Love and Happiness
Posted 10-29-2008 at 05:39 PM by evander
Love and Happiness. We all want it. We all search for it. Do we really understand these feeling? I thought I understood these feelings. I was wrong. I didn't know what true love was or what it felt to really be happy. For 32 years of my life I was searching in vain for something I didn't understand.
I was incredibly selfish in my search for happiness. I was so caught up in my search for something I didn't yet understand that I destroyed many relationships. I was incorrectly searching for something or someone to make me happy. It was all about me. That mentality kept me from making friends. Destroyed a marriage. And strained the relationship with my family. I still didn't know what I was ever looking for. Life changes and you grow from it. I grew considerably from my divorce.
Two years ago for the first time in my life I felt true love. I have grown as a person by experiencing this. But I was still selfishly searching for happiness and that selfishness destroyed the relationship. For the first time in my life felt heart break. It hurts. I don't like pain and in a desperate act to try and ease my pain. I resorted to the selfish persona I hate. I acted in a selfish manner and tried to win her back. I wanted her back for the wrong reasons. I was afraid that this experience of love would be lost forever. I am wrong. I now understand what love is.
Love is about putting someone else's needs before yours. Love is an emotion that is shared. Love is unconditional. Love is being completely open and honest with the other person. Love can hurt. Being completely open and honest can be painful. Love means you have complete trust. Love is being truthful first with yourself then with others. Love is not being judgmental.
Through this painful breakup. I discovered what it means to be happy. Happiness is something that has to come from within. Happiness is a state of being not just an emotion. To really be happy, not just feel happy, you need to understand what is important in your life. It is important to me to love the people in my life.
I have a great understanding of myself. I know where I am now emotionally. I know what kind of person I'm going to be. I now have the understanding of what I need to do to become that person.
I was incredibly selfish in my search for happiness. I was so caught up in my search for something I didn't yet understand that I destroyed many relationships. I was incorrectly searching for something or someone to make me happy. It was all about me. That mentality kept me from making friends. Destroyed a marriage. And strained the relationship with my family. I still didn't know what I was ever looking for. Life changes and you grow from it. I grew considerably from my divorce.
Two years ago for the first time in my life I felt true love. I have grown as a person by experiencing this. But I was still selfishly searching for happiness and that selfishness destroyed the relationship. For the first time in my life felt heart break. It hurts. I don't like pain and in a desperate act to try and ease my pain. I resorted to the selfish persona I hate. I acted in a selfish manner and tried to win her back. I wanted her back for the wrong reasons. I was afraid that this experience of love would be lost forever. I am wrong. I now understand what love is.
Love is about putting someone else's needs before yours. Love is an emotion that is shared. Love is unconditional. Love is being completely open and honest with the other person. Love can hurt. Being completely open and honest can be painful. Love means you have complete trust. Love is being truthful first with yourself then with others. Love is not being judgmental.
Through this painful breakup. I discovered what it means to be happy. Happiness is something that has to come from within. Happiness is a state of being not just an emotion. To really be happy, not just feel happy, you need to understand what is important in your life. It is important to me to love the people in my life.
I have a great understanding of myself. I know where I am now emotionally. I know what kind of person I'm going to be. I now have the understanding of what I need to do to become that person.
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Very nice, well-worded and expressed. Not very many people achieve this in life, some actually never do. Everything in life comes in stages. We can't possibly grow, learn, or even empathize with others unless we go through some pain and heartache. We also learn how to love others better through mistakes and through heartbreak.
The key truly is, though, to live by what you now know to be true. Learning isn't enough, knowing isn't enough...living each day as a changed person is what brings that true growth. You definitely have to value yourself before you can truly value others. When you do that, it allows others to naturally seek "your" heart out, and they will value it too. I'm proud of you.Posted 10-30-2008 at 06:34 AM by xMonkeyx
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Wow to both of you... words of inspiration.... and I really needed to hear that. I have been stuggling with finding my 'self' agian... thinking of happiness truly coming from within somedays seems easier to do. I think a lot of us, including me go thru the motions and think if we act happy we will be happy.... Thanks for sharing and I'm still searching...Posted 11-05-2008 at 02:01 PM by Sittin Pretty
