She suddenly wants to be "just friends"

krst451 · 03-04-2010, 11:59 AM

So I was at this dance the past friday. I was dancing with a group of people and we started dancing together. I said that I did not know how to dance. When we started dancing he said that I was I can dance. He held my hands even on fast songs. We had eye contact most of the time and we would laugh. We decided to go outside cause it was getting hot. He actually grabbed my hand and lead me outside. We talked for about 15 minutes and then danced a little more. Then he had to leave ) :
I asked him for his # and called him right away so he could get mine. I texted him yesterday and it took him an hour to text back. We were texting and then he stopped. I haven't contacted him at all after that. Does this he could have liked me? Is he shy? Please guys suggestions!

Qtip · 03-04-2010, 12:13 PM

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Originally Posted by krst451

I met this girl a few months ago. We'd been hanging out as part of a group for a while, then recently started just hanging out together and texting each other basically all day.

After a few weeks of this, I asked if she wanted to be more than friends, and she did. We went on two dates after that. After the first one, she went on about how much fun she had and how she couldn't wait to see me again. She seemed really excited about me in general ("I had so much fun last night" etc.). But, after the second one, I asked her if she had fun, but she just said she was "struggling with the more than friends thing".

I tried to give her some time to think, but I couldn't help it and started asking questions. The only reason she would give is that she "thought she liked me that way, but now she doesn't think she does". When I asked her what caused her to change her mind, she said "You're cute, interesting, nice, and funny, so I don't really know why I don't like you in that way."

So, I was just wondering if anyone could give me some insight into what could possibly be going through her mind. I don't understand how she can list a bunch of reasons to like me, but then say that she doesn't.

I'm just so confused, and I feel like there must be something she isn't telling me. It's like she instantly went from being all excited to "feeling awkward".

Most importantly, I'm wondering if there's any hope...

Thanks!

Welcome to the Love Boat first and foremost! I would have to say that I think she might be scared at what you could represent. She obviously had a great time with you and might be a little frightened at the possiblity of it going away. I think there is hope for you if you stick with it, give her some space but not to the point where you're outta sight outta mind kinda thing. Let her kinda run the show for a little bit and see where things lead, she might just need a little illusion of control in the matter to help her confirm what she felt on the first date. Definitely don't hound as I have a feeling she bolt quickly.

Good luck and I hope things work out for ya!

There poker in the casino and shuffle board on the main deck, enjoy your cruise.

MrsD · 03-04-2010, 01:17 PM

Welcome to the Love Boat theres drinks in the lounge after 5. Oh and give her some space don't be to eager, not to available. Pretty much everything Qtip said. Good Luck...

Driftertank · 03-07-2010, 02:17 PM

You're too nice for her. She wants somebody to make her work for it. Somebody with problems.

Meh. Just go with the flow. Don't push, don't chase, just enjoy what you can. Love makes people do stupid things, and when both parties aren't headlong into it, it'll tear you apart.

I'm rubbish with realationships. Every time I think I've got something sorted out, something buggers it up.

So, take anything I say with a grain of salt. I'm rediculously cynical.

CForce · 03-07-2010, 03:02 PM

How old is she?

sin808 · 03-07-2010, 07:34 PM

gtfo spam

jjoker · 03-08-2010, 03:35 PM

Yep, age/maturity as always has a lot to do with it. I just recently came up with a new theory....

If you want to know how your relationship is going, match the amout of energy your partner puts into it.

That will tell you 'Exacta-mundo' where you're at.

cityxslicker · 03-11-2010, 01:09 PM

money, fame, swimmers body, 12 inch cock.
You are lacking in one or more of these fields. Go get them. If she doesnt come back, meh, who cares, you have money, fame, a swimmers physique and a 12 inch cock. Go shopping for a new girl.

SPAM, its just not spiced shouldered ham luncheoun meat in a vacuum sealed can.

Mikercw · 03-15-2010, 08:41 PM

12 inch cock.... geez... I wouldnt know what to do with a 12in dick!!!! wow

wait.... im fucked on all four of those things!!! DAMNIT!!

Driftertank · 03-16-2010, 06:16 AM

No, you're famous....or maybe INfamous is the proper word....

MrsD · 03-16-2010, 09:19 AM

Why yes he is.

Mikercw · 03-16-2010, 04:53 PM

oh really?

cityxslicker · 03-26-2010, 09:42 PM

SPAM, even in cyrillic you dont know whats in that can.

cityxslicker · 03-30-2010, 11:24 AM

His friends say pictures of you... they think you are fat, he is embarassed.

03-04-2010, 11:59 AM	#1
krst451 Newbie I'm a Male Living in new york	Is he not interested? So I was at this dance the past friday. I was dancing with a group of people and we started dancing together. I said that I did not know how to dance. When we started dancing he said that I was I can dance. He held my hands even on fast songs. We had eye contact most of the time and we would laugh. We decided to go outside cause it was getting hot. He actually grabbed my hand and lead me outside. We talked for about 15 minutes and then danced a little more. Then he had to leave ) : I asked him for his # and called him right away so he could get mine. I texted him yesterday and it took him an hour to text back. We were texting and then he stopped. I haven't contacted him at all after that. Does this he could have liked me? Is he shy? Please guys suggestions! __________________ computer fix denver Last edited by krst451; 03-16-2010 at 01:36 PM..

03-04-2010, 01:17 PM	#3
MrsD Just me I'm a Female Living in Greenacres Blog Entries: 4	Welcome to the Love Boat theres drinks in the lounge after 5. Oh and give her some space don't be to eager, not to available. Pretty much everything Qtip said. Good Luck... __________________ Life is not about waiting for the storm to pass, its about learning to dance in the rain-Go Dance

03-07-2010, 02:17 PM	#4
Driftertank Rezident Cynik I'm a Gentleman Living in Various Locations in WA Blog Entries: 2	You're too nice for her. She wants somebody to make her work for it. Somebody with problems. Meh. Just go with the flow. Don't push, don't chase, just enjoy what you can. Love makes people do stupid things, and when both parties aren't headlong into it, it'll tear you apart. I'm rubbish with realationships. Every time I think I've got something sorted out, something buggers it up. So, take anything I say with a grain of salt. I'm rediculously cynical. __________________ Thought I was in love once. Turns out it was just gas...

03-07-2010, 07:34 PM	#6
sin808 superhero I'm a Male Living in Bellingham	gtfo spam __________________ "Most men lead lives of quiet desperation and go to the grave with the song still in them." -Henry David Thoreau

03-11-2010, 01:09 PM	#8
cityxslicker PNW Love Member I'm a Dude Living in bremertonapooloza Blog Entries: 1	money, fame, swimmers body, 12 inch cock. You are lacking in one or more of these fields. Go get them. If she doesnt come back, meh, who cares, you have money, fame, a swimmers physique and a 12 inch cock. Go shopping for a new girl. SPAM, its just not spiced shouldered ham luncheoun meat in a vacuum sealed can. __________________ Something pithy, sarcastic and rather opinionated... just waiting for the inspiration.

03-07-2010, 03:02 PM	#5
CForce The Force I'm a Guy Living in Seattle	How old is she?

03-08-2010, 03:35 PM	#7
jjoker Random Fact Man I'm a Gentleman Living in Spokane	Yep, age/maturity as always has a lot to do with it. I just recently came up with a new theory.... If you want to know how your relationship is going, match the amout of energy your partner puts into it. That will tell you 'Exacta-mundo' where you're at.

03-15-2010, 08:41 PM	#9
Mikercw I TELL IT LIKE IT IS!!!! I'm a Guy Living in Willy Wonka`s Chocolate Factory- Down The Hall From The Oompa Loompas	12 inch cock.... geez... I wouldnt know what to do with a 12in dick!!!! wow wait.... im fucked on all four of those things!!! DAMNIT!! __________________ DISCLAIMER: I WILL say or do things you may not like. DO NOT get all butt hurt over it. If you have a problem. SAY SOMETHING Women want to ask my opinion... But they may never want my answer

03-16-2010, 06:16 AM	#10
Driftertank Rezident Cynik I'm a Gentleman Living in Various Locations in WA Blog Entries: 2	No, you're famous....or maybe INfamous is the proper word.... __________________ Thought I was in love once. Turns out it was just gas...

03-16-2010, 09:19 AM	#11
MrsD Just me I'm a Female Living in Greenacres Blog Entries: 4	Why yes he is. __________________ Life is not about waiting for the storm to pass, its about learning to dance in the rain-Go Dance

03-16-2010, 04:53 PM	#12
Mikercw I TELL IT LIKE IT IS!!!! I'm a Guy Living in Willy Wonka`s Chocolate Factory- Down The Hall From The Oompa Loompas	oh really? __________________ DISCLAIMER: I WILL say or do things you may not like. DO NOT get all butt hurt over it. If you have a problem. SAY SOMETHING Women want to ask my opinion... But they may never want my answer

03-26-2010, 09:42 PM	#13
cityxslicker PNW Love Member I'm a Dude Living in bremertonapooloza Blog Entries: 1	SPAM, even in cyrillic you dont know whats in that can. __________________ Something pithy, sarcastic and rather opinionated... just waiting for the inspiration.

03-30-2010, 11:24 AM	#14
cityxslicker PNW Love Member I'm a Dude Living in bremertonapooloza Blog Entries: 1	His friends say pictures of you... they think you are fat, he is embarassed. __________________ Something pithy, sarcastic and rather opinionated... just waiting for the inspiration.

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