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View Poll Results: date the best friends ex?
No way- forbidden 18 66.67%
Sure- with permission from the friend 8 29.63%
Absolutly- they're done with eachother and I'm interested! 1 3.70%
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Old 10-26-2008, 02:37 PM   #1
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moving in on ur buddy's....

so I'm kinda curious about this (its happend both ways to me)...

How long do you wait till you "move in" on your friends ex? Is there some "rule"...is it acceptable or forbidden? Different for guys than gals?

I had a best friend marry my ex husband. I kinda thought that was forbidden territory...and well, as soon as we seperated some of his best friends started askin me out or making sure I knew they were interested. There was no way in hell I'd go there- even if there was a bit of an attraction, it just didn't feel right.
 
Old 10-26-2008, 02:51 PM   #2
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I personally don't move in on friend's exes no matter how long they've been separated... but that's just me.
 
Old 10-26-2008, 03:45 PM   #3
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I personally don't move in on friend's exes no matter how long they've been separated... but that's just me.
agree even if my friend gave her blessings, it just wouldn't feel right.
 
Old 10-26-2008, 04:46 PM   #4
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[FONT="Arial Black"][SIZE="4"]Nope ....Nope....Nope...[/SIZE][/FONT]
 
Old 10-26-2008, 05:49 PM   #5
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If my buddy don't care and they didn't work out then hey you never know if we would work without trying.
 
Old 10-26-2008, 05:51 PM   #6
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shit, i was just thinking.....I dated my ex's brother first. Totally forgot about that...

what about siblings ex's??
 
Old 10-26-2008, 07:25 PM   #7
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nope, never, not a good idea!! bad juju all the way around!!
 
Old 10-26-2008, 07:46 PM   #8
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I wouldn't date any of my friends ex's ever, just one of those unspoken rules.

I have however just found out that a "friend" of mine is f*&king one of mine and I laughed at her and asked how she liked my sloppy seconds..dirty whore. She's not really that good of a friend and this does not surprise me at all, she seems to be the town moped, everyone takes a ride, but you don't tell your friends about it.
 
Old 10-26-2008, 08:03 PM   #9
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That is some territory that I don't care to visit.
 
Old 10-27-2008, 10:32 AM   #10
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Even with their permission it could get very awkward. No fly zone for me. Which is why I was so pissed when my friend got engaged to my ex (baby's mama)
 
Old 10-27-2008, 12:19 PM   #11
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Even with their permission it could get very awkward. No fly zone for me. Which is why I was so pissed when my friend got engaged to my ex (baby's mama)
wow. so ah... that's not so cool.
 
Old 10-27-2008, 02:33 PM   #12
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I wouldn't date any of my friends ex's ever, just one of those unspoken rules.

I have however just found out that a "friend" of mine is f*&king one of mine and I laughed at her and asked how she liked my sloppy seconds..dirty whore. She's not really that good of a friend and this does not surprise me at all, she seems to be the town moped, everyone takes a ride, but you don't tell your friends about it.
HAHAHA I get irk'd when a friend I know is dating someone I used to see. I still see them around occasionally, and I find it funny at the same time because neither can look me in the eye.
 
Old 10-27-2008, 06:22 PM   #13
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no,never....couldnt imagin myself ever being with any of my friend's ex's.... and can't stand so called "friends" that try and flirt with other friend's current BF's.
 
Old 10-28-2008, 11:00 AM   #14
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well, I'm on the fence with this one.
 
Old 10-28-2008, 11:01 AM   #15
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well, I'm on the fence with this one.
Explain.
 
Old 10-28-2008, 11:03 AM   #16
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That is a biiiiig no-no.

I had a guy ask me if he could ask out my girlfriend that I was STILL DATING once. I was stunned.
 
Old 10-28-2008, 12:17 PM   #17
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at least he asked


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Old 10-28-2008, 12:27 PM   #18
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Explain.
Not sure I can right now...still rollin it around...I've never really been in that position so I'm trying to sort out the fence sitting.
 
Old 10-28-2008, 12:47 PM   #19
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Not only no but hell no

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no,never....couldnt imagin myself ever being with any of my friend's ex's.... and can't stand so called "friends" that try and flirt with other friend's current BF's.
A person on the other forum that many of us are members of did this same thing. And then when I broke up with my current ex put his efforts into overdrive. That type of crap is BS.
 
Old 10-28-2008, 12:55 PM   #20
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Not only no but hell no



A person on the other forum that many of us are members of did this same thing. And then when I broke up with my current ex put his efforts into overdrive. That type of crap is BS.
yeah, that's just BS. it would make for a very uncomfortable situation to see a friend with one of my ex's...bleh.
 
Old 10-28-2008, 01:59 PM   #21
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So many factors play into this...First off, what is considered an ďexĒ? I mean is a person that they dated for a month an ex or a fling?

Has the history of them as exís surpassed the length of the actual time they were dating? (I.e. did they date for 6 months and itís now 2 years later.)

Is the friend dating someone new? If so, then who are they to have anything what so ever to say about who others can and canít date?

What kinda friend are we talking about?...Friend you met 5 months ago or one you've known for years and years?

I think why Iím the fence is that, attraction is an odd thing...it has no rules and in the end we all are searching for happiness and to deny someone the possibility of that with a person you couldnít or didnít find it with, comes across as selfish, immature and controling. Thatís not to say it wouldnít sting. Maturity plays a huge role here as well.

I'm still rolling this one around...it's a very intresting topic for sure.

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Old 10-28-2008, 03:48 PM   #22
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So many factors play into this...First off, what is considered an ďexĒ? I mean is a person that they dated for a month an ex or a fling?

Has the history of them as exís surpassed the length of the actual time they were dating? (I.e. did they date for 6 months and itís now 2 years later.)

Is the friend dating someone new? If so, then who are they to have anything what so ever to say about who others can and canít date?

What kinda friend are we talking about?...Friend you met 5 months ago or one you've known for years and years?

I think why Iím the fence is that, attraction is an odd thing...it has no rules and in the end we all are searching for happiness and to deny someone the possibility of that with a person you couldnít or didnít find it with, comes across as selfish, immature and controling. Thatís not to say it wouldnít sting. Maturity plays a huge role here as well.

I'm still rolling this one around...it's a very intresting topic for sure.
Ok let's see how on the fence you are about this one. Her and I dated for 3 years lived together for 1 broke up 2 months ago. Him, known him for 2 years, while at functions with me and her constantly stared at her breasts and other parts of her body (which I thought of as a compliment to me) finds out we break up next day calling and texting her non stop.

Is that cool or not?
 
Old 10-28-2008, 04:15 PM   #23
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Ok let's see how on the fence you are about this one. Her and I dated for 3 years lived together for 1 broke up 2 months ago. Him, known him for 2 years, while at functions with me and her constantly stared at her breasts and other parts of her body (which I thought of as a compliment to me) finds out we break up next day calling and texting her non stop.

Is that cool or not?

well, first...I find it rather odd that you took his blatant eye-balling of all of her girl parts as a compliment to you...Me, I would have said something and a red flag would have gone up. That said, we're talking about dating, from the sounds of his actions he has something else in mind at has very little to do with dating. By the aggressiveness and how quickly he begain, sounds like he's been waiting for a break-up, which in turn would make me question his motovations in your 2 year friendship in the first place...

with respect to your situation I would say not cool due to the amount of time you dated and the recent split...that's why I'm asking the questions.

I have a Female friend that was in the same shoes...she and her SO broke it off and instantly all of his friends, her male friends and even some of her associates starting going for her like sharks in chumed water...I ask her if she would consider seeing, going on a date with any of them and she replied..."it's been two weeks..my god, even if I were intrested in them they blew it by being dogs and showing no respect, that maybe I need some time" or something to that degree...
 
Old 10-28-2008, 05:27 PM   #24
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All I have to say is UPON1 is probably the coolest,best lookin, funniest guy I have ever met. I would love to have his child. Any woman that is lucky enough to be near him should feel like they have been blessed by Baby Jesus. He is probably the kindest most romantic man in the greater Spokane area. His shapely buttocks is one of the finest i have ever seen, carved from the finest Italian Marble. His piercing brown eye's look deep into your he steals your soul. God how I wish he was my boyfriend then my life would be so complete. Please lord let UPON1 walk through my door tonite.
 
Old 10-28-2008, 05:42 PM   #25
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^this is why you don't leave yourself logged in^
 
Old 10-28-2008, 05:50 PM   #26
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^^If I was allowed the sig space, I would...

Edit: i just glanced back over this... totally not in response to the question at hand.. sorry, I'm slow

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Old 10-28-2008, 09:56 PM   #27
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Naw I couldnt do it.
 
Old 10-28-2008, 09:59 PM   #28
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Ok let's see how on the fence you are about this one. Her and I dated for 3 years lived together for 1 broke up 2 months ago. Him, known him for 2 years, while at functions with me and her constantly stared at her breasts and other parts of her body (which I thought of as a compliment to me) finds out we break up next day calling and texting her non stop.

Is that cool or not?

Is this who I think it is? I believe you were telling me about him in the Tahoe on the way up to O'Canada.
 
Old 10-29-2008, 05:42 PM   #29
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Is this who I think it is? I believe you were telling me about him in the Tahoe on the way up to O'Canada.
Yes it's who you think it is.
 
Old 12-17-2009, 10:35 PM   #30
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Nope. I figure there is a reason they are not together anymore.... and if they are my friend, we had similar views that would have put me in the same spot down the road.

thoug in college it seems everyone was 'related'
I had a friend that only dated Jen's so that when he yelled her name in bed, he always got it right ;)
 
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