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Old 10-24-2008, 10:03 AM   #1
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What intimidates you about the opposite sex?

Is it their:
- background
- experience
- education
- job/career
- achievements
- over-acheivers
- overly-independent
*edit: Not a complete list... just a starting point and some things I've come across personally, or know via others' relationships...

In a previous relationship, my ex told me that he felt like he didn't measure up to me and my friends. My friends? Give me a fricken break! It wasn't my friends he was dating so why would that matter? And if I gave a damn, I wouldn't have dated him to begin with. So if you're going into something... do these things matter to you? Why?????

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Old 10-24-2008, 10:24 AM   #2
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feeling that she may be "out of my league"
 
Old 10-24-2008, 10:25 AM   #3
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For me, it's not really any of those things. I think my (now ex-)wife made a bit more than I did, and I know she had more schooling. In fact, I NEED an independent woman who's my intellectual equal.

Everything you've listed have more to do with the specific person, not "the opposite sex" in general. My intimidation about "the opposite sex" in general usually has more to do with appoaching them: my worrying about whether she'll be interested or not, whether she's got a bunch of friends around, whether the moment's right, taking things from "friendly conversation" to "interest", and the like.
 
Old 10-24-2008, 10:25 AM   #4
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feeling that she may be "out of my league"
That maybe? but I can't say I've ever felt like someone was above me because of their job or friends and had that play a factor.
 
Old 10-24-2008, 10:25 AM   #5
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Yes. Education and success intimidate me. I often get that "he's too good for me" attitude.
 
Old 10-24-2008, 10:25 AM   #6
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Originally Posted by elaine View Post
Is it their:
- background
- experience
- education
- job/career
- achievements
- over-acheivers
- overly-independent

In a previous relationship, my ex told me that he felt like he didn't measure up to me and my friends. My friends? Give me a fricken break! It wasn't my friends he was dating so why would that matter? And if I gave a damn, I wouldn't have dated him to begin with. So if you're going into something... do these things matter to you? Why?????
All of this is a result of a persons own insecurity. My wife is very independent and very financially successful. Many men could not handle a woman making more money than them.

For me personally the most intimidating thing about women has always been their age (dumb I know) for some reason I have never had any problem at all hitting on someone older than me or younger than me. Before I met my wife when I was 25, I dated women from 18 - 23 and from 29 - 45 ...but for some reason if I knew a womans age was the same or close to mine I would get intimidated. By the way my wife is 15 days older than me.
 
Old 10-24-2008, 10:28 AM   #7
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Yes. Education and success intimidate me. I often get that "he's too good for me" attitude.
For you I'd say 98% of men aren't good enough and another 1% don't deserve ya.
 
Old 10-24-2008, 10:28 AM   #8
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Is it their:
- background
- experience
- education
- job/career
- achievements
- over-acheivers
- overly-independent
you forgot
  • looks
  • style
  • clothing
  • social background

those also make someone feel intimidated by the opposite sex.

that can also play the "you're a shallow prick" card too.
 
Old 10-24-2008, 10:30 AM   #9
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For you I'd say 98% of men aren't good enough and another 1% don't deserve ya.
You're very sweet. Thank you, Nathan.
 
Old 10-24-2008, 10:37 AM   #10
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I agree with Dizzle on this one. That's about the only thing. Money, Job, Friends don't really matter to me. If I like the person and they like me, those things don't matter.
 
Old 10-24-2008, 01:30 PM   #11
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man I cant post for shit today.....lol

What a nice thing to say to WB Nathan
 
Old 10-24-2008, 01:32 PM   #12
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What a nice thing to say to WB Nathan
Anyone who spends time with her would agree.
 
Old 10-24-2008, 04:22 PM   #13
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Yes. Education and success intimidate me. I often get that "he's too good for me" attitude.

sorry..i have that effect
 
Old 10-24-2008, 04:24 PM   #14
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i hear my face....is another one...
 
Old 10-25-2008, 03:39 AM   #15
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For me, it's not really any of those things. I think my (now ex-)wife made a bit more than I did, and I know she had more schooling. In fact, I NEED an independent woman who's my intellectual equal.

Everything you've listed have more to do with the specific person, not "the opposite sex" in general. My intimidation about "the opposite sex" in general usually has more to do with appoaching them: my worrying about whether she'll be interested or not, whether she's got a bunch of friends around, whether the moment's right, taking things from "friendly conversation" to "interest", and the like.
Well specific to a person too.. but I've had friends tell me that so-and-so was interested... until they found out about me and it intimidated them that they somehow felt that maybe I appreciate them as a person. I'm not that shallow. They find out later... and then it's too late.

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I often get that "he's too good for me" attitude.
The attitude comment ... Exactly!

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All of this is a result of a persons own insecurity. My wife is very independent and very financially successful. Many men could not handle a woman making more money than them.

For me personally the most intimidating thing about women has always been their age (dumb I know) for some reason I have never had any problem at all hitting on someone older than me or younger than me. Before I met my wife when I was 25, I dated women from 18 - 23 and from 29 - 45 ...but for some reason if I knew a womans age was the same or close to mine I would get intimidated. By the way my wife is 15 days older than me.
I can see what you're saying... but not everyone looks for a Visa or Mastercard.... it's character and personality. I guess some people just don't see it that way...

As for the age thing... I've dated guys as 5 yrs younger than before and once as old as 13 yrs my senior. Most have been older than me, but I find that most guys around my age have "other" agendas. Too much collecting and selecting going on... it gets old.

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you forgot
  • looks
  • style
  • clothing
  • social background

those also make someone feel intimidated by the opposite sex.

that can also play the "you're a shallow prick" card too.
Didn't forget... just didn't feel the need to list every single thing that came across my mind. We all have an "idea" of the kind of person we'd like to meet eventually... but even when we do.. there's always something else... or just don't ever find them.

Someone told me I need to lower my standards.

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Originally Posted by Kasper View Post
Money, Job, Friends don't really matter to me. If I like the person and they like me, those things don't matter.
Thank you! Like I said.... character, not what the credit limit is on their Visa.
 
Old 10-25-2008, 03:39 AM   #16
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i hear my face....is another one...
You're such a tard!
 
Old 10-25-2008, 07:14 AM   #17
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Someone told me I need to lower my standards.
some people need to sometimes. Aim for the ground, shoot for the stars.

not vise versa.
 
Old 10-25-2008, 09:54 AM   #18
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Sometimes I can be my own worst enemy. I have no problem talking to women that I have no real interest in (at least no interest at the moment). Yea..I've been accused of being aloof...

The minute it becomes an issue of me actually liking someone, it's like my feet are made of lead and my tongue swells up and I can't talk I am a big fan of the woman taking the lead and approaching me though

So to answer the question..I guess it's my own personal insecurities..rather than anything the other person does or is....
 
Old 10-25-2008, 11:23 AM   #19
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I'm not very easily intimidated by women. Age, income, appearance, etc don't really bother me when approaching a women. What I have trouble with is getting past the "just talking" point. I can talk to women all day long but since I feel like I've been spoken for for so long I'm unpracticed at developing a friendship and/or relationship from that point. In fact that pretty much goes for guys and girls.
 
Old 10-25-2008, 11:34 AM   #20
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You're such a tard!
tell me i'm wrong
 
Old 10-25-2008, 12:26 PM   #21
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some people need to sometimes. Aim for the ground, shoot for the stars.

not vise versa.
I don't think my bar is set too high... I just know what I want.

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Sometimes I can be my own worst enemy. I have no problem talking to women that I have no real interest in (at least no interest at the moment). Yea..I've been accused of being aloof...

The minute it becomes an issue of me actually liking someone, it's like my feet are made of lead and my tongue swells up and I can't talk I am a big fan of the woman taking the lead and approaching me though

So to answer the question..I guess it's my own personal insecurities..rather than anything the other person does or is....
One "insecurity" I used to have was the fact that I couldn't/didn't know how to take a compliment. I dated someone who left me leave me for that reason... We live and learn though.
 
Old 10-25-2008, 12:36 PM   #22
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One "insecurity" I used to have was the fact that I couldn't/didn't know how to take a compliment.
I feel ya on that one. I still have issues with accepting compliments (I have no idea why).
 
Old 10-25-2008, 12:43 PM   #23
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I feel ya on that one. I still have issues with accepting compliments (I have no idea why).
He told me that I needed to learn to say, "thank you, but I don't agree" or just say "thanks". Now, more accepting of compliments now as I seem to get the same ones. I just say thank you when I get new ones. *shrug*
 
Old 10-25-2008, 12:47 PM   #24
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He told me that I needed to learn to say, "thank you, but I don't agree" or just say "thanks". Now, more accepting of compliments now as I seem to get the same ones. I just say thank you when I get new ones. *shrug*

Yeah, I am working on it. I'm getting better but I still have a little ways to go
 
Old 10-25-2008, 01:23 PM   #25
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Me being shy. (Sounds silly, I know, but it's true.)

More importantly, I intimidate myself. I see a woman who I find to be attractive and dressed well, and almost instantaneously think that I can't live up to what her expectations will be.

That's what keeps me from being more outgoing than I am when it comes to women.
 
Old 10-25-2008, 02:08 PM   #26
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I noticed that when I'm meet someone that I'm attracted to, I think, "I'm probably not his type" so don't do anything about it. Then again, when someone IS interested, I'm pretty oblivious to the fact anyway. I shy up once in a while, but usually get comfortable and just be myself. Besides, I'm bad at flirting anyway.
 
Old 10-25-2008, 02:11 PM   #27
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Go with the flow...be yourself....

I`m not what you would say "shy", but the best way to figure someone out is make them uncomfortable to see how they react
 
Old 10-25-2008, 03:03 PM   #28
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Me being shy. (Sounds silly, I know, but it's true.)

More importantly, I intimidate myself. I see a woman who I find to be attractive and dressed well, and almost instantaneously think that I can't live up to what her expectations will be.

That's what keeps me from being more outgoing than I am when it comes to women.
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So to answer the question..I guess it's my own personal insecurities..rather than anything the other person does or is....
Nicely put. to both of these.
 
Old 10-26-2008, 11:03 AM   #29
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I don't think my bar is set too high... I just know what I want.
There are certain thing people know they do not want in a partner, never sacrafice those things, and never ignore the red flags or you will not be happy. I was single (dating) for a long time, about 4 or 5 years, before I met the person that had what I wanted in a partner....and I knew it within the first 10 minutes of meeting her.
 
Old 12-17-2009, 10:25 PM   #30
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For me its never the girl, its her friends. I figure one on one, I will throw it out there when the mood strikes and I see fit, but if she is in a group of friends, nope, no fly zone for me.
Of course I avoid the meat markets and dance clubs, keeps me away from the Wooohooo girls.
 
Old 11-18-2010, 04:05 PM   #31
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hot modle looks, IN
age at half of mine, IN
educated girl with her own money, IN
Good taste in auto / moto, IN
a gaggle of friends that will cock block you from the word go. OUT
 
Old 11-18-2010, 06:57 PM   #32
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LOL, I don't typically respond to someone hitting up old post but that is TOTALLY awesome
 
Old 11-18-2010, 08:44 PM   #33
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Zombie Thread,
Just when you thought it was dead..... It comes back to the top.
 
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