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Old 10-31-2008, 11:02 AM   #1
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Friends with Beni's

So do you start or end a relationship on that note...?
Is it healthy?
How does one keep from wanting more?

I'm not in the mood to go "play the field", I'd rather to stick to just one person. And I've got lots going on anyways and don't really have time for a relationship since it seems everytime i'm in one, I let my things at home/work slide...
 
Old 10-31-2008, 11:07 AM   #2
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Friends with benefits never works....why? cause someone will always end up wanting more.
 
Old 10-31-2008, 11:09 AM   #3
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So do you start or end a relationship on that note...?
Is it healthy?
How does one keep from wanting more?

I'm not in the mood to go "play the field", I'd rather to stick to just one person. And I've got lots going on anyways and don't really have time for a relationship since it seems everytime i'm in one, I let my things at home/work slide...
p.s. buh i'll be YOUR friend with benefits
 
Old 10-31-2008, 11:16 AM   #4
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yeah!!!!! back atchya!
 
Old 10-31-2008, 11:17 AM   #5
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oh, u may have to discuss it with plummy tho- she already asked me on a date
 
Old 10-31-2008, 11:36 AM   #6
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we might be going as a threesome.

fwb is fine, but someone does end up with feelings at some point and things can get weird. starting as fwb is easier for me, ending as fwb is still doable, it just takes time for both parties to get detached from the emotional part of it.

weird thing is starting as fwb, i'm the one that's like, "okay i'm going home now" and the guy gets all weird and tells me not to go, blah blah blah. or even worse, i keep hinting at it's time for him to go after and he doesn't want to go home. i'm just like...wtf?!?! isn't this your dream thing? boink and go? wtf?? but whatever.

i'm totally with you on the one person thing. i don't sleep around. never have, never will. i'd rather have none at all than a random experience here and there with different guys.
 
Old 10-31-2008, 11:43 AM   #7
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well, i had a fwb's and ended up marrying him. I think it helped in the sense that there were no expectations so there were no let-downs.
 
Old 10-31-2008, 11:48 AM   #8
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threesome's are just fine with me ;)



totally agree!!!
Well start the thread so we can discuss ontopic
 
Old 10-31-2008, 11:50 AM   #9
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fwb is fine, but someone does end up with feelings at some point and things can get weird. starting as fwb is easier for me, ending as fwb is still doable, it just takes time for both parties to get detached from the emotional part of it.
Yes and No that FWB are ok.... Like Plummy said, someone ends up with some type of feelings for one another....OR... She gets really jealous when you find a girl that you thought was "the one" and tells her EVERYTHING about what was going on with her and you...


**And yes that was fun talking your way out of
 
Old 10-31-2008, 12:03 PM   #10
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Well friends with beni's....For people who don't want a serious relationship and who know each other...........Better than bringing strangers home.. I would'nt have a problem with it.
 
Old 10-31-2008, 12:05 PM   #11
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threesome's are just fine with me ;)



totally agree!!!
Your husbands a lucky man
 
Old 10-31-2008, 01:05 PM   #12
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Friends with benefits...oh my favorite!

But, it doesn't work...unless you don't orgasm

Oxytocin is a chemical (neurotransmitter) released in your brain and studies have shown that when you have an orgasm, oxytocin is released and it increases "bonding" with your sexual partner.

Moral of the story - whether you like it or not, you are chemically inclined to have emotion towards someone you're sleeping with.. of course the mind is a powerful thing, and you can try to ward off those feelings...but eventually...one of you will probably cave.
 
Old 10-31-2008, 01:12 PM   #13
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Friends with benefits...oh my favorite!

But, it doesn't work...unless you don't orgasm

Oxytocin is a chemical (neurotransmitter) released in your brain and studies have shown that when you have an orgasm, oxytocin is released and it increases "bonding" with your sexual partner.

Moral of the story - whether you like it or not, you are chemically inclined to have emotion towards someone you're sleeping with.. of course the mind is a powerful thing, and you can try to ward off those feelings...but eventually...one of you will probably cave.
humm, that must only be for women, cause I know from past guy friends who have had MANY sexual partners who didn't have any emotional attachment or feelings for the girls they slept with whatsoever.
 
Old 10-31-2008, 01:20 PM   #14
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humm, that must only be for women, cause I know from past guy friends who have had MANY sexual partners who didn't have any emotional attachment or feelings for the girls they slept with whatsoever.
yes, I believe it is just for women...sorry forgot to mention that. I read an article for class on it awhile back, and it was pretty interesting how that all works.
 
Old 11-02-2008, 05:47 PM   #15
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I think it depends


I know myself well enough to know its not a comfortable thing for me (cept in the heat of the moment)... so I just don't do it.....

Some people can.. I can't
 
Old 11-02-2008, 05:51 PM   #16
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FWB is great is you and the other person go into the whole situation both agreeing that all you want is his cock and her pussy. Once things start to evolve, break it off and find another FWB.

i will say, fucking with emotions involved is a helluva lot better then emotionless fucking. But fucking is fucking and it's to get your rocks off.
 
Old 11-02-2008, 05:52 PM   #17
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is that why you left me dane?
 
Old 11-02-2008, 05:53 PM   #18
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is that why you left me dane?
you kept wanting me to stay and have a cigarette. That's just too much. I smoke after leave your house and i need a cigarette immediately after i cum.

meaning, i leave immediately after i get off so i can smoke and i don't look back .. the fact that you were asking to spend my smoking time with me creeped me the fuck out.

let this be a lesson to you child
 
Old 11-03-2008, 07:05 PM   #19
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I can't and won't be a friend with benefits.
 
Old 11-03-2008, 09:30 PM   #20
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nothing wrong with friends with benefits.

just learn to separate physical from emotion and FWB is fabulous!
 
Old 11-03-2008, 09:58 PM   #21
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females seem to have trouble with this in most cases...not all
 
Old 11-03-2008, 09:59 PM   #22
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that's because females are always looking for someone to snuggle with afterwards.

whatever happened to just a good ol' fashioned dick in the cooch? seriously, why u gotta make shit complicated.
 
Old 11-03-2008, 10:00 PM   #23
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cuz sex has to have meanning....or so i was once given as an excuse
 
Old 11-03-2008, 10:02 PM   #24
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sex does have a meaning. a meaning to get off.
 
Old 11-03-2008, 10:05 PM   #25
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sex does have a meaning. a meaning to get off.
or procreate.
 
Old 11-03-2008, 11:22 PM   #26
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nothing wrong with friends with benefits.

just learn to separate physical from emotion and FWB is fabulous!
I'm not saying there is anything wrong with it, but I know that I would get attatched. Its just one of those things that works for others but not me
 
Old 08-17-2009, 05:37 PM   #27
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FWB is too much work, might as well be dating. Put me on speed dial, I will be over like a fireman, and roll out after the flames have died.
 
Old 08-17-2009, 07:44 PM   #28
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I have a tendency to start to care too much. I know, it's one of those "Turn in your man card, your vaj is showing" things. It has caused trouble. I've had a few girls I've FWB'ed with. Sometimes it got to be something more, sometimes not. But I always try to look out for my girls.

Sorry, don't mean to try and sound like a pimp. But I've had....altercations with guys who haven't treated "my" girls right.
 
Old 08-17-2009, 10:01 PM   #29
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I have a tendency to start to care too much. I know, it's one of those "Turn in your man card, your vaj is showing" things. It has caused trouble. I've had a few girls I've FWB'ed with. Sometimes it got to be something more, sometimes not. But I always try to look out for my girls.

Sorry, don't mean to try and sound like a pimp. But I've had....altercations with guys who haven't treated "my" girls right.
it just shows you care about them and they weren't just a piece of ass to you.

nothing to apologize for.

i think it's sweet.
 
Old 08-17-2009, 11:23 PM   #30
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Never done it, don't think I could. It wouldn't end well and I'd look sad & pathetic.

So it's never started or ended like that.
 
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