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Old 12-01-2008, 12:51 PM   #1
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How do you deal with someone that starts stringing you along?

you go out on date or whatever you want to call and they say to call them next weekend, and you do, but they don't answer or return your call.

so you text them later in the week to see if they're still alive, and you get a response to that saying they're busy at the moment.

next week they send you a text apologizing for being busy all week.


what do you do in a situation like this? do you call them out on it or do you just ignore their existence and move on with life?
 
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Old 12-01-2008, 12:53 PM   #2
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Drop it, and move on. Calling them out on it will just give the appearance of being crazy, and really its not going to do anything for you. Especially if it was just one date...if you were "dating" persay, I would however call them on it, get their response and then move on. I don't have time for shit like that.
 
Old 12-01-2008, 01:10 PM   #3
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cut the strings
 
Old 12-01-2008, 01:56 PM   #4
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Um.. sometimes people are actually just really busy. I know for me.. if it's someone I've only been out with once.. if I'm busy, then they aren't necessarily a priority to me. Guess you just need to go with what ever your gut is telling you.
 
Old 12-01-2008, 02:05 PM   #5
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Um.. sometimes people are actually just really busy. I know for me.. if it's someone I've only been out with once.. if I'm busy, then they aren't necessarily a priority to me. Guess you just need to go with what ever your gut is telling you.
True, but if it's someone you are truely interested in...I would imagine, you being the sweet gal that you are, you would take two minutes to talk with them, as I would if I were truely interested.

If not, it's more like meh...no biggie. I could be wrong tho, it's happened once
 
Old 12-01-2008, 02:05 PM   #6
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So many people. So short a time. Cut and move on. As Sarah said some people are very busy and you're not a priority. There is nothing wrong with that it's just not meant to be.
 
Old 12-01-2008, 02:15 PM   #7
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...some people are very busy and you're not a priority. There is nothing wrong with that it's just not meant to be.
Good point. If they are that busy then maybe they aren't at a place in their lives where they should be dating..
 
Old 12-01-2008, 02:18 PM   #8
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you go out on date or whatever you want to call and they say to call them next weekend, and you do, but they don't answer or return your call.

so you text them later in the week to see if they're still alive, and you get a response to that saying they're busy at the moment.

next week they send you a text apologizing for being busy all week.


what do you do in a situation like this? do you call them out on it or do you just ignore their existence and move on with life?
Move on. There are other fish to spike that aren't in such deep waters -- unless you know enough about them that they truely are busy. Doctors, Lawyers, Mid to high level accountants, business people, etc may actually be busy.
 
Old 12-01-2008, 02:19 PM   #9
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And MOMS! Don't forget about moms!!!
 
Old 12-01-2008, 02:32 PM   #10
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if you have them as a friend on a social networking site, do you go so far as to delete them?
 
Old 12-01-2008, 02:52 PM   #11
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if you have them as a friend on a social networking site, do you go so far as to delete them?
I wouldn't bother.
 
Old 12-01-2008, 04:07 PM   #12
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I wouldn't bother.
 
Old 12-01-2008, 04:50 PM   #13
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if you have them as a friend on a social networking site, do you go so far as to delete them?

so who's getting the 'axe'

don't bother. Why waste your time, if only to make a point to them. And I do take into consideration that people ARE busy. But I at least call or text my buds and let them know, I am just really busy.
 
Old 12-01-2008, 04:57 PM   #14
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the person in question, may actually have a busy schedule, but sure as hell sends mixed signals.

the 'i'm busy text' was not followed by any other text's or calls that day to follow up with me on anything

the sorry for being busy all week text did not mention being open the following week to do anything.

i asked them if they wanted to go to a friends party with me, later that week, they said they would, but they said they were gonna be out of town. so i asked if they wanted to get drinks/coffee before they left town, and got no reply.

i'm pretty much done with this person, but i'm sure i'll encounter the same time again down the road. wondering if i should handle it differently next time.
 
Old 12-01-2008, 05:38 PM   #15
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Busy or not if this person was interested, you would have been treated with a little more respect. Move on. I would not delete her, you do not have to correspond unless you would like to if she figures she lost out and looks you up. Likely you will run into this again and again, just move on quietly. Why waste your energy. Spend it on the next, who may show intrest. At some point down the road of being a busy and saught after individual, those that were not interested may come knocking. Whether or not you choose to give them the time of day at this point is then your choice. Don't chase those that run, thats just a game.
 
Old 12-01-2008, 05:50 PM   #16
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Old 12-01-2008, 07:15 PM   #17
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Drop it, and move on.
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cut the strings
Bingo to both of these.
 
Old 12-01-2008, 11:06 PM   #18
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Right on!! to all of the above....I have to say that if the female was busy she would have gotten back to you sooner. She sent you the "i'm sorry" text because she felt guilty of blowing you off but by her follow up actions of no response means she is not interested right now is not a good time in her life for dating as she thought it was or just plan not interested. Cut the string move on stay friends that is cool do not delete connections because one connection leads to another and your social networking comes around and back again with roads that lead to other round abouts.

Don't completely burn your bridge you may need to walk a small board to get to the other side.
 
Old 12-02-2008, 06:41 AM   #19
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The truth is despite how busy a person gets if they are interested in you then you will be on their mind. So, in spite of how busy they get they will take a minute to communicate with you and say hi etc.

I have gone through exactly what you are going through so many times this year. At first I wondered what the hell I was doing wrong then I came to the conclusion that it wasn't me.....the truth is while this world would be a perfect place if everyone we click with clicks with us.....this world is far from perfect. Unfortuneately, some people don't have the balls to just come out and say "hey. while I enjoyed your company I am just not interested in you etc." So, they choose to play this game hoping you get the point and stop contacting them. I hate games!!!!
 
Old 07-25-2009, 01:00 AM   #20
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She aint into you the way you like her, move on. Or you could pine for her for a decade and hope that if you are just 'nice' enough she will come to see the err of her ways and quit being soo buzy just to dote on your everyword.....
 
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