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Old 12-26-2008, 08:52 PM   #1
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bike vs man

ladies, I need YOUR advice. I love my bike. I'd ride the bitch upstairs on a good day and put her in the bedroom. I am lucky enough to hook up with a racer. MY bike is shoved to the back of the garage. I went to do some maintenance on her and couldn't even get to my roll a way

My love is JUST as important as HIS and yet my passion is being pushed aside I'm just frustrated so posting like crazy Am I wrong?
 
Old 12-26-2008, 09:08 PM   #2
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Have you communicated this with him yet?
If yes, what did he respond?
Sometimes a good communication can solve this simple problem.
 
Old 12-26-2008, 09:13 PM   #3
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NO!!!!! I don't have a bike but I can tell you that your interests are just as important as his. NEVER let someone push aside your feeling, interests, goals etc. Those things/qualities are what make you YOU. And if he really wants to be with you then your interests etc will be just as important to him as they are to you. You have a very valid feeling where this is concerned and you need to make sure he knows where you stand now before it is too late to fix the problem.
 
Old 12-26-2008, 09:32 PM   #4
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Well, why does it have to be man vs bike? it sounds like a battle where there's gonna be a winner and a loser.

If he's acting like a jackass and not respecting your passion for 2 wheels, yeah, I'd say dump him.

But let's say the situation is different where he's gonna be racing this weekend where he's gonna need the whole garage space for preping his bike. Would you still yell at him and not support him?

So, I'd definately try to get a win win situation where you need your man and him respecting your passion for your bike. I hope the problem can be resolved with a simple good communication. I wouldn't want you to lose either one if he is a good man / keeper.
 
Old 12-27-2008, 12:29 PM   #5
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ladies, I need YOUR advice. I love my bike. I'd ride the bitch upstairs on a good day and put her in the bedroom. I am lucky enough to hook up with a racer. MY bike is shoved to the back of the garage. I went to do some maintenance on her and couldn't even get to my roll a way

My love is JUST as important as HIS and yet my passion is being pushed aside I'm just frustrated so posting like crazy Am I wrong?
So here's what you do Dorian.. When he's going for a day you have one of your FEMALE friends over to give you a hand.. and we roll ALL the bikes out of the garage and put HIS bikes towards the back/side.. then we go out and buy a strip of red carpet (MUST BE RED) and we put in dead center in the garage then park your bike on it. Then we let it be known that his stuff is to NEVER be on the Red Carpet.. We just need to make sure that it's big enough to allow you space around it and access to the garage door.

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NO!!!!! I don't have a bike but I can tell you that your interests are just as important as his. NEVER let someone push aside your feeling, interests, goals etc. Those things/qualities are what make you YOU. And if he really wants to be with you then your interests etc will be just as important to him as they are to you. You have a very valid feeling where this is concerned and you need to make sure he knows where you stand now before it is too late to fix the problem.
WELL said Miss Annette!!! I gave up my passions/interests when I got married.. and embraced everything my husband did.. such as racing. And then guess what.. I had an identity crisis! All of a sudden I was a wife and a mom.. but nothing else.. You know that section in myspace where you list your interests....I had nothing of my own to put there!!! I've been seperated from my husband for nearly two years now and I'm still trying to figure out 'my interests'.
 
Old 12-27-2008, 12:51 PM   #6
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Well let see here I think he is a man and men do not THINK that a female is into there bikes as they are. This is a MAN HOBBY and I feel he may have over looked your interest and level of passion not intentional. I would say that you need to in a very nice non threating manner communicate your level of interest to him. Just state something like. Hey hun I really would like to be able to work on my bike today is there any way we can re-arrange the bikes to were we can both get around and work on the loves of our lives together!! I could really use your help and advice on some things.

This places the language as together and needing help. A man is less hostile when it comes across with the terms of together and needing help. Then you do not sound like you are "bitching".

Hope you communicate this to him men need a little light shining on them to those things they are just not aware like females are it is not there fault don't judge...LOL just work with it!

Good luck let us know what you do and the out come..
 
Old 12-27-2008, 12:55 PM   #7
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^^ Screw that.. Tell him to move the bikes by xx time or he'll be sleeping with them!!
 
Old 12-27-2008, 01:06 PM   #8
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^^ Screw that.. Tell him to move the bikes by xx time or he'll be sleeping with them!!


Could not have said it better myself.....
 
Old 12-27-2008, 02:49 PM   #9
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thanks guys! I guess posting about it really helped I let him know I kind of felt like my baby was being pushed aside. He did explain that when he moved in we had a short amount of time to do it, so we didn't have the luxery of 'organizing' bikes. I do feel better about talking about it. Which only brought up ANOTHER problem. I want to paint my body work in the spring. He doesn't want me doing it in the garage around his bikes I can understand that but wtf? I can't even use my own garage now I do like the red carpet idea! I just feel really frustrated I always wanted lots of bikes in my garage but now I have them and can't use it!! Thanks again, it felt pretty good to vent.

oh and Sarah, if I ever want to break up with him, all I'd have to do it move one of his bikes He'd shit his pants

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Old 12-27-2008, 09:05 PM   #10
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wow this is why I am glad that I am single I do not have to share my space...the things we give up for love...
 
Old 12-28-2008, 12:13 AM   #11
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Glad you two worked it out... As far as painting in your garage, being a paint guy... Sorry i`m with him, I would hate to have over spray on my bikes/cars/ or what else...

But make the point about covering things up..
 
Old 12-28-2008, 12:16 PM   #12
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Cool

Like I said in other threads, either work it out or quit.
Most people quit for some reason.
It's all about making compromises in a relationship I tell ya.
If it doesn't work, I guess you can always keep looking for the "right one/mr right/etc".
But until when? The clock is ticking no?

PS: We also have a thread on relationship mistakes, and one big reason was poor communication.
 
Old 12-28-2008, 12:58 PM   #13
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Like I said in other threads, either work it out or quit.
Most people quit for some reason.
It's all about making compromises in a relationship I tell ya.
If it doesn't work, I guess you can always keep looking for the "right one/mr right/etc".
But until when? The clock is ticking no?

PS: We also have a thread on relationship mistakes, and one big reason was poor communication.
I would never let something like 'garage' space make or break my relationship. I'm smart enough to know what battles to choose. I was just venting. I"ve found Mr. Right. Doesn't mean I don't get frustrated as I'm sure he does also at times

And I don't feel like I"ve given up anything. That is the wrong attitude to have in a relationship. It's about compromise. If you are in a relationship and feel you have given up things, you are probably better off single.
 
Old 12-28-2008, 07:09 PM   #14
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I would never let something like 'garage' space make or break my relationship. I'm smart enough to know what battles to choose. I was just venting. I"ve found Mr. Right. Doesn't mean I don't get frustrated as I'm sure he does also at times

And I don't feel like I"ve given up anything. That is the wrong attitude to have in a relationship. It's about compromise. If you are in a relationship and feel you have given up things, you are probably better off single.
What you don't give it up
 
Old 12-29-2008, 07:11 AM   #15
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What you don't give it up
smartass
 
Old 12-29-2008, 07:45 AM   #16
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wow this is why I am glad that I am single I do not have to share my space...the things we give up for love...
For most guys there's only one space we want you to share with us, hell, as far as the house goes you can have the whole damn thing
 
Old 12-29-2008, 11:15 AM   #17
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Three words: Talk about it.
 
Old 12-29-2008, 04:38 PM   #18
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Three words: Talk about it.
we did, didn't you read that part

I guess I have to take the good with the bad. God forbid if we ever come into 'some' money. You KNOW my bike and buying another one would be my first priority. Just like his would be new race engines

I guess I need to look at it this way....I'll never have to ask for help on my bike
 
Old 12-29-2008, 04:43 PM   #19
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we did, didn't you read that part

I guess I have to take the good with the bad. God forbid if we ever come into 'some' money. You KNOW my bike and buying another one would be my first priority. Just like his would be new race engines

I guess I need to look at it this way....I'll never have to ask for help on my bike
That's it.. I'm garaging my bike at your place next winter!
 
Old 12-30-2008, 11:47 AM   #20
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wait...are you -or- have you been riding it? this is pretty simple....ridden bikes and bikes being work on regularly to the front of the line (so they can get out)...bikes not being ridden or worked on regularly, back of the line. Done.
 
Old 12-30-2008, 08:06 PM   #21
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That's it.. I'm garaging my bike at your place next winter!
sad panda your hot and I'm not....something tells me the smurf would get the red carpet treament

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wait...are you -or- have you been riding it? this is pretty simple....ridden bikes and bikes being work on regularly to the front of the line (so they can get out)...bikes not being ridden or worked on regularly, back of the line. Done.
I hate you Granted, I'm not out riding in the snow and had some 'finacial' and 'legal' things to overcome but he only races frome April to Octo...nevermind Actually, I'm gunna choose my battles and looking for a place to do my body work and work on her this spring If I gotta compromise my bike space for his passion, I will do it with glee.
 
Old 07-22-2009, 04:30 PM   #22
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I care less about relationships when I have a full garage. Bikes will come and go, but there will always be another bike. significant others... not so much of a guarantee

Choice between a girlfriend and the bike..... I wouldnt even let the Jeapordy theme song end, if you are giving me an ultimatum; pack your bags, the bike was here before you, it is here now in spite of you, and it will be here long after you are gone. Bike, Final Anser.
(now if you really knew me, and really loved me, you would know better than to ever ask such a silly outlandish thing)

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