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Old 08-11-2010, 08:52 PM   #1
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How do you get dates?

I get out to bike nights usually twice a week, Go dancing twice a week, and out to a club once a week. As you can see I am rarely home. Then there are other things I go to as well that are not regular activities such as the Jazz and wine festible at St. Michelles this last weekend. But I get out about 4-5 nights a week and I have not had any luck in the dating department. I enjoy myself most of the time however going to events constently without a date is getting pretty old. Plus I get lonely in the evenings. I have been divorced for 6 years but have only dated 1 guy three times. He wanted me to sell my bike. So I said that's not gonna happen. I had one friend tell me to get out and do things. Shit I can't fit anything else in my schedule. I just want a friggin date once in a while. preferably not one every 5 or 6 years. Maybe if all goes well a BF for a while.
 
Old 08-11-2010, 09:47 PM   #2
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I get out to bike nights usually twice a week, Go dancing twice a week, and out to a club once a week. As you can see I am rarely home. Then there are other things I go to as well that are not regular activities such as the Jazz and wine festible at St. Michelles this last weekend. But I get out about 4-5 nights a week and I have not had any luck in the dating department. I enjoy myself most of the time however going to events constently without a date is getting pretty old. Plus I get lonely in the evenings. I have been divorced for 6 years but have only dated 1 guy three times. He wanted me to sell my bike. So I said that's not gonna happen. I had one friend tell me to get out and do things. Shit I can't fit anything else in my schedule. I just want a friggin date once in a while. preferably not one every 5 or 6 years. Maybe if all goes well a BF for a while.
wtf? It's like I have a new screen name. Ya want a date...it
s August 11th. There's your date. Tomorrow will be August 12th, another new date. Take it for what it is. You seem to have a great social life. Why let a man come in and fuck it all up for you? You can buy things to help you cope thru the lonely nights...buy one and consider yourself lucky
 
Old 08-11-2010, 10:30 PM   #3
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welcome!

Sorry I can't answer your question though. I find myself in a similar boat.
 
Old 08-12-2010, 05:31 AM   #4
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Welcome.... ignore Bikenut shes recently Born Again Single. I can't answer your question either but I can tell you that you have a lot of company in your boat. Everyone asks the same thing where do I meet someone to go on a date with. It sounds like your going to all the right places maybe you should do the asking.
 
Old 08-12-2010, 10:28 AM   #5
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Well I am very sociable. But I have been alone for a long time. I have tried the online dating thing and that sucks. No luck there and I have gotten involved with table for two. Which is an in house dating company in town. The gal there said she is not having any luck finding someone for me to meet. She has been trying since November and has not charge me the fee yet due to her not getting anywhere. I have let guys know that I am interested but all I get is turned down. So I am just at a loss when it comes to dating.

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Old 08-12-2010, 10:40 AM   #6
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Cue Mike with phone number as posting in 3, 2, .........


Welcome by the way, I would say unfortunately all the good men are either taken or gay.
 
Old 08-12-2010, 11:01 AM   #7
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I'm not taken OR gay =P.
 
Old 08-12-2010, 06:35 PM   #8
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not taken, not gay
I have worked too hard on my independence to go and waste it on a relationship.
Its girls half my age, and sometimes two at a time.
Live my life 4 to 6 hours at a time..... with a stupid grin on the face and a long line of ukrainian girls.

the finger comes off before a ring goes on.
 
Old 08-12-2010, 06:42 PM   #9
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Cue Mike with phone number as posting in 3, 2, .........


Welcome by the way, I would say unfortunately all the good men are either taken or gay.
So your a good man.. are you either of those things.. gay NO...but is there something your not sharing...taken???
 
Old 08-13-2010, 03:01 PM   #10
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...but is there something your not sharing...taken???
If I lick him, is he MINE?!
 
Old 08-23-2010, 09:11 PM   #11
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So your a good man.. are you either of those things.. gay NO...but is there something your not sharing...taken???
Notice how quiet this thread got... Here's a big ol' BUMP!
 
Old 08-23-2010, 11:10 PM   #12
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I've met lots of great women on OKCupid...
 
Old 08-24-2010, 06:04 AM   #13
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So your a good man.. are you either of those things.. gay NO...but is there something your not sharing...taken???
 
Old 08-24-2010, 06:41 AM   #14
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Old 09-16-2010, 03:46 PM   #15
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If I lick him, is he MINE?!
hahahahaha.. ok that is hilarous!!
 
Old 09-16-2010, 03:51 PM   #16
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I get out to bike nights usually twice a week, Go dancing twice a week, and out to a club once a week. As you can see I am rarely home. Then there are other things I go to as well that are not regular activities such as the Jazz and wine festible at St. Michelles this last weekend. But I get out about 4-5 nights a week and I have not had any luck in the dating department. I enjoy myself most of the time however going to events constently without a date is getting pretty old. Plus I get lonely in the evenings. I have been divorced for 6 years but have only dated 1 guy three times. He wanted me to sell my bike. So I said that's not gonna happen. I had one friend tell me to get out and do things. Shit I can't fit anything else in my schedule. I just want a friggin date once in a while. preferably not one every 5 or 6 years. Maybe if all goes well a BF for a while.
Sounds like you are out and active which is GREAT.. I wish I had some awesome sage advice as being newly single myself, but I guess it just depends on each person and needs.

For me.. clubbing is a COMPLETE waste.. granted, I am not 19 anymore, but are you really going to meet someone while trying to scream over the music? Now to be far.. I did meet someone that way once, but doesn't sound like what you are looking for. 8)

The guy wanting to sell your bike.. frak no.. the biggest thing, and yes I am the pot calling the kettle black on this one, just be true to yourself. BE yourself.. the one you want to be with will want that, nothing less, nothing more and anyone trying to change that doesn't deserve your time and attention anyway. 8)

If you make it up north give me a shout.. happy to buy a beer and bitch about being single. 8)
 
Old 09-16-2010, 09:30 PM   #17
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I get out to bike nights usually twice a week, Go dancing twice a week, and out to a club once a week. As you can see I am rarely home. Then there are other things I go to as well that are not regular activities such as the Jazz and wine festible at St. Michelles this last weekend. But I get out about 4-5 nights a week and I have not had any luck in the dating department. I enjoy myself most of the time however going to events constently without a date is getting pretty old. Plus I get lonely in the evenings. I have been divorced for 6 years but have only dated 1 guy three times. He wanted me to sell my bike. So I said that's not gonna happen. I had one friend tell me to get out and do things. Shit I can't fit anything else in my schedule. I just want a friggin date once in a while. preferably not one every 5 or 6 years. Maybe if all goes well a BF for a while.
Seriously..just hang the course. I don't date either. Mainly because I won't DATE just to DATE. I think a lot of it has to do with personal attitude. If I find someone..well then I just won the lotto. If if don't...I have my own life to tend to. I've been to St. Michelle..nice spot. Just take dating for what it is..a gamble. I lived alot of years alone.

The ole cliche' is your glass half empyt or half full.
 
Old 10-09-2010, 07:12 PM   #18
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my favorite way is to have the mother specifically forbid it ;)
 
Old 10-10-2010, 04:23 AM   #19
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my favorite way is to have the mother specifically forbid it ;)
Yep, that works everytime...I married the one my Mother forbid me to date.
 
Old 10-24-2010, 08:44 PM   #20
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if you need something to do, you could come over to my house and clean

if you bring beer, it will almost be like a date.
 
Old 10-27-2010, 05:27 AM   #21
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Lots of drugs and alcohol.... just sayin
 
Old 11-03-2010, 08:04 PM   #22
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Importing from Ukraine, looking forward to another fun holiday season..... its the most beautiful time of year.
 
Old 11-17-2010, 02:09 PM   #23
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I get out to bike nights usually twice a week, Go dancing twice a week, and out to a club once a week. As you can see I am rarely home. Then there are other things I go to as well that are not regular activities such as the Jazz and wine festible at St. Michelles this last weekend. But I get out about 4-5 nights a week and I have not had any luck in the dating department. I enjoy myself most of the time however going to events constently without a date is getting pretty old. Plus I get lonely in the evenings. I have been divorced for 6 years but have only dated 1 guy three times. He wanted me to sell my bike. So I said that's not gonna happen. I had one friend tell me to get out and do things. Shit I can't fit anything else in my schedule. I just want a friggin date once in a while. preferably not one every 5 or 6 years. Maybe if all goes well a BF for a while.
It sounds like you are are a busy gal!

If you want a date, the first step is to find someone interesting. I bet you meet all kinds of interesting people all the time with that schedule of yours.

So once you have someone in mind, there are two ways to go : Direct or Indirect.

Indirect is basically the art of subtle seduction. A touch here, a laugh there, the right type and timing of eye contact...it gets complicated but can actually be lots of fun, and is in some respects superior to direct because you are building desire and attraction for each other when done right.

Direct is just being up front, but not in a desperate, needy, or low-value way, and has the benefit of immediate results (positive or negative, eithee way you get an answer) Something as simple as :

"Hey you seem really interesting, I would love to pick your brain about your trip to Tibet sometime. When would you like to get together?"

"Oh, you love Ethiopian food too? Fantastic, we should go eat some tibs together sometime, that would be fun! What does your schedule look like?"

Once you establish rapport and ask for some future date, get contact info (This should always be worded as "What is the best way to stay in touch?") and follow through with planning something together.

Just some basic ideas, hope they help.
 
Old 11-24-2010, 04:14 PM   #24
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YouTube - A Lesson In Picking Up Girls
 
Old 12-03-2010, 02:05 PM   #25
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I consult for a couple of russian / ukrainian dating services..... it is the never ending string of heart break, young bodies, hot sex and dirty promises
 
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