "So you do wheelies on the freeway and weave through traffic and stuff, huh?"
Me:
LOL that's funny as hell!!! she thinks an R6 can wheelie!

JK, (kinda)

 
Old 11-07-2008, 12:16 PM   #27
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Does that make me special?



























?
Of course... But what kind of special is up to you
 
Old 11-07-2008, 12:20 PM   #28
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LOL that's funny as hell!!! she thinks an R6 can wheelie!

JK, (kinda)

My front wheel probably gets more airtime lately than yours.
 
Old 11-07-2008, 12:44 PM   #29
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My front wheel probably gets more airtime lately than yours.
lol
I'm back and riding again... but yeah.. I like the front staying down.. and at my size it's not much of an issue (for them that don't know, my e' penis is so huge I can't seem to get the front end of my bike up )
 
Old 11-07-2008, 12:57 PM   #30
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Does that make me special?



?
We all know how special you are Nathan
 
Old 11-07-2008, 01:12 PM   #31
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We all know how special you are Nathan

You've got your fair share of moments too!
 
Old 11-07-2008, 01:51 PM   #32
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You've got your fair share of moments too!
oh I'm not going to disagree with you on that one . My life is full moments! haha woot! It makes for an interesting day
 
Old 11-07-2008, 01:56 PM   #33
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oh I'm not going to disagree with you on that one . My life is full moments! haha woot! It makes for an interesting day

 
Old 11-07-2008, 01:58 PM   #34
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oh yes be afraid.....be very afraid!!
 
Old 11-07-2008, 03:11 PM   #35
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LOL that's funny as hell!!! she thinks an R6 can wheelie!

JK, (kinda)

 
Old 11-07-2008, 03:13 PM   #36
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Could I get a good guy in a bad guy's body??? Tha'd work.
 
Old 11-07-2008, 03:18 PM   #37
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Could I get a good guy in a bad guy's body??? Tha'd work.
First!
 
Old 11-07-2008, 04:27 PM   #38
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Could I get a good guy in a bad guy's body??? Tha'd work.

We all do, We all do
 
Old 11-07-2008, 10:11 PM   #39
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so what defines a good boy vs a bad boy anyway?
 
Old 11-07-2008, 10:23 PM   #40
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so what defines a good boy vs a bad boy anyway?
 
Old 11-08-2008, 07:47 AM   #41
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Old 11-08-2008, 09:13 AM   #42
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Hmm

I've dated quite a few assholes. and some good guys.. though long ago.. I've had a stream of assholes lately

An asshole is someone who is egocentric, which at the beginning we like because as Teash said its about the chase. They come off as not precisely interested, yet they are, so they give us different singles that make us go "wtf". .. so we pursue

Theyre someone that puts their entire needs over anyone elses... That will drag you along for 4 months telling you they like you, but they just dont want a relationship, but are more than willing to fuck you...

They cheat and lie, and will leave you hanging at the drop of a dime.

A bad guy is someone who is edgy. Not the norm. Maybe likes bikes, maybe tattoos, maybe strange music. Traveled, maybe has made mistakes (but learned from them).

At this point I try to date neither. Ive been burned, and yes my reason was thinking I could change them. I learned...

Now he has to be a good guy.. but not spineless.. I do want him to be passionate about something anything, besides me. and not let the world walk all over him.


I think honestly, though I may get flamed is the difference between guy/boy and man. A true man has grown into himself and knows he no longer needs to be an ass or bad guy, and is content enough with himself not to be that egocentric anymore.
 
Old 11-08-2008, 09:17 AM   #43
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Ive been burned, and yes my reason was thinking I could change them. I learned...
anybody who tries to change someone is going to get burned in the end 99% of the time.
 
Old 11-11-2008, 09:27 AM   #44
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Mmmm bad boys.
 
Old 11-11-2008, 09:35 AM   #45
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Mmmm bad boys.
Haha! That makes me giggle.
 
Old 11-11-2008, 08:37 PM   #46
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so what defines a good boy vs a bad boy anyway?
THANK YOU! There's a huge difference between asshole and bad boy. To me bad boys live on the edge. They would never dream of abusing a woman, but would damn sure put a barrel in your face if ya hurt her. I think the term 'bad boy' is too stereotypical. It doesn't mean the have to be felons. But it also means they don't call their mom five times a day.
 
Old 11-11-2008, 09:07 PM   #47
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what am i?

where's the category?
 
Old 11-11-2008, 09:12 PM   #48
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Its simple women have no idea what they want
 
Old 11-11-2008, 09:14 PM   #49
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Its simple women have no idea what they want
 
Old 11-11-2008, 09:23 PM   #50
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Its simple women have no idea what they want
I actually think you are right.. but I think it goes for men too.
 
Old 11-11-2008, 09:37 PM   #51
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i know what i want.

i want a cigarette.
 
Old 11-12-2008, 09:02 AM   #52
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I actually think you are right.. but I think it goes for men too.
Touche! such is why the whole dating thing can be so frustrating
 
Old 11-12-2008, 09:25 AM   #53
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I want food. like good chicken salad. that sounds good.
 
Old 11-12-2008, 09:29 AM   #54
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I want food. like good chicken salad. that sounds good.
So would that be good guy or bad guy food?
 
Old 11-12-2008, 10:10 AM   #55
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If i make it, good guy food. if I buy it on a prepackaged sandwich, bad guy.
 
Old 08-09-2009, 07:58 PM   #56
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Bad boy, good boy, boy toy, meh. Smother it in sarcasm and fry it in indifference. Every time I ended up in a ltr was when I swore off the game all together. F-it. Quit chasing it, quit caring, quit being the nice guy doormat. And if it doesnt happen, well you didnt care about it anyways; remember.

I know there is a great quote somewhere from that kid in Fast Times at Ridgmont High (showin my age there)
 
Old 08-25-2009, 02:29 PM   #57
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Found it
Mike Damone: "The attitude dictates that you don't care whether she comes, stays, lays, or prays. I mean whatever happens, your toes are still tappin'. Now when you got that, then you have the attitude. "
 
Old 09-13-2009, 01:57 PM   #58
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Since I'm on a roll with commenting today here we go......

I've been called the bad boy, a womanizer, conceited, an asshole, etc. But I've also been called a nice guy, faithful, loyal, confident, etc. It all depends on what the other person wants to see. Now while there are there share of douche bags and lord knows I've had my moments, the things they do don't not make them a bad boy it makes them just a boy.

Why do the assholes get the girls, 2 reasons that I see most often are the chase for women and their confidence. They seem to know what they want and that attracts people like a moth to a flame. Can the nice guy get the girl? You betcha but you better step with some confidence, it's all about attitude.
 
Old 11-21-2009, 11:40 AM   #59
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The Nice Guy vs Bad Boy theme is adnauseum over at Plenty of Fish.
Tons of fodder if you are interested in reading.
Nice guy = Door Mat
Bad Boy = He just hasnt met the right girl to settle down with, he could swear off the gambling/drinking/drugs/law infractions/rudeness/womanizing ways if the right someone came along. Plus he's in a band !

Um yeah. Thats a bout the gest of it. Be the 'nice' guy and you are no challenge to women, you are boring, you are a door mat. You will be left, or cheated on.
Bad boy, you dont give a f*ck, cause girls are like buses, there will be another one along in ten minutes. I might go for a ride through your free zone, but I aint parking a Metro at my house in my garage
Your best bet is to make yourself happy; the rest will happen as it will.
 
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