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Old 10-22-2009, 03:03 PM   #1
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Baby Your Baby

Ok ladies... (and gentlemen if there are any on here that are actually gentlemen), I am seeking some input...

I am always trying to think of ways to "Baby my Baby" as George Strait says, and try to help her relax because her work is VERY stressful at times and for the simple reason that I want the best for her. I know she really appreciates it when I do little things like the dishes if there are any, or maybe throwing the next load in the washer, making my own lunch (MrsD), cooking my own dinner (or at least microwaving some leftovers!). I would like to believe that doing these things show her I love her in a small way and tend to make her outlook on life just a little better.

What are some "simple" things your S/O could do that really would make your day better? Not necessarily chores but just whatever- this is a wide open question with many right answers. A little added bonus would be for you to tell me why it would be a good idea... Please make me a list of ideas and suggestions!

household chores
foot/back rub
surprise her with _____?
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Old 10-22-2009, 03:32 PM   #2
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wow...tell me you have a brother. I gotta say you have always shown your adoration for your wife...shit, almost everytime you post. God, I hope she knows how lucky she is.

My pathetic idea...women who are lucky enough to have a guy like you are shown they are loved all the time so I can only give you my little persepctive. Since you show her all the time it's always been a dream of most girls to have you say it publicly..I know sad. Think of every romantic comedy...the point where the guy stands up and announces to the WORLD that he is the luckiest man alive because of her.

My best moment EVER was when me and my ex were driving down the highway...my favorite song came on and told him so...he pulled over in the pouring down rain, took me out of the car a slow danced with me along the interstate..shit, I will never forget that moment...cars drove by honking and cheering....something so simple yet so memorable.

Do something simple to show the world how much you love her...I had a friend take Hershy kisses and trailed them from the driveway all the way through the house into the bedroom with a simple card that said "I kiss the ground you walk on", didn't hear from the bastard for four days apparantly she liked it

Rose petals? Candles? How about a letter, posted on PNWLove stating how you really feel? Shit, we all need a good cry. I know LD has a letter framed in her home...shit, I cried like a baby when I read it..a letter in which Duane professed his public and unconditional love for the wench. Brought this hardened bitch to her knees.
 
Old 10-23-2009, 04:13 AM   #3
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The fact that you have even asked impresses the shit out of me. I know I have told you before and I will repeat that you remind me a lot of of my husband. Your quiet, simple, strong of mind and heart, full of compassion. You possess love of life and outdoors and your amazing love for your wife shines through, such rare qualities in this day and age. Yes, I have a Love letter framed on my bedroom wall its my most precious material thing I have. The words of a quiet man on paper the words of his heart to me priceless. Its the simple things that I appreciate the most, bring me a cup of coffee or tea. A back rub, a bubble bath, a surprise trip to an unknown destination with a picnic. He always holds my hand in public, he whispers in my ear when no ones looking. Sometimes on Sundays he will make a snack get me settled in my chair or on the couch and watch something we both enjoy. He will play my favorite music and dance in the living room with me. All of this and what you are doing keeps the romance alive the most important part of a marriage is staying in love. I remember he took me on one of his work trips one time and he pulled over to the side of the road so I could get out and look at the Ocean. He came up and put his arms around me and said I just fell in Love with You all over again, I cried. Once a couple of years back he took me downtown to ride in a horse drawn carriage during the holidays. We had a couple of drinks and were walking back to our rig when he shouted for all the wold to hear I Love This Woman and then kissed me in the middle of the road. Horns honking people clapping you would have thought I just got engaged. So yes BN hit it on the head, we like it when you profess your love publicly but its meant just for us. Its the little things that you do that matter the most a warm towel when she gets out of the shower, the chores that you have done so she doesn't have to, the kind words and recognizing that she has worked hard and you appreciate it. Tell her shes beautiful and how much she means to you when she least expects it. I have been going through a rough time and Duane knows it, he has to. But last night he told me you are strong and amazing and if anyone can pull this off with grace you can. It was just like he gave me the power of a million women, why.. simple because he believes in me. That and were thinking were going to get a room at a motel once a week. In turn it should be a two way street and she should be doing all these things for you too. Then my friend they live happily ever after together.
 
Old 10-23-2009, 07:34 AM   #4
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Wow... I sincerely appreciate the feedback but I don't feel like I deserve all of your kind words, but thank you anyway. I guess she has me trained... To me this is very important stuff, because if it weren't her and I, most things in life wouldn't matter any more and I would really have to change directions. MrsD, I'm not sure how you know me so well from just the inet, you must have good intuition. I am very proud of my wife as she can do so many things I can't... she has my respect and admiration, which I don't hand out like candy.

These are great ideas, and I hope more are coming. As you think of things, just add them to this thread. I feel I can always improve and always try to show her I love her... that is a goal that can never be completely satisfied, only continued and it is high on my list. No matter how much I get caught up in work, etc. I should not neglect the things that are truly important.

I had to laugh a little, because many of the things stated so far I do already... things like when we go out to eat and sit in a booth, we'll both sit on the same side instead of across from each other... sure it makes it more difficult to turn your head to make eye contact, but it's just nice to sit closer. I also enjoy when she sits by me in my truck instead of way way over there in the passenger seat.

Regardless, I could profess my love to her in public more often... I do this often, but most of the time she's not there to hear it (like this). Every girl likes to feel special, and I think most guys know this but don't often make it happen. I will make a point of following through with that... thank you. Now that people are thinking along these lines, what are some more ideas?

(Sorry BN, I did have a brother until I was 7, but no longer)
 
Old 10-23-2009, 06:32 PM   #5
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Not not a gentlemen...... So just read what they said... i`ll agree
 
Old 10-25-2009, 08:49 PM   #6
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The fact that you have even asked impresses the shit out of me. I know I have told you before and I will repeat that you remind me a lot of of my husband. Your quiet, simple, strong of mind and heart, full of compassion. You possess love of life and outdoors and your amazing love for your wife shines through, such rare qualities in this day and age. Yes, I have a Love letter framed on my bedroom wall its my most precious material thing I have. The words of a quiet man on paper the words of his heart to me priceless. Its the simple things that I appreciate the most, bring me a cup of coffee or tea. A back rub, a bubble bath, a surprise trip to an unknown destination with a picnic. He always holds my hand in public, he whispers in my ear when no ones looking. Sometimes on Sundays he will make a snack get me settled in my chair or on the couch and watch something we both enjoy. He will play my favorite music and dance in the living room with me. All of this and what you are doing keeps the romance alive the most important part of a marriage is staying in love. I remember he took me on one of his work trips one time and he pulled over to the side of the road so I could get out and look at the Ocean. He came up and put his arms around me and said I just fell in Love with You all over again, I cried. Once a couple of years back he took me downtown to ride in a horse drawn carriage during the holidays. We had a couple of drinks and were walking back to our rig when he shouted for all the wold to hear I Love This Woman and then kissed me in the middle of the road. Horns honking people clapping you would have thought I just got engaged. So yes BN hit it on the head, we like it when you profess your love publicly but its meant just for us. Its the little things that you do that matter the most a warm towel when she gets out of the shower, the chores that you have done so she doesn't have to, the kind words and recognizing that she has worked hard and you appreciate it. Tell her shes beautiful and how much she means to you when she least expects it. I have been going through a rough time and Duane knows it, he has to. But last night he told me you are strong and amazing and if anyone can pull this off with grace you can. It was just like he gave me the power of a million women, why.. simple because he believes in me. That and were thinking were going to get a room at a motel once a week. In turn it should be a two way street and she should be doing all these things for you too. Then my friend they live happily ever after together.
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Wow... I sincerely appreciate the feedback but I don't feel like I deserve all of your kind words, but thank you anyway. I guess she has me trained... To me this is very important stuff, because if it weren't her and I, most things in life wouldn't matter any more and I would really have to change directions. MrsD, I'm not sure how you know me so well from just the inet, you must have good intuition. I am very proud of my wife as she can do so many things I can't... she has my respect and admiration, which I don't hand out like candy.

These are great ideas, and I hope more are coming. As you think of things, just add them to this thread. I feel I can always improve and always try to show her I love her... that is a goal that can never be completely satisfied, only continued and it is high on my list. No matter how much I get caught up in work, etc. I should not neglect the things that are truly important.

I had to laugh a little, because many of the things stated so far I do already... things like when we go out to eat and sit in a booth, we'll both sit on the same side instead of across from each other... sure it makes it more difficult to turn your head to make eye contact, but it's just nice to sit closer. I also enjoy when she sits by me in my truck instead of way way over there in the passenger seat.

Regardless, I could profess my love to her in public more often... I do this often, but most of the time she's not there to hear it (like this). Every girl likes to feel special, and I think most guys know this but don't often make it happen. I will make a point of following through with that... thank you. Now that people are thinking along these lines, what are some more ideas?

(Sorry BN, I did have a brother until I was 7, but no longer)
can I get an audio version please...it will be atl least three weeks til my eyeballs are able to read this many words...I hate school
 
Old 11-02-2009, 10:05 AM   #7
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This thread makes me happy to read. Things that are done for me which are VERY appreciated.

A cup of coffee brought to me in bed in the morning.. or simply ready for me when I'm up. Hand holding when we are out shopping. TALKING to me and sharing with me. Sitting next to me in a restaurant instead of across from me - even when it's just the two of us.

One I especially love.. when he knows I've had a full day.. He'll protect me from my own children. You will hear the word "Mom" a lot in my house and he'll simply say that I'm not available right now. Or he'll let me have some time to myself in my room.

Couch snuggling is by far my favorite.. so just taking time out for that. Random kisses and hugs.

Little notes or cards in the mail.

It's the little things. It's never anything that can be bought. They are gestures and they go SO far in making me feel loved and appreciated.
 
Old 11-03-2009, 09:33 AM   #8
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My best moment EVER was when me and my ex were driving down the highway...my favorite song came on and told him so...he pulled over in the pouring down rain, took me out of the car a slow danced with me along the interstate..shit, I will never forget that moment...cars drove by honking and cheering....something so simple yet so memorable.
Awesome...

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Do something simple to show the world how much you love her...I had a friend take Hershy kisses and trailed them from the driveway all the way through the house into the bedroom with a simple card that said "I kiss the ground you walk on", didn't hear from the bastard for four days apparantly she liked it
This is good, but pretty out of character for me... she would probably think I did something really bad and was apologizing in advance or something!

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Rose petals? Candles?
She's not very flowery... but the candles might be good! How should I incorporate them and into what?

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A cup of coffee brought to me in bed in the morning.. or simply ready for me when I'm up. Hand holding when we are out shopping. TALKING to me and sharing with me. Sitting next to me in a restaurant instead of across from me - even when it's just the two of us.
Coffee- check. Nearly everyday. When she drags me out shopping, she says, "It's your job to hold me." We try to remember things throughout the day to share when we get home... great ideas WB.

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Couch snuggling is by far my favorite.. so just taking time out for that. Random kisses and hugs.
This is really important I think... great reminder to me and everyone.

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Little notes or cards in the mail.
I haven't done this in a long time... I should write down how much I appreciate her and all she is doing in our world right now. I tell her, but sometimes it sinks in a little more when you have to stop and read it.

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It's the little things. It's never anything that can be bought. They are gestures and they go SO far in making me feel loved and appreciated.
This is exactly what I'm talking about!

I love it when she sits next to me in my truck
I love it when she wears a sundress just because I like it
I love that she will ride with me from time to time
I love it when she will take time and go with to support me at physical therapy because I was nervous.
I love it when she greets me at the door when I get home from work
I love it when she cooks so I have leftovers when she's not home in the evening
 
Old 11-03-2009, 09:53 AM   #9
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and always kiss me good night...even if I'm sleeping.
 
Old 11-08-2009, 03:31 PM   #10
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She has told me that she loves it when I play with her hair... what is it about that?
 
Old 11-08-2009, 04:10 PM   #11
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^^^its amazingly relaxing in a sensual way, women love it when a man likes there hair. Which is one of the reasons why mine is long and I love it when he runs his fingers through it.
 
Old 11-08-2009, 06:36 PM   #12
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Yes, girls love it!!!

Also grabing the crown of their head and pulling back....
 
Old 11-08-2009, 07:17 PM   #13
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^^ no I don't like that pulling the crown of the head thing.
 
Old 11-08-2009, 07:32 PM   #14
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^^
Well... Your weird
 
Old 11-08-2009, 08:11 PM   #15
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^^Why thank you, yes I am
 
Old 11-08-2009, 08:36 PM   #16
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^^ your Welcome anytime
 
Old 11-08-2009, 10:22 PM   #17
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Wow... I sincerely appreciate the feedback but I don't feel like I deserve all of your kind words, but thank you anyway. I guess she has me trained... To me this is very important stuff, because if it weren't her and I, most things in life wouldn't matter any more and I would really have to change directions. MrsD, I'm not sure how you know me so well from just the inet, you must have good intuition. I am very proud of my wife as she can do so many things I can't... she has my respect and admiration, which I don't hand out like candy.

These are great ideas, and I hope more are coming. As you think of things, just add them to this thread. I feel I can always improve and always try to show her I love her... that is a goal that can never be completely satisfied, only continued and it is high on my list. No matter how much I get caught up in work, etc. I should not neglect the things that are truly important.

I had to laugh a little, because many of the things stated so far I do already... things like when we go out to eat and sit in a booth, we'll both sit on the same side instead of across from each other... sure it makes it more difficult to turn your head to make eye contact, but it's just nice to sit closer. I also enjoy when she sits by me in my truck instead of way way over there in the passenger seat.

Regardless, I could profess my love to her in public more often... I do this often, but most of the time she's not there to hear it (like this). Every girl likes to feel special, and I think most guys know this but don't often make it happen. I will make a point of following through with that... thank you. Now that people are thinking along these lines, what are some more ideas?

(Sorry BN, I did have a brother until I was 7, but no longer)
guys like you aren't trained...it's just the way you are...a rarity. Sorry about the bro, dumb of me not to rembember. And how do me and LD know? Age. We have been around a few blocks and can tell if it's instinctive. Oh, the hair thing...shit...that is just HAWT...no, not Mikes hair thing, LD's hair thing. Woman just love it, we don't know why. My ex use to brush my hair after running me a bath..I was complete jello. So have you come up with anything yet? Keep us posted.
 
Old 11-08-2009, 11:54 PM   #18
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guys like you aren't trained...it's just the way you are...a rarity. Sorry about the bro, dumb of me not to rembember. And how do me and LD know? Age. We have been around a few blocks and can tell if it's instinctive. Oh, the hair thing...shit...that is just HAWT...no, not Mikes hair thing, LD's hair thing. Woman just love it, we don't know why. My ex use to brush my hair after running me a bath..I was complete jello. So have you come up with anything yet? Keep us posted.
Hey the last time I checked... I grabbed your hair and you didnt mind at all.....
 
Old 11-10-2009, 07:51 AM   #19
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guys like you aren't trained...it's just the way you are...a rarity. Sorry about the bro, dumb of me not to rembember. And how do me and LD know? Age. We have been around a few blocks and can tell if it's instinctive. Oh, the hair thing...shit...that is just HAWT...no, not Mikes hair thing, LD's hair thing. Woman just love it, we don't know why. My ex use to brush my hair after running me a bath..I was complete jello. So have you come up with anything yet? Keep us posted.
Thanks BN...

I bought her a T-shirt.




Actually I did, but there's more to it... My wife had a Great Dane when I met her... he died a couple years ago and it was really hard on her. We got a new Irish Wolfhound pup this year but didn't want to feel like we are "replacing" the Dane. So I went to Wisconsin for work and went to this pub called the Great Dane and bought her one of their T-shirts to remind her that we are not replacing him.

I did tell everyone at the Haloween party how proud I am of her. I think she was a little embarrassed but graciously said, "thank you".

Also I've been working on our house projects (her projects) with any spare time which she appreciates.

She has long hair too (for me) so maybe I should grab her brush and brush it next time we watch a movie or whatever. Good idea! The deal is, if she cuts her hair, I shave off my goatee... and she loves my goatee, so there you have it!

Any other suggestions?
 
Old 11-13-2009, 03:17 PM   #20
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She still loves me brushing her hair... I've never seen her sit still so long and be so well behaved! just kidding.

She said something to the effect that it makes her feel feminine and cared for...

maybe it goes back to the caveman days when they used to pick stuff out of each others hair (and eat it?). Regardless, this is a good idea to keep in mind guys.
 
Old 11-15-2009, 06:31 AM   #21
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Key word cared for we like to be cared for. I love it when Duane asks me on a date. Not the where do you want to eat...I don't care..What do you want to do today ..I don't know. But the hey do you want to go on a date with me Friday night and he plans where were going to eat and what were going to do. Keep in mind this only happens once in a blue moon( which happens in Dec. this year) but I sure love it when it does.
 
Old 11-17-2009, 07:44 AM   #22
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^^ noted. Thanks!
 
Old 12-08-2009, 01:17 PM   #23
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This morning it was 6F above at my house when I woke up. I am usually out the door on my way to work before my wife gets up since she works past midnight usually. So, since it was colder than a witch's titty, I started a fire in the fireplace and made/left her a pot'o coffee so when she got up she could sip her coffee on the couch by the fire (she is always cold).

She called me at work to thank me and told me it was great... I think I scored some points today!

Working on more Christmas presents tonight... making a table or something I guess. I guess we'll see!




Oh, btw I let her borrow my truck to haul gravel for our new front entry slab we are building... anyway, afterward she took my truck to the car wash and cleaned out the bed. Details, but I really thought that was nice.

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Old 12-08-2009, 02:09 PM   #24
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^^Sounds to me like you both scored points. I think I would skip the table thing and cuddle by the fire.
 
Old 12-09-2009, 08:19 AM   #25
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^^ That's how it is supposed to work right? I try very hard to reward good behavior so it might happen again someday.

My note to myself today is when you notice something that you appreciate- be darn sure you say something about it to that person so they know you recognized it.
 
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